The 10 Biggest Mistakes People Make in Setting Goals

If you are anything like me, you’re already thinking about the year ahead. How will it be different than this one? What might be possible? What do I want to accomplish?

Missing the Target

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It’s time to begin thinking about goal-setting for 2014.

I don’t know about you, but I have been going through this annual exercise since my second semester of college, when a friend introduced me to the concept. Almost immediately, I loved the concept and saw the potential.

But I have not always done it well. I have made a lot of mistakes along the way. I have also watched numerous other people do it poorly. (That’s one of the reasons why I put together three free videos on goal-setting. They won’t be available free for long.)

Here are the top ten most common mistakes I see people make when it comes to goal-setting:

  1. They don’t write them down. Unless a goal is written, it is merely an aspiration—lifeless and devoid of power. Once you commit it to writing, you set something in motion. You clarify what you want and begin focusing on how to attain it.
  2. They create too many. An old Chinese proverb says, “Man who chases two rabbits catches neither.” While you probably need more than a single goal, you need to stay focused on a manageable number of them. I recommend no more than 7–10.
  3. They only set them for one area of their life. Most people are accustomed to the idea of setting career goals. But life is far more than your job. If you are going to be happy and fulfilled, you need goals in each of the major areas of life—spiritual, physical, marital, relational, etc.
  4. They don’t make them specific. Most goals—even written ones—suffer from being too vague. “I want to write a book” or “I want a better marriage” are too general. Which book do you want to write? How do you want to improve your marriage?
  5. They don’t make them measurable. The only way to know if you have achieved a goal is to quantify it. “Lose 25 pounds” is much better than “lose weight.” “Earn 10% more than I did last year” is better than “earn more money.” When in doubt, assign a number or a percentage.
  6. They don’t assign a due date. So often the important gets sacrificed on the altar of the urgent. A deadline is one way to create urgency and force yourself to pay attention to what’s important. Without a deadline, there’s little pressure to get it done. It’s easy to procrastinate.
  7. They don’t keep them visible. How many times have you written down a set of goals and never looked at them again? I’ve done it plenty of times. That’s why you need a plan to keep them visible, whether that means reviewing them daily, weekly, or at some other regular interval.
  8. They don’t stretch out of their comfort zone. Safe goals are boring goals. Unless we set our goals outside our comfort zone, we won’t find them compelling enough to actually follow through and achieve them. They shouldn’t be unrealistic, but they should be challenging.
  9. They don’t make them personally compelling. When you pursue a meaningful goal, it is exhilarating. Accomplishing it, even more so. But the “messy middle” is where most of us get stuck. This is why we need to write down a set of motivations for each goal identifying why it is important and what is at stake.
  10. They don’t identify the next action. You don’t need an elaborate action plan for each goal. (Often this can just be a fancy way of procrastinating.) But you do need to identify the next action, so you can initiate and maintain momentum.

Chances are, you are going to live through 2014, one way or another. It can be another year just like this year and last. Or it can be something different … something extraordinary … something amazing! The choice is yours.

So, if you are serious about avoiding the mistakes I just mentioned and getting the tools you need to make this your best year ever, check out my three free videos on goal-setting.

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  • http://www.stridesapp.com/ Kyle Richey

    I’ve really been enjoying this goal setting series! A few thoughts:

    #1 – #6 (SMART Goals, quantity and areas of life) are all crucial, timeless goal setting principles. Not making these is definitely the foundation for effective goal setting.

    Thankfully, #7 (Keep them visible) is much easier nowadays with goal tracking apps, including alerts to make your goals visible when they need to be, and out of sight out of mind when they don’t. Full disclosure: I’m the creator of StridesApp.com, so I love using an app to track my goals, but keeping them visible can also be with sticky notes. :)

    The trick with #8 and #9 (setting goals that are big enough to push us) is to balance it with being too overwhelmed. That’s why #10 is so important. Backward planning from a massive, life-changing goal and breaking it down into smaller steps is the easiest way to stay motivated as you move forward.

    Great posts, thanks Michael!

    • http://michaelhyatt.com/ Michael Hyatt

      Thanks, Kyle. I am not familiar with Strides, so I am eager to check it out. How does it differ from Lift?

      • http://www.stridesapp.com/ Kyle Richey

        Thanks Michael! Strides doesn’t limit you to tracking Yes/No habits or tasks. You can track absolutely anything you want with four tracker types:

        1. Target: Keep track of SMART goals (specific value by a date)
        2. Habit: Form good habits or break bad habits (like Lift)
        3. Milestones: Break big goals into smaller phases or steps
        4. Average: Track your average for anything over time

        It also has flexible recurring reminders so you never have to remember to log.

