#024: How to Become a Happy Person Others Want to Be Around [Podcast]

In this episode, I discuss the seven steps necessary to becoming the kind of happy person others want to be around. This is a topic that has intrigued me for a long time. I’ve noticed that there are at least two kinds of people: those who are positive and attract people and those who are negative and repel people.

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Several months ago, my wife, Gail, and I attended an industry mixer at a conference where I was speaking. Almost immediately, I was cornered by an author who proceeded to complain about all the incompetent people in his life.

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He grumbled about his literary agent, his booking agent, and his publisher. No one, it seems, measured up to his standards. I tried to change the subject, but he persisted.

The conversation made me feel very uncomfortable. I finally had enough and excused myself. I felt a little rude, but I didn’t want to steep in his brew of negativity.

As I thought about this, I realized how destructive complaining about others is. My author friend didn’t make me think less of the people he grumbled about; it made me think less of him.

Complaining about others has the potential to hurt you in four specific ways:

  • It trains your brain. I remember when I bought my first Lexus. I never really noticed Lexus cars before. But suddenly, they seemed to be everywhere. This demonstrates the principle that you see more of what you notice. If you focus on people’s faults, you will find even more of them.
  • It makes you miserable. My author friend was not happy. His humor was biting and sarcastic. He seemed entitled and discontent. His attitude was highly toxic—which was why I felt the need to get away from him. He was contagious!
  • People pull away. One of the consequences of complaining is that healthy people don’t want to hang around you. They avoid you. As a result, you miss scores of great opportunities, both social and business ones.
  • People don’t trust you. This is perhaps the saddest consequence of all. As my friend was complaining about others, I began to wonder, What does he say about me when I am not around. I then instinctively thought, I don’t trust him.

After I left the presence of my negative friend, I bumped into an agent friend, who is one of the most positive, encouraging people I know. He told me about all the great things happening in his life and business.

Whenever he mentioned someone’s name, he raved about them. He exuded gratitude. I didn’t want to leave his presence. It was like balm to my soul.

My second friend was such a contrast to the first, it made me realize these are two entirely different mindsets and approaches to life. The good news is that if you are a negative person, you don’t have to stay that way.

Here are seven steps to reversing this pattern and becoming a happy person others trust and want to be around:

  1. Become self-aware. Are you a negative person? Do you tend to see the glass half empty or half full? If you are in doubt, ask your spouse or a close friend for candid feedback. Negativity is costing you more than you know. Frankly, it’s like having bad breath or b.o.
  2. Assess your needs. What need are you attempting to meet by complaining? Perhaps the need for connection? Maybe a need for significance? Are there better, more healthy ways to meet these needs?
  3. Decide to change. Complaining is a habit. And like all bad habits, change begins when you own your behavior and make a decision to change. It doesn’t have to be a long, drawn out process. It will take conscious effort at first, but it will become automatic over time. You can start today.
  4. Shift your identity. The most powerful change happens when we modify our identity. When I declared myself an athlete, daily exercise suddenly became easier. What if you said to yourself, I am a positive, encouraging person? How would your behavior change?
  5. Greet others with a smile. According to health expert Ron Gutman, “smiling can help reduce the level of stress-enhancing hormones like cortisol, adrenaline, and dopamine, and increase the level of mood-enhancing hormones like endorphins.” While smiling has this impact on you, it also has a similar impact on others. This is one reason they unconsciously want to be around you.
  6. Catch them doing something right. The corollary to the principle “you see more of what you notice” is “you get more of what you notice.” If you catch people doing what is right and complement them for it, guess what happens? They start doing more of it. This is not manipulation; it is influence. It too is contagious.
  7. Speak well of others. I’m not saying you shouldn’t deal with bad behavior by confronting it. I’m saying you should deal directly with the people involved rather than complaining about it to those who are neither part of the problem nor part of the solution. Your mama’s advice was right: “If you don’t have something positive to say, don’t say anything at all.”

While complaining about others may hurt them, ultimately it hurts you the worst. By becoming more aware and more intentional, you can become a person others seek out and want to be around.

