Comments on: Friends, Critics, and Trolls http://michaelhyatt.com/2009/11/friends-critics-and-trolls.html CEO, Thomas Nelson Publishers Sat, 20 Mar 2010 16:30:33 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: idelette http://michaelhyatt.com/2009/11/friends-critics-and-trolls.html/comment-page-2#comment-48716 idelette Sat, 27 Feb 2010 10:49:11 +0000 http://michaelhyatt.com/2009/11/friends-critics-and-trolls.html#comment-48716 Thank you for your transparency and wisdom. I've read this post earlier and thought is was great, but read it with fresh eyes again after this week. This is very helpful indeed. I so appreciate the way you lead. My recent post <a href="http://idelette.com/2010/02/25/do-women-not-hold-up-half-the-kingdom/" target="_blank">Do Women Not Hold up Half the Kingdom?</a> Thank you for your transparency and wisdom. I've read this post earlier and thought is was great, but read it with fresh eyes again after this week. This is very helpful indeed. I so appreciate the way you lead.
My recent post Do Women Not Hold up Half the Kingdom?

]]> By: Glenn Sasscer http://michaelhyatt.com/2009/11/friends-critics-and-trolls.html/comment-page-2#comment-47024 Glenn Sasscer Wed, 03 Feb 2010 21:58:37 +0000 http://michaelhyatt.com/2009/11/friends-critics-and-trolls.html#comment-47024 As a writer, especially in Christian thrillers, I have many critics who disagree with every aspect of my writing, from the way I write to the genre (How can I be a Christian and write horror or thriller novels? How dare I?). I have constructive critics who are quite helpful, clueless critics who think they are helpful, and critics who fit your category of trolls. For the first two groups, I send a thankful reply and evaluate their criticism with an honest approach - even the clueless critics hit on something useful every now and then. As for the trolls, I adopt a position where they are welcome to their opinion and it is none on my business from that point forward. Why waste time defending yourself against someone who will never listen to you? As a writer, especially in Christian thrillers, I have many critics who disagree with every aspect of my writing, from the way I write to the genre (How can I be a Christian and write horror or thriller novels? How dare I?). I have constructive critics who are quite helpful, clueless critics who think they are helpful, and critics who fit your category of trolls. For the first two groups, I send a thankful reply and evaluate their criticism with an honest approach – even the clueless critics hit on something useful every now and then. As for the trolls, I adopt a position where they are welcome to their opinion and it is none on my business from that point forward. Why waste time defending yourself against someone who will never listen to you?

]]> By: Omar Hamada http://michaelhyatt.com/2009/11/friends-critics-and-trolls.html/comment-page-2#comment-45245 Omar Hamada Mon, 25 Jan 2010 20:36:29 +0000 http://michaelhyatt.com/2009/11/friends-critics-and-trolls.html#comment-45245 Thanks Michael. Will check it out. Who said it was a "her"? :-) (Though that is one of several). Thanks Michael. Will check it out.

Who said it was a "her"? :-) (Though that is one of several).

]]> By: Michael Hyatt http://michaelhyatt.com/2009/11/friends-critics-and-trolls.html/comment-page-2#comment-45189 Michael Hyatt Mon, 25 Jan 2010 16:03:35 +0000 http://michaelhyatt.com/2009/11/friends-critics-and-trolls.html#comment-45189 You should have her read <a href="http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/exec\/obidos\/ASIN\/0446691437\/fwis-20" target="_blank"><em>The War of Art.</em></a> It's a great book that will help her put this in context. You should have her read The War of Art. It's a great book that will help her put this in context.

]]> By: Omar Hamada http://michaelhyatt.com/2009/11/friends-critics-and-trolls.html/comment-page-2#comment-45187 Omar Hamada Mon, 25 Jan 2010 15:57:49 +0000 http://michaelhyatt.com/2009/11/friends-critics-and-trolls.html#comment-45187 I had to come back and re-read this as my life has been awash with critics of late - and most seem to be those closest to me. It seems there are so many willing to criticize at the drop of a hat, yet there are so few who are willing to encourage. So many willing to tear down, so few eager to build. Why is that? Sometimes one can't help but think, "What if they're right? What if I really am no good?". Then you just have to pick up and move on regardless. I had to come back and re-read this as my life has been awash with critics of late – and most seem to be those closest to me. It seems there are so many willing to criticize at the drop of a hat, yet there are so few who are willing to encourage. So many willing to tear down, so few eager to build. Why is that?