        We just finished a demo video on the website that sums it up better than I can with words. :)

        I’d be happy to give out some free promo codes for you and your readers, if you guys are interested. Let me know!

        • http://michaelhyatt.com/ Michael Hyatt

          Thanks, Kyle. I have downloaded the app and look forward to testing it over the holidays. Thanks.

          • http://www.stridesapp.com/ Kyle Richey

            Thanks Michael! Looking forward to your feedback.

            Enjoy the holidays!

        • http://lucychenfineart.com/ Lucy Chen

          Thank you, Kyle. I’m trying your app, too.

          • http://www.stridesapp.com/ Kyle Richey

            Thanks Lucy! Let me know if you have any ideas or questions.

            Here’s to a great New Year for all of us!

          • Robert Dawson

            Great app. I downloaded it and already inputted two goals! Thanks for sharing.

          • http://www.stridesapp.com/ Kyle Richey

            Awesome, thanks Robert! Glad to hear you’re diving right in. Good luck on your goals, and have a great New Year’s Eve!

        • Mohit Bhargava

          Hi Kyle,

          is it possible to get free pomo code for app ?

          Mail : mohit dot bhargava @ MSN dot com

          • http://www.stridesapp.com/ Kyle Richey

            It was great talking with you by email, thanks for buying Strides (and for the feedback)!

        • Mana

          Kyle, I would like to give this app a try. Do you have a promo code that I can use? Wouldn’t it make sense to have a free version of app even with bare minimum functionality for people to try it?

          • http://www.stridesapp.com/ Kyle Richey

            Hi Mana, Thanks for reaching out. Email me through the website. I agree about the free version, we just haven’t gotten around to it yet. It’s in the plan for this year though!

    • James Balson Jr.

      The app looks to be incredibly useful, Kyle. Any possibility of an android version?

      • http://www.stridesapp.com/ Kyle Richey

        Hi James,

        Thanks! I appreciate that.

        Yes, I’m definitely planning on developing an Android app in 2014.

        We’re focusing on a responsive web app first, then plan on gauging interest in a native Android app. Glad to hear there’s at least one vote in already! :)

        Have a great weekend!
        Kyle

  • http://www.einsteinssecret.net/ Deborah Owen

    Michael, I love the “messy middle” idea (which you also discuss in your course, so consider this a plug for a great tool!). Finding a motivation for each big goal is absolutely critical. Without it, you just don’t have the motivation to keep going when things seem to get “too busy”, or you find that you have too many urgent things on your list, and not enough of the important things (which are often different lists!).

    I am new to this goal-setting thing, just about a couple of months now, and the other thing you mention that I am finding to be important, is keeping the goals visible. I find that if I sit down on the same day each week – it’s in my calendar – and start fresh by writing my top 10 goals, without even looking back at last week’s list, it helps to keep them top of mind. And I find that sometimes, even from week to week, my goals change slightly And that’s OK!

    Thanks for everything Mike! :-)

    • http://michaelhyatt.com/ Michael Hyatt

      Thanks, Deborah. I am finishing up a tool today as part of my course that is designed to keep your goals visible. This is the number #1 reason people don’t follow-through on their goals. Thanks for mentioning it.

    • http://www.MicheleCushatt.com/ Michele Cushatt

      Yes, I agree Deborah. Keeping a bit of flexibility is okay. Sometimes I can be overly rigid about the goals I set, which creates unnecessary tension. Life and work is full of the unexpected, even week to week. It’s okay to make adjustments!

  • http://www.philippknoll.com/ Philipp Knoll

    Love the concept of SMART goals. What I’d like to add is “Start well in advance”. To me proper planning made all the difference. Analyzing the past year as Michael suggested in one of the last PU videos takes time. So does planning for the next. This year I made sure I stared in time. To me that was at the end of November. I’ve got all in place now and feel great about being prepared for 2014.

    Merry Christmas to all of you!

    • http://michaelhyatt.com/ Michael Hyatt

      Good for you, Philipp. This does, indeed, make a huge difference.

    • Lynn D. Morrissey

      Philipp, I love this idea to start reviewing/planning in Nov. You are beginning before the beginning of the NY! Congrats!
      Lynn

      • http://www.philippknoll.com/ Philipp Knoll

        Thanks, Lynn. I love the planning and had a good time with it. However, I’m a lot more about getting things done (or try to be ;) ) and wanted to have everything in place for a start right after new years.