Listener Questions

  1. Alex Barker asked, “How can you encourage someone who is very negative but who is also very defensive when you suggest how they can become more positive.”
  2. Dana Byers asked, “What do you do when you find yourself on a team or committee when they are negative on new ideas?”
  3. G.D. Lengacher asked, “How can I help people who have just gone through a divorce and be positive and upbeat and at the same time keep from being drawn into the negativity?”
  4. Lori Lara asked, “As someone who is recovering from depression, I had to process negativity. How do you make the distinction between fake happiness and true joy.”
  5. Mark Riggins asked, “What are some practical ways you refer to a negative events in your past without getting bogged down in negativity?”

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  • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

    Sounds like an excellent podcast Michael. Can’t wait to hear it!

    Of your steps listed, I could do a much better job of catching people doing something right and letting them know it. 

    • http://twitter.com/Ladiesgofirst NurseFrugal

       I once heard that if you two out of these three things, people are far more likely to want to work with you:
      1. Show up to work on time.
      2. Be pleasant to work with.
      3. Do your work.
      That easy!!!!

  • http://blog.cyberquill.com/ Cyberquill

    I’d say I repel most people. Based on my Google Analytics numbers and the level of engagement in my comment section, even my blog, being an extension of myself, appears to exude this repulsive energy, so it can’t be the fact that I tend to ingest plenty of garlic.  And no matter how active I am on Facebook and Twitter, my number of friends and followers has plateaued at a fairly modest number a long time ago. 

    And if “repulsive” is too strong a word,  at least nothing about who I am or what I do seems to exert much of an attractive force on others in general.

    Some people (including some who strike me as psychologically sound), however, insist that they appreciate me very much precisely because of who and how I am, which is no doubt defined by a certain degree of disinterest in modifying my ways for the sake of making friends. Better to lose a friend than to pass on a goofy remark.

    So as per the old saying that “truth is not determined by a show of hands,” I’m wondering if it’s necessarily a good thing to try and change one’s ways in order to jack up one’s general popularity in the sense of making more people want to be around one, as one may end up a wishy-washy neither-here-nor-there kind of individual that, in the end, no one finds particularly appealing.

    • http://www.alslead.com/ Dave Anderson

      I believe the truth can be told without repelling people.  The strength of the message doesn’t have to change.  Though I do have to be diligent to insure it stays strong. 

      If I want to be heard, then I try to modify the delivery so people will listen.  If I just want to speak, then the delivery doesn’t matter.

      • Jim Martin

        Dave, I like the simple way you express this in your second paragraph.  At some point, I need to consider if I really want to be heard or I just want to speak.  Two very different objectives.

      • http://lesdossey.com/ Les Dossey

        I don’t know Dave, Christ repelled plenty of people exposing their lies to the light of truth. The distinction is that he repelled only the ones he could not have pleased without compromising his integrity or holiness. 

        • http://www.alslead.com/ Dave Anderson

          I like your distinction.  Know what your goal is with each person and don’t compromise your integrity or your walk with Christ.

    • http://michaelhyatt.com/ Michael Hyatt

      It all depends on your goal. If you want to influence others and have a positive impact on their lives, that requires that they like you. That necessitates becoming more likable without becoming something you are not. It is finding those best parts of your personality and feeding those. Thanks.

      • http://blog.cyberquill.com/ Cyberquill

        I understand. The conundrum sets in when precisely those best parts of one’s personality that are appreciated by — and perhaps even influence and have a positive impact on — some people are the very parts that alienate most people.

    • http://lesdossey.com/ Les Dossey

      You are in good company. Christ repelled plenty of people he just knew which ones to repel and which ones to attract. Maybe that’s where the work needs to be done to grow your audience, defining and targeting your tribe. 

  • http://www.alslead.com/ Dave Anderson

    Three quotes come to mind:

    1.  “The only time a pessimist is an optimist is when they call themselves a realist.” -Me
    2.  “Start by finding 1 reason an idea will work versus 3 reasons it won’t.” – My former battalion commander.
    3.  “Your attitude is a choice.  Make a different choice.”  -My dad.  I blogged on this one:
    http://andersonleadershipsolutions.com/your-attitude-is-a-choice-make-a-different-choice/

    • http://michaelhyatt.com/ Michael Hyatt

      Those are three great quotes—each blog-worthy.

    • http://www.MicheleCushatt.com/ Michele Cushatt

       I think your dad’s quote is my fave. Well said.