Sometimes one can't help but think, "What if they're right? What if I really am no good?". Then you just have to pick up and move on regardless.

]]> By: One way Jesus dealt with critics « Live Generously http://michaelhyatt.com/2009/11/friends-critics-and-trolls.html/comment-page-2#comment-43408 One way Jesus dealt with critics « Live Generously Sat, 09 Jan 2010 01:03:58 +0000 http://michaelhyatt.com/2009/11/friends-critics-and-trolls.html#comment-43408 [...] reading them. Michael Hyatt, the CEO of Thomas Nelson Publishers and an extraordinary blogger, wrote a great post about critics a few months ago, and while he, given his high profile, surely deals with critics far more often than I do, I [...] [...] reading them. Michael Hyatt, the CEO of Thomas Nelson Publishers and an extraordinary blogger, wrote a great post about critics a few months ago, and while he, given his high profile, surely deals with critics far more often than I do, I [...]

]]> By: I beg to differ « Teachings from the Trail Blog http://michaelhyatt.com/2009/11/friends-critics-and-trolls.html/comment-page-2#comment-40677 I beg to differ « Teachings from the Trail Blog Wed, 25 Nov 2009 18:16:49 +0000 http://michaelhyatt.com/2009/11/friends-critics-and-trolls.html#comment-40677 [...] Hyatt points out that as a leader (and, I might add, a blogger) we will always have critics. His post on how to differentiate and deal with friends, critics and trolls was helpful to me. Perhaps it [...] [...] Hyatt points out that as a leader (and, I might add, a blogger) we will always have critics. His post on how to differentiate and deal with friends, critics and trolls was helpful to me. Perhaps it [...]

]]> By: @jmarkarnold http://michaelhyatt.com/2009/11/friends-critics-and-trolls.html/comment-page-2#comment-40423 @jmarkarnold Mon, 23 Nov 2009 17:12:10 +0000 http://michaelhyatt.com/2009/11/friends-critics-and-trolls.html#comment-40423 Excellent post...and one I needed to hear. Like you, I've faced critics and lately was falling into the trap of fighting with them. You are right: it is just best to ignor. Thanks for your words of wisdom. Excellent post…and one I needed to hear. Like you, I've faced critics and lately was falling into the trap of fighting with them. You are right: it is just best to ignor. Thanks for your words of wisdom.

]]> By: Jen http://michaelhyatt.com/2009/11/friends-critics-and-trolls.html/comment-page-2#comment-40223 Jen Mon, 23 Nov 2009 02:21:42 +0000 http://michaelhyatt.com/2009/11/friends-critics-and-trolls.html#comment-40223 Everyone has an agenda. Everyone has goals, hopes, dreams, desires. No one goes through life without wanting to gain something. Or even give something. To say that someone who wants to prove their point because they are passionate about their side of the issue is an unhealthy troll I find to be insulting. I am not your friend. I am not a troll. I am not out to hurt you. I am not acting in a malicious way. I do however disagree with you on many things. Mostly I disagree that you have my, or any writer's best interest at heart. I have the right to say so. Everyone has an agenda. Everyone has goals, hopes, dreams, desires. No one goes through life without wanting to gain something. Or even give something.

To say that someone who wants to prove their point because they are passionate about their side of the issue is an unhealthy troll I find to be insulting. I am not your friend. I am not a troll. I am not out to hurt you. I am not acting in a malicious way. I do however disagree with you on many things. Mostly I disagree that you have my, or any writer's best interest at heart. I have the right to say so.

]]> By: Serena Woods http://michaelhyatt.com/2009/11/friends-critics-and-trolls.html/comment-page-2#comment-40222 Serena Woods Mon, 23 Nov 2009 02:06:45 +0000 http://michaelhyatt.com/2009/11/friends-critics-and-trolls.html#comment-40222 I can really identify with this! I had to go through a period of not responding to any comments for a while because it was tilting my writing. I don't get a ton of negativity, but when I do, it's frustrating because I've done my homework. The positive comments affect me, too. I like to hear them, but don't want to be in a position of writing to get them... I'm learning to balance interaction with a healthy element of detatchment. Thanks for RTing this post. :) Serena I can really identify with this! I had to go through a period of not responding to any comments for a while because it was tilting my writing. I don’t get a ton of negativity, but when I do, it’s frustrating because I’ve done my homework. The positive comments affect me, too. I like to hear them, but don’t want to be in a position of writing to get them… I’m learning to balance interaction with a healthy element of detatchment.

Thanks for RTing this post. :)

Serena

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