25 Things I Hate About Facebook

I have been tempted to deactivate my Facebook account for some time. In this short YouTube video, Julian Smith comically explains his frustrations. I concur with all twenty-five of his reasons.

I was ready to deactivate my Facebook account last week. Then I heard Chris Brogan at O’Reilly’s Tools of Change Conference. He put forth a model that I really liked.

To paraphrase, he said that your blog is your “homebase.” This is where you ultimately direct people. On the other hand, services like Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn, etc. are “outposts.” The purpose of an outpost is to connect with people that otherwise wouldn’t find your homebase.

This makes sense to me. At least several times a week, I get Facebook messages from people who say, “I stumbled across your blog on Facebook.” So, for now, I guess I will keep my account open. Personally, I find Twitter so much easier to use and more rewarding—and certainly less annoying.

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  • Haydee

    I so agree with u, michael. I wanted to delete my fbook too cos it looks like myspace now. Junkie, but I just left it as that. I love Twitter cos I stalk max lucado and so I can rcv updates only from peeps I follow. Ur tweets never fail to entertain me. Send my growl to Nelson, yea.

  • Haydee

    I so agree with u, michael. I wanted to delete my fbook too cos it looks like myspace now. Junkie, but I just left it as that. I love Twitter cos I stalk max lucado and so I can rcv updates only from peeps I follow. Ur tweets never fail to entertain me. Send my growl to Nelson, yea.

  • http://www.maclakeonline.com/ Mac Lake

    Twitter hands down!

  • http://www.maclakeonline.com Mac Lake

    Twitter hands down!

  • Helen Kidd

    While pros and cons, I use each medium for different purposes. I use Facebook for family, friends, and fan pages to simply follow. I use Twitter for professional resources, mentoring, and other JIT items such as breaking news. I normally don't follow someone someone who is both on Twitter and Facebook because if they want interaction, there is usually a link from Twitter to their FB or blog. LinkedIn is something I haven't fully honed yet but that, right now, is solely networking with other professionals and Twitter is connected to that.

  • Helen Kidd

    While pros and cons, I use each medium for different purposes. I use Facebook for family, friends, and fan pages to simply follow. I use Twitter for professional resources, mentoring, and other JIT items such as breaking news. I normally don't follow someone someone who is both on Twitter and Facebook because if they want interaction, there is usually a link from Twitter to their FB or blog. LinkedIn is something I haven't fully honed yet but that, right now, is solely networking with other professionals and Twitter is connected to that.

  • http://www.svys.com/ Tom Beggs

    what is so funny is that he points out lame FB functionality that could have been addressed and fixed in the most basic of usability research. Clearly, FB has spent more on pizza for the office.

  • http://www.svys.com Tom Beggs

    what is so funny is that he points out lame FB functionality that could have been addressed and fixed in the most basic of usability research. Clearly, FB has spent more on pizza for the office.

  • http://michellesidles.com/ Michelle

    I have a Twitter account, a Facebook page and a Blog. And I love all three for totally different reasons.

    Twitter is where I keep up with others in my business industry. It's also where I feel ok about posting more trivial things that happen in my life.

    Facebook is where I keep up with most of my IRL friends & family. It's an easy way for people who know me to find me and my contact information. I don't update it nearly as often but like to use it for occassional pics of the kids, and keeping up with people who I would otherwise NEVER cross paths with in my daily life.

    And my blog. My true home on the web. The place I feel like I can truly write as much as I want (I don't like the 140 char. limit on Twitter).

    What I also know is that people on FB (that I know) aren't that savvy. So they may ONLY go to FB. So that's where I put occassional links to my blog. Otherwise they'd never find my blog. ;)

    They are all interconnected for me but I use them all very differently. My biggest pet peeve is the people who use Twitter to update their FB. Facebook isn't intended to be used the same way as Twitter. IMHO. ;) Thanks for asking.

  • http://michellesidles.com Michelle

    I have a Twitter account, a Facebook page and a Blog. And I love all three for totally different reasons.

    Twitter is where I keep up with others in my business industry. It's also where I feel ok about posting more trivial things that happen in my life.

    Facebook is where I keep up with most of my IRL friends & family. It's an easy way for people who know me to find me and my contact information. I don't update it nearly as often but like to use it for occassional pics of the kids, and keeping up with people who I would otherwise NEVER cross paths with in my daily life.

    And my blog. My true home on the web. The place I feel like I can truly write as much as I want (I don't like the 140 char. limit on Twitter).

    What I also know is that people on FB (that I know) aren't that savvy. So they may ONLY go to FB. So that's where I put occassional links to my blog. Otherwise they'd never find my blog. ;)

    They are all interconnected for me but I use them all very differently. My biggest pet peeve is the people who use Twitter to update their FB. Facebook isn't intended to be used the same way as Twitter. IMHO. ;) Thanks for asking.

  • http://www.inamirrordimly.com/ ed cyzewski

    I actually receive more traffic through facebook than twitter, even though I probably invest more time at twitter.
    My recent post When It’s Good to be Wrong About Theology…

  • http://www.inamirrordimly.com ed cyzewski

    I actually receive more traffic through facebook than twitter, even though I probably invest more time at twitter.
    My recent post When It’s Good to be Wrong About Theology…

  • Eric Hanson

    I hope I'm not the first to say this, but my favorite thing on Facebook is the "ignore all" button. I also find twitter far more fun and rewarding (I'm in the process of trying to convert my friends). But in the meantime I can't delete my Facebook til i can prove it's guilty of completely wasting my time and not yielding any blog hits.