  • http://twitter.com/SteveBorek Business Coach Steve

    Be a great listener. Not just on the surface level. Go a few levels deeper and listen to what’s being said and what’s not being said.  As a coach that works with business people, this comes naturally for me. Others have to work on it.

  • http://successbeginstoday.org/wordpress John Richardson

    Negativity is like having the blue flu. It’s very contagious. While a shot of positivity can help, the best way to prevent the blue flu is not to get it in the first place. This simply means not hanging around people who have it.

    • http://michaelhyatt.com/ Michael Hyatt

      Great metaphor, John. Thanks.

  • Cindy Sproles

    Excellent words. Happiness is a decision. Whether we choose it or not effects everyone.

    • http://michaelhyatt.com/ Michael Hyatt

      That reminds me of a book that came out years ago called, Happiness Is a Choice. It is an excellent book.

    • http://insideamothersmind.com/ Thuy Yau

      Wise words, Cindy! So true!

  • http://keikihendrix.com/ Keiki Hendrix

    Loved the comment… “Negativity is costing you more than you know. Frankly, it’s like having bad breath or b.o.”  It’s so true. Thanks for this reminder. I’ll be keeping a check on this in my own life.

    • http://www.MicheleCushatt.com/ Michele Cushatt

      Loved that comment, too. The comparison definitely inspires me to avoid negativity!

    • Jim Martin

      I liked this too.  The comparison is memorable!

    • http://theordainedbarista.com/ Barry Hill

       Yes, that jumped out to me! That and asking your spouse in what areas, situations, around what people, I tend to be negative—not sure I am ready for the answer!

  • Greg Blencoe

    Michael,

    Thanks for the post.  It’s a great reminder of the benefits of being positive as much as possible.

    I’ve learned over the years that one of the most important parts of a successful life is looking at the glass as half full instead of half empty.  This mindset can totally transform our lives.

    In every situation that we are in, we have a choice.  We can choose to look at it in a positive or a negative way.

    The example that often comes to mind is growing up in an environment where you don’t have many opportunities.  Your whole life, you could complain about how you were born into an unlucky situation.  On the other hand, you could view this as a huge blessing.  This environment can make you really motivated and hungry to succeed.  And it can make you appreciate lots of things that others might be taking for granted.

    It certainly takes discipline to be positive rather than negative.  But it’s totally worth it.

    Now when I’m negative, I usually catch myself being that way much more quickly than before.  And I try to remind myself that I have a choice which typically results in a shift away from being negative.

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  • http://twitter.com/jryan48 Jim Ryan

    You might have mentioned this before, but exercise makes me happy. Particularly high cardio work.

    • http://michaelhyatt.com/ Michael Hyatt

      Me too.

    • http://theordainedbarista.com/ Barry Hill

       Jim,
      Cardio makes me happy too—when I am finished! :)

  • http://www.wevival.com/ Jason Stambaugh

    I think we need to make sure the candidates in the 2012 Presidential Election listen to this podcast…

    • http://michaelhyatt.com/ Michael Hyatt

      Isn’t that the truth. So negative.

      • Debra Ross

         I’ve always thought it would make a fascinating and positive addition to a campaign if the challenger were to make a point of publicly commenting on all of the things he thinks the incumbent has done RIGHT. I think it would reflect REALLY well on the incumbent and only help him in his campaign. I’d love to hear whether the rest of you think this is realistic.

  • http://www.reasonredefined.com/ Dylan Dodson

    “Speak well of others.” This is something I want to do better/more consistently.

    • http://www.MicheleCushatt.com/ Michele Cushatt

      Me, too. It’s powerful to consider that anytime we speak ill of others, it breaks trust with the person we’re talking to. Makes us look bad, not necessarily the person we’re talking about.

  • http://jonstolpe.com/ Jon Stolpe

    I’m looking forward to listening to this one.  I think I can do a better job speaking well of others.  For me, this also means standing up for my team when others speak negatively about them.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

       It’s a good one Jon. Michael lays out valid reasons on why we shouldn’t complain and how to correct and avoid it.

  • Katy

    One thing I can do today to be a more positive person is to have someone to hold me accountable!  In fact, during the podcast, I was inspired to email one of my closest friends to request that very thing.