  • http://nonprofitinsuranceblog.com/ Brett

    I have definitely struggled with #2: Making two many goals. I don’t know if creating so many is bad, but I’ve needed to prioritize them better and even pretend the others don’t exist so I can really focus on a couple at a time.

    Question: On the whole measurable thing… many goal areas are outcome based (i.e. losing weight, financial goals, achieving other milestones like running a 1/2 marathon). I always get stumped on creating ‘measurable’ goals in the relational, spiritual, and marital department. I know I could set habit goals or new practices, but how can you create a measurable around ‘better marriage’ or ‘better parent’ or ‘more intimate with God’?

    • http://michaelhyatt.com/ Michael Hyatt

      Great question, Brett. I always try to reduce those to a set of practices or habits that will improve the quality of the relationship. You just have to stay clear that the habit is a means to the end and not the end itself.

      • http://nonprofitinsuranceblog.com/ Brett

        I like it. And I kind of know it, but I’ve not really settled on a best practice – I can’t tell my wife I’ll love her 50% better this year, but i can commit to improved communication and then set a weekly date night of some sort and a ‘5 within 5′ practice during the week right after work.

        Broken record, but thanks again for all you do!

  • Jacob

    Michael-I would like to purchase this goal setting course for my team. Can I create accounts for them? What is the best way to execute this?

    • Megan Hyatt Miller, Platform U

      Hi Jacob. Thanks for your question and what a great idea. It would only multiply the value of this course to go through it with your team. We do not have a feature yet in our registration process to enable you to purchase for a team without our help. (We’re working on that.) However, we have an incredible support team that can take care of this for you in a matter of minutes. Just email us at michael@michalehyatt.com and we’ll get back to you ASAP with further instructions. Thanks so much.

  • Tim Kuppler

    I have made all of these mistakes and more. I would add “They don’t develop shared goals.” Most of us have to manage work on goals with others. The key is to develop shared goals that support the purpose of the organization / team / individual relationship. It’s a weakness with many individuals and some of the largest organizations in the world.

    • http://michaelhyatt.com/ Michael Hyatt

      That’s a great one, Tim. Excellent.

      • Tim Kuppler

        Thanks. It’s frustrating to see effective goal work in silos leading to ineffective overall work in an organization due to the lack of coordination and integration. People get stuff done but the BIG changes get bogged down under the pressure of an ineffective culture.

  • Debra L. Butterfield

    I’m guilty of 7, 9, and 10. And with as much time as I spend on my computer, I guess it would behoove me to look into some goal tracking apps.

    • http://michaelhyatt.com/ Michael Hyatt

      I talk about some of these in the course. There are a lot to choose from!

  • http://about.me/rishabh Rishabh R. Dassani

    Thanks for posting, Michael. Nice complement to James Clear’s post. http://d.pr/OoAj

  • Lynn D. Morrissey

    Michael, thanks for the NY’s encouragement. I’ve set SMART goals before, and I know the power of writing. But what resonates here is your admonition to read and review goals regularly and write out the WHY. I’ve never worked on the motivation and can get discouraged or mired down. Ive signed up for your course, and hope this in itself will be a motivation to achieve my goals. Can you address quanitfying spiritual growth? I’d think that measurement is less specific. I could say I’d read the Bible in a year, e.g., but that wouldn’t necessarily measure spiritual growth. Your answer could help your Christian readers. Also, how do you integrate all 7 goals so they don’t seem disjointed, leaving you running all over the place? Should they all emanate from your life purpose? (Maybe a topic in your LifePlan book?) Happy 2014. And I’ll just bet launching your goal course was a 2013 goal realized! Congratulations.
    Lynn

    • http://michaelhyatt.com/ Michael Hyatt

      Thanks, Lynn.

      Goals are typically of two kinds: quantitative or qualitative. Spiritual goals fall into the latter category. However, in order to make these achievable, you have to identify one key habit that will move you toward that goal. It might be daily Bible reading, daily prayer, etc. You could think of this has a habit, a practice or a ritual. Obviously, you can’t confuse the habit with the goal, but it moves you toward the goal in a meaningful way. And, you can measure it.
      I try to identify at least one goal in each of my ”life accounts” (e.g., marriage, career, health, parenting, etc.)
      Hope that helps.

  • http://sparkvoice.wordpress.com/ DS

    A mistake I’ve made in the past is not making it visual. While I started off great with them visually, I slacked off. Appreciate the idea of having a set time to review them instead of some random time everyday.