  • Eric Hanson

    I hope I'm not the first to say this, but my favorite thing on Facebook is the "ignore all" button. I also find twitter far more fun and rewarding (I'm in the process of trying to convert my friends). But in the meantime I can't delete my Facebook til i can prove it's guilty of completely wasting my time and not yielding any blog hits.

  • http://schindelfam6.blogspot.com/ Tammy

    So true…and funny
    My recent post Facebook…again

  • http://schindelfam6.blogspot.com Tammy

    So true…and funny
    My recent post Facebook…again

  • Teachermom

    What annoys me about facebook?
    Farmville, fishville, zoovile, mafiaville…..
    Status updates that include what's for dinner at your house tonight

  • Teachermom

    What annoys me about facebook?
    Farmville, fishville, zoovile, mafiaville…..
    Status updates that include what's for dinner at your house tonight

  • http://survivalguru.wordpress.com/ winnie

    OMG…its about time someone admitted all this about facebook, I hate all of the above and more…thanks so much. I will send your message out and be happier for knowing that you too feel like this…I HATE FACEBOOK…..
    My recent post Do you act with your gutt?

  • http://survivalguru.wordpress.com winnie

    OMG…its about time someone admitted all this about facebook, I hate all of the above and more…thanks so much. I will send your message out and be happier for knowing that you too feel like this…I HATE FACEBOOK…..
    My recent post Do you act with your gutt?

  • http://murphyfamilylife.blogspot.com/ Chrystal

    I too think facebook is annoying – or, really, some of my facebook friends use it in an annoying way. I've thought about deleting it – reducing the daily "noise" – but, for now, the vast majority of my friends and contacts are not on twitter. For that reason, FB is a good "outpost" for me.

    I have found several ways to make FB less annoying: 1) Turn off all email notifications. This way I'm not bombarded all day long with FB. I can pay attention to it when I choose to log in and I'm not getting emails all day. 2) Hide, Hide, Hide. I hide just about every FB App from my news feed. I don't care about someones fish or mafia or whatever so I just hide them. Then the only news I'm seeing are my friends posts, updates, pictures, etc. I also hide friends (shhh – don't tell them) that are particularly annoying with their status updates and such. You can still look at their FB page if you want to tell them something or look at their activity but you aren't slammed with it every day. 3) Block notifications/requests. If you have friends that send you a request for every app under the sun, you can actually block all requests from that user. They never know the difference but you don't have to click ignore every time they want to view your birthday on their calendar or want you to join their zoo.

    I do like that you can have picture albums vs. the random twit pic. I even like that you can schedule an event and invite your friends – much simpler than contacting everyone individually or sending snail mail invites.

    There's good and bad. I just try to minimize the bad and make it work for me in a more efficient way.
    My recent post Nothing Like a Clean Closet…

  • http://murphyfamilylife.blogspot.com Chrystal

    I too think facebook is annoying – or, really, some of my facebook friends use it in an annoying way. I've thought about deleting it – reducing the daily "noise" – but, for now, the vast majority of my friends and contacts are not on twitter. For that reason, FB is a good "outpost" for me.

    I have found several ways to make FB less annoying: 1) Turn off all email notifications. This way I'm not bombarded all day long with FB. I can pay attention to it when I choose to log in and I'm not getting emails all day. 2) Hide, Hide, Hide. I hide just about every FB App from my news feed. I don't care about someones fish or mafia or whatever so I just hide them. Then the only news I'm seeing are my friends posts, updates, pictures, etc. I also hide friends (shhh – don't tell them) that are particularly annoying with their status updates and such. You can still look at their FB page if you want to tell them something or look at their activity but you aren't slammed with it every day. 3) Block notifications/requests. If you have friends that send you a request for every app under the sun, you can actually block all requests from that user. They never know the difference but you don't have to click ignore every time they want to view your birthday on their calendar or want you to join their zoo.

    I do like that you can have picture albums vs. the random twit pic. I even like that you can schedule an event and invite your friends – much simpler than contacting everyone individually or sending snail mail invites.

    There's good and bad. I just try to minimize the bad and make it work for me in a more efficient way.
    My recent post Nothing Like a Clean Closet…

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/Nick_Shoemaker NickShoe

    I like Pages on Facebook. I can't stand junk apps and "seductive" ads, and being invited over and over to be someone's friend or fan.
    Facebook is close to being the got-to for modern society. Soon people will be utilizing the Facebook Connect feature for purchases. Once Facebook become "modus spendus" look out, the sky is the limit. Don't believe me? Let me ask you this: What did you think of PayPal when it first started to appear? If you're anything like me, you thought nothing of it, but now try making a purchase online without it being an option, if not the only option. Facebook already has the credibility to do what took PayPal years to accomplish.
    My recent post 30×30 Video Weight-loss Journal

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/Nick_Shoemaker NickShoe

    I like Pages on Facebook. I can't stand junk apps and "seductive" ads, and being invited over and over to be someone's friend or fan.
    Facebook is close to being the got-to for modern society. Soon people will be utilizing the Facebook Connect feature for purchases. Once Facebook become "modus spendus" look