    Loving your podcasts!

    • Jim Martin

      Good for you Katy!  I’m impressed that you contacted your friend immediately.

    • http://theordainedbarista.com/ Barry Hill

       Well done, Katy!

  • Groovychick

    I’ve been asking God a long time to show me why the number of friends I have has always been very limited, why I lose friends, and why my blog is not what I’d call successful vs. other blogs when I know their writing is not as good.  And these aren’t questions anybody would really feel comfortable answering in real life.  I have a lot of past and present pain and that’s how I see myself–a person in pain.  I’m sure I wear that identity more than I realize.  I really appreciate that you’ve articulated this topic so well.  Definitely gives me more to pray about and work on.  God bless. 

    • http://lesdossey.com/ Les Dossey

      Way to go Groovychick God can work with that!

  • Beckybrettcaldwell

    Thank you for your great answer to the question about negative committees! I have a couple of important committee meetings next week, and now I know how to prepare them mentally to be open to what I have to recommend. 

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

       Glad to hear that this podcast will help you in your future meetings! What takeaway do you think will be most valuable in the meetings?

  • Alex Price

    Great pod cast that added value to my day it seems that old saying birds of a feather flock together fits here by have postive people in your inner circle.

  • http://www.MicheleCushatt.com/ Michele Cushatt

    Great podcast. With potential for immediate application, which I love! I think I want to focus on being more other-focused. When I’m negative or complaining, usually it’s because I’ve turned inward, made the day all about me. When I stop and see the other person, imagine their world and ask questions, it quickly diffuses any tendency toward negativity. The short answer? I want to focus on being an encourager today.

  • Noah Fleming

    Great podcast Michael. I love that you share the transcript. Keeping it simple.

  • http://www.WinningAtRomance.com GinaParris

    It always amazed me in high school & college how I could be having the WORST day but because I was a cheerleader- forced to smile, jump around and encourage those athletes, that game day was ALWAYS a mood transformer. Today I can still “cheer” for those around me, or even encourage that girl in the mirror. YOU CAN DO IT!

  • http://twitter.com/tyeagerwrites Tina Yeager

    As a Christian counselor, I’ll underscore what a valuable post you’ve crafted. Many people don’t see their own impact upon the social dynamics they’ve experienced, nor do they realize they have an opportunity to change them. Thanks for offering these practical steps. I see such potential benefit for a multitude of people that I’m posting a link to this on my professional facebook page and tweeting it.

  • http://twitter.com/tyeagerwrites Tina Yeager

    As a Christian counselor, I’ll underscore what a valuable post you’ve crafted. Many people don’t see their own impact upon the social dynamics they’ve experienced, nor do they realize they have an opportunity to change them. Thanks for offering these practical steps. I see such potential benefit for a multitude of people that I’m posting a link to this on my professional facebook page and tweeting it.

  • Ken Davis

    Mike,

    It’s funny or maybe unfunny that a comedian / inspirational speaker and man of faith can quickly find himself treading the stagnant water of negativity.  Thank you for this post.  It opened my eyes to the fact that such a person might exist and could benefit from your advise.  Although I have no idea of who it might be.

    Anonymous

    • http://michaelhyatt.com/ Michael Hyatt

      I’ll never tell! Thanks for commenting.

  • http://toomanymeds.com/ Alex Barker

    Thanks Mike for answering my question! Great podcast! It reminds me of a great quote:

    “Don’t complain, criticize, or condemn” -Dale Carnegie

    It’s hard to be negative if you’re doing what Dale says!

  • Jim Martin

    Mike, I really like this podcast!  I need to hear this.  This is something that I have to stay on top of.  I find that if I am not careful, I can get around a complaining person or two and then begin to think that way as well.  Grateful for these steps.  Thanks.

  • Jim Martin

    Greg, you have made such an important point here.  You are so right.  So often people mirror how we act toward them.  (Which, if I do not like the way people are responding, I may need to first look at my own behavior toward them.) 

  • http://talesofwork.com/ kimanzi constable

    This was an excellent episdode Michael and one I needed. I’m not naturally a people person and sometimes come off as cranky, there was a lot in here I can use.

    • http://michaelhyatt.com/ Michael Hyatt

      Thanks, Kimanzi.