    • http://www.MicheleCushatt.com/ Michele Cushatt

      Yes, I thought the same DS. I usually write my goals down, but don’t visually review them often enough.

  • http://www.MicheleCushatt.com/ Michele Cushatt

    #2. I create too many. Imagine that. ;)

  • http://geekfree.net/ Aaron

    A agree, #2 is the culprit. Trying to do 70 things instead of completing the one most important!

    • http://www.MicheleCushatt.com/ Michele Cushatt

      Yes! Of course, once I have a list of 70 goals, I’m overwhelmed, paralyzed, and get nothing done. Haha.

  • http://kimanziconstable.com/ kimanzi constable

    This year I was very intentional about my goals, I actually wrote a post on my blog at the beginning of the year with 5 main goals. I just wrote a review post going live tomorrow about how I did, it was a good year :) Your goal setting tips have definitely helped me Michael, thank you.

    • http://michaelhyatt.com/ Michael Hyatt

      So glad to hear, Kimanzi. And congratulations!

  • http://joyfulmothering.net Christin

    Thank you for this. I will certainly be taking this into consideration as I create my goals in the next couple of weeks.

  • http://www.paulsohn.org/ Paul Sohn

    I love this Michael. I wholeheartedly agree with all your key points. The problem with most goals is that it’s not SMART. I took your advice and created my new year’s resolutions that will help me further my mission and vision in life. I hope I can share some of my thoughts here: http://paulsohn.org/how-to-create-new-years-resolutions-that-work/

    • http://michaelhyatt.com/ Michael Hyatt

      Excellent Paul. It sounds like you have a plan for 2014.

  • http://SourcesOfInsight.com/ J.D. Meier

    Beautiful list!

    In my experience, the most significant mistake is people don’t schedule and invest the time to make the goal a reality.

    For example, investing 30 minutes a week doesn’t create rockstar guitar players or ultra-marathon runners.

    Smart strategy consultants can easily figure out how important a goal is to a business by asking a fundamental question: How much are you investing in that this quarter?

    An effective results coach can quickly figure out whether somebody will actually reach their goal by asking a similar question:

    How much time are you investing in that this quarter? (each week? each day?)

    I actually think the most powerful tool for productivity that we get from project management is the Work Breakdown Structure.

    Besides helping break work down into manageable chunks, it helps you figure out a few very fundamental things to achieve your goal:

    1. What’s the right way to sequence the work? (dependencies)
    2. What’s the effort required for that chunk of work?
    3. What skills are actually required for that chunk of work?

    The rate of project failure (and, similarly, goal failure) is insane.
    It doesn’t need to be.

    Whenever I show somebody the Work Breakdown Structure of what they want to achieve, they either get inspired to make it happen, and invest appropriately, or they put their goal back on the shelf, until they are ready to invest what it takes.

    The bird’s-eye view of the map (of the work) can make the most complicated journeys simple and attainable.

    And, just like knowing our budget when we show up at a car dealer, sometimes the best thing we can ask ourselves is: What would be my most compelling goals given the time I have available or the time I’m willing to invest?

    • http://michaelhyatt.com/ Michael Hyatt

      Great points, J.D. Thanks for sharing.

  • http://www.turningthepage.info/ Barry Pearman

    Another mistake that we often make is not negotiating the goal with those directly influenced by it. I think of Daniel who negotiated his goal of not eating meat with his guard.

    I once wrote about Daniel having a STAN plan – Simple, Timed, Aimed and Negotiated.

    Thanks for the great blog and podcast Michael. May you have a blessed Christmas.

  • http://www.thesocialsyndicate.com/ Michael Naughton

    All true. Esp. #8. Set exceptional goals. Also, enjoyed your advice on Amy Porterfeild’s recent podcast. Happy Holidays. Thank you. Michael

  • Donald

    I’ve enjoyed the focus on goal setting as we get ready for a new year. I had even decided that I was going to splurge and get The Best Year Ever course as a Christmas present to myself but just realized that I missed the deadline by a day. Looks like I need to focus on 6,7 & 10 on the list!!

    Merry Christmas to all

  • http://7o7best.com/ Domenic A Chiarella

    Love to be amazing in 2014. And with these 10 simple ways, we will succeed.

  • K Saju

    Great post, I have been struggling with points #6 and #8 though for 2014 am focusing on addressing it. Thank you again for such a wonderful post.

  • http://www.parttimephoto.com/ James Michael Taylor

    I’ll tell you what mistakes I’m not going to make for 2014: #’s 1 through 10. What holds me back more than anything is not Doing The Work, not Taking Action, and I just sat down with this list to map out every big category of my life for 2014 down to deadlines, milestones, measurements, and specific Next Actions. Thank you, as always, for the life-changing motivation, sir – 2013 was my best year yet partially due to your podcast, and I plan to see 2014 make big gains on 2013.

  • ferretrene1

    how has their goals already in place for the new year? mine are already in action :D cant wait. Last year I accomplished them all, in less than 6 months

  • http://leadright.wordpress.com/ Brent Dumler

    I’m currently working through this process for 2014. Many of the things you suggest doing I was able to put into practice in 2013 through a mentorship experience. The biggest mistake I have made in the past (and still need to work on) is setting a due date. For most of us, not having a due date means it never gets accomplished. One thing I might add, Michael, is the worth in telling someone. From my personal experience, telling someone your detailed plan and asking them to hold you accountable is the key.

  • Richard Brokenshire

    Hi, Goal setting is great but, I think achieving those goals is more important. When the clock strikes midnight on January 1st, 2014, everyone will have made their New Year’s resolutions. You know, the usual suspects. Lose weight, quit smoking, exercise more, make more money … etc. Then on January 2nd, after they have recovered from the hangover, they forget all about what they wanted to accomplish. They are just too hard to change. Just ask someone who has tried to quit smoking.

    Most people are very willing to slip back into being comfortable, with being uncomfortable!

    I think that’s why people stay in a job that they really don’t like. “I don’t like it but, it pays the bills and it’s … not … so … bad. Right?”

    I suggest that you get the reward of actually accomplishing your goal but, if you don’t achieve it, you have a consequence. This consequence needs to be something that you would do anything to avoid. Read more here http://richardbrokenshire.com/personal-development/goals-goal-setting-2014/

  • Amy

    Great ideas. Thanks for sharing!

  • http://www.davebratcher.com/ Dave Bratcher

    Thanks for this list Michael. I shared it in my weekly column this week. http://www.jacksonsun.com/article/20140101/NEWS01/301010012/Dave-Bratcher-New-year-equals-new-you

    I hope your 2014 exceeds all your expectations!

    • http://michaelhyatt.com/ Michael Hyatt

      Thanks, Dave. I appreciate you sharing this with your audience!

  • Ryan

    For a large corporation, how would you recommend approaching the goal setting process? Vision/Mission drives the large dream. Individual departments have 5-10 annual goals that support/help achieve the overall Vision/Mission? Do you keep flowing it down (if there are 3-5 levels in the organization)? Thanks for any feedback on this. Blessings.

    • http://michaelhyatt.com/ Michael Hyatt

      Yes, I do. I think every employee should have a set of goals. I would keep it to 3–5 work-related goals and tell them you expect them to have goals in other areas of their live, too. This communicates that you understand their work is not their life and you want them to succeed overall. Hope that helps.

  • Bali

    Make simple goals, short and sweet which you can achieve.

  • Grey Hoff

    I really have enjoyed reading your posts about setting goals for 2014. I recently started blogging myself at http://www.transformationaltrend.com/ and noticed that we both went with this same topic of “goal setting” this week.

    One additional area that I have personally seen beneficial in achieving my goals is having strong accountability. After I develop my goals for the year, I share them with a group of close men whom I trust. One of them is my close friend Sam, who recently shared with me the following reminder about goals setting and accountability: “The ultimate outcome we want is to go through life together and get each other’s back so that we can successfully keep moving in the direction God is calling us to. So, spend some time just thinking and praying about this next year … Ecclesiastes 4:10 says, “If either of us falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.”

    You can try, but you can’t live life well on your own. We all need other people to walk with us, work with us, and watch out for us. Be sure you share you goals with someone you trust and ask for accountability in how you are working to achieve your goals throughout the year.

  • English Marie

    This is a wonderful article. I’m even more motivated to reach my goals this year. Thanks!

  • http://brianmittelstadt.wordpress.com/ Brian Mittelstadt

    #1 is my #1 mistake, but for even the ones I have written down, #5 (assign a due date) is my second mistake. For example, I have a goal to build a gym in my garage, but there’s not a due date on that. I need to modify that to read “Build gym in garage by December 2014″. I never really thought like this, but I see the power in it, and feel myself being called to action to get that done by December. Thanks Michael!

    • http://michaelhyatt.com/ Michael Hyatt

      Awesome, Brian!