Comments on: The Gift of Validation

By: Jeroen

Jeroen — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 17:41:00 +0000

Thank you very much for this inspiring post!

By: Blogging Makes Me Feel Like Charlie Brown « Scott D. Winter

Blogging Makes Me Feel Like Charlie Brown « Scott D. Winter — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 14:08:22 +0000

[...] know I sound all whiny, but don’t we all want/need to feel validated? It reminds me of this post, from a man who has no need to whine about his blog [...]

By: JasonWert

JasonWert — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 16:03:56 +0000

IMO, lack of validation in someone's life can slowly starve someone's spirit to death the same way lack of food will starve the body. I've been giving my wife validation in a new venture she's working on.

By: Validation « All Signs Point 2 God

Validation « All Signs Point 2 God — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 14:09:36 +0000

[...] could have said this better. Michael Hyatt, president and CEO of Thomas Nelson Publishers, has a blog entry discussing people’s need for validation and how we can help. He writes, Validation. [...]

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By: FaithBarista Bonnie

FaithBarista Bonnie — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 16:17:17 +0000

I L-U-V this post. My total "hot" button in ministry and life, in general.

If only we could validate as much as we criticize, how much brighter and happier our world around us would be.

If I could err on the side of love, why not? I say. Take a risk. Love and validate someone TODAY. 1 Cor 13.

Thanks, Michael!

By: dewde

dewde — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 16:11:41 +0000

My nephew is the only (half) black member of our entire family. He is being raised by white folk. The question of validating his role in the family, and validating him directly, sort of blind-sided me when he was about 5 years old. I wrote about it here: http://bit.ly/tlx42 peace | dewde

By: Kayla

Kayla — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 02:46:50 +0000

I totally just watched that video for TJ Thyne AKA Dr. Hodgins from Bones, but it was AWESOME. Thanks for posting!

By: Dave Aldrich

Dave Aldrich — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 01:53:51 +0000

That was awesome! Thanks for sharing.

By: Janet

Janet — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 23:11:57 +0000

Ah, but there's validation and there's empty praise.

Once I was doing some side-by-side translating at a banquet at an international event. As we were leaving the banquet hall, a member of the audience came up to me with a bright smile and said, "You did such a good job!" I swelled a bit. "Oh," I said, "do you speak French?" "No," she said brightly. I deswelled. I still haven't figured out exactly what she thought she was complimenting.

I guess she just wanted to make me feel good, which was very sweet, but her compliment was empty. A puff of Dream Whip, with no substance.

The power of a meaningful and justified compliment should never be underestimated though. I've sometimes gone months or years on the strength of one of those. And while I tend to be a bit sparing with mine, I've seen my kids beam with pride when they earn them. They know that I don't hand out compliments unless I've got good reason to and even if they are rarer, they've got a fantastic shelf life. (None of that, "Of course you'd say that, you're my mother.")

Not trying to be difficult here, just looking at the issue from another angle.