  • http://www.michaelgholmes.com/ Mike Holmes

    I read this article on Inc about complainers being bad for the brain: http://www.inc.com/minda-zetlin/listening-to-complainers-is-bad-for-your-brain.html It blew me away. Personally, I have been intentionally working to keep complainers from and happy people near me. 

    I also remember T. Harv Eker saying that complaining is like being a “crap magnet.” It’s crude…but it is true.

    Great post Mike!

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      Mike, I can see how Eker’s statement can be true. We often attract others who are like us. 

  • Strarlitsky

    Excellent topic, complaining can just become a habit, keep up good thoughts

  • http://christopherbattles.net/ Christopher Battles

    This is wonderful.  I want to send this to specific people on Facebook ;) Ha
    It is so true about the people who will be around you.  I have cut back on my complaining and realized how much I did.  Another I realize is the few complainers I know they are avoided and you have to interact with them with our shields up and can only do it so long until they start to wear you down a bit.  They drain you. (I am complaining about complainers here…)
    Wonderful show though.  Really reminded me of some of the things in How to Win Friends and Influence People.
    Thank you Michael. 

    K, bye

  • Groovychick

    I’d like to say this, too, about dealing with people who are complainers.  While we can work on not being complainers ourselves, there will always be complainers and I think there’s a godly and compassionate way to deal with them.  Not everyone will have the strength and grace to do it, but God may call some of us who have been there, who have had very difficult lives or may have dealt with chronic depression, to look past the negativity in others to see that inside they may be in deep pain, and their negativity may be a way of waving their arms and saying, “I’m hurting and I need someone to love me.” 

    Jesus is near to the broken-hearted and I believe He is our example.  I don’t think that means we have to constantly subject ourselves to the negativity in others, but I do think that instead of always looking for a way out of those situations or relationships, we can be senstive to the leading of the Holy Spirit in how He’d like us to handle it.  Maybe they don’t know Jesus at all.  Maybe they do and they’re having a hard time healing from past pain because all they know is constant rejection.  Sometimes it just takes one person who’s strong enough and has enough compassion to be a friend, to show them they are loveable and to pray with them for healing or for their salvation. 

    • http://michaelhyatt.com/ Michael Hyatt

      This is a great point. Thanks.

    • http://lesdossey.com/ Les Dossey

      truth

  • http://twitter.com/salyris Salyris Studios

    Have an attitude of gratitude! :-)

  • Katie

    “Complaining about others has the potential to hurt you…” This made me think about complaining in a new way, as destructive and almost as a form of self-abuse. Although I’ve known negativity is exactly that way, I don’t think I’ve ever really thought about it before. It was kind of an eye-opener!

  • http://www.thadthoughts.com/ Thad Puckett

    Such wisdom here.  I think I tend to overlook what I “train my brain” to look for.  I know that my “self-talk” can spiral me downward if not kept positive.  Great advice, Michael!

  • http://theordainedbarista.com/ Barry Hill

    Michael,
    Great episode. I really like how you compared a bad attitude to someone who had B.O. or bad breath—great analogy.

    As to you your question at the end of the podcast, “what can you do to be the person others want to be around?”

    I try to remember something about people each time I talk to them: Name, what they have been up to, how their vacation was—and so on. It shows that I have been listening to them and that I care.

    • http://michaelhyatt.com/ Michael Hyatt

      Thanks, Barry. Your last paragraph is excellent advice. Thanks.

  • http://stuartloe.com Stuart Loe

    Michael, I just took the Stregthsfinder 2.0 online assessment, per a previous Hyatt post, and one of the talent themes it identified was positivity.  Does positive thinking come more naturally to some people?  It certainly seems like it.  If you apply the basic “Focus on Strengths, Manage around Weaknesses” idea, then that would say if Positivity is not one of your strengths, don’t try and make it a strength.  That would seem to contradict the idea behind this post.

    What are your thoughts?

    • http://michaelhyatt.com/ Michael Hyatt

      Yes, it definitely comes more naturally to some folks. My wife’s top strength is Positivity. But it is also an attitude. In this, we can get better. It’s a habit.

  • http://twitter.com/HMSJames James Horton

    Excellent advice!  As with so many things our attitude in how we approach things is what sets the tone for it all.

    If we go at the day with a positive attitude and a heart full of hope – most days go that way.  As you point out – so it is with people as well!

    Myself – in answer to your question – I want to work on my presumptions about people I see day to day.  Some people I see I immediately think “Oh lord, not . . . . (insert name)”

    This sets the tone for my dealings with that person – focusing on a positive approach should definitely improve the outcome!

  • http://paulwilkinson.wordpress.com/ Paul Wilkinson

    I am trying to remember to ask negative people to give an example of a person / organization / system / situation that they *like*.  “So, what would be an example of someone who is doing it right?”  “What would it look like to be doing that more effectively?” It either turns things around abruptly, or instead of me walking away, they walk away.

    I know I’m at my best when I am passionately cheer-leading, endorsing, encouraging, or celebrating some person or cause positively, than complaining.

    • http://michaelhyatt.com/ Michael Hyatt

      That is a fantastic question!

  • http://twitter.com/LMarni Marni Gallerneault

    This is great advice and an eye-opener. I let myself give in to negativity more often than I’d like to. I keep being drawn to the idea of how can I help people instead of thinking how are they helping me; that’s my change of mindset! With it, I can’t help but see people in a more compassionate and understanding light.

  • Linda Goodman

    As a “glass half-empty” person, I can totally relate! This has inspired me to think about my negativity and the effect it has on others. You are so right – negativity does train your brain to always go there almost automatically. Thank you for this excellent post!

  • http://twitter.com/LisaColonDelay Lisa Colón DeLay

    I think sometimes our biggest lessons on effective leadership come from failures…from ourselves of course, but plenty of times through the lessons inept leaders have taught us.

    So many of this speaks to maturity…emotionally, spiritually, and interpersonally. I think a great many of you (who lead and blog) would be amazing contributors to the 

    September 10-14 Leadership Synchroblog that asks:  “What makes a Good Leader?” 

    Details are here if you are interested: http://www.evangelical.edu/deeper-leader-blog/Share what you know and we’ll all be richer for it!

  • katya345

    People are always telling you to be yourself.  Well what if yourself does not conform to what you mention here?  In my case, it doesn’t.  I don’t repel people, just attract people who are more like me.  Deeper, more thoughtful, less fake.

  • anonymous

    One poster suggested we avoid negative people. 
     If the person with the “cup almost empty” is your own child, you still, of course, would  hang  around with them.   One of our kids has special needs including Aspergers and it’s very common, with this diagnosis, to be predisposed to taking a negative view of situations and appear extremely selfish due to enormous challenges with empathy and thinking beyond themselves that are rooted in brain differences.  Parenting him is an hour by hour challenge & a call to faith like I’ve never experienced…  my former job as a corporate VP pales in nothing compared to this challenge. 
    I just want to raise the point that some people are negative due to mental health issues and we need to be careful how we judge people. Let’s keep loving them in spite of their negativity… this is what real love is all about. 

  • http://financialplanningapprentice.com Robinson Mertilus

    Thanks for the post and podcast, Michael. It reminds me of the timeless classic, How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. I will make sure to be more aware of the impression I leave on others. It does take intentional effort to relate better with people and build a trusting relationship. Thanks for the great reminder and keep up the great work.

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  • Nick B. Hill

    Humor is such a powerful asset in the search for happiness and neutralizing the blues. Great podcast Michael, thanks.

  • Richard

    This is a question I had after listening. Is there a place for ‘venting’ to someone close so not to be negative toward others who do not know you well?

  • Biljes

    I want to start first by saying a big “thank you” to Dr. Lee! There are a bunch of nuts out there just trying to make a fast buck, but you are legitimate! I prayed before I went online that God would send me exactly where I needed to go to find help for my problems in the love department, and I mean I went STRAIGHT to your site and felt it was the place I needed to be. I’m forever grateful! Dr. Lee is of God, and his gifts come from God, not some evil or ego-centered place. Of that I am certain, and my love problems have already started to improve. Thank you thank you!!! Ancientfathersandmothers@gmail.com
     

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  • Henar

    I can give to a friend some muffins homemade by myself. Thank you so much Michael for your inspiration!

  • Lani

    When you are complaining about someone complaining, you are complaining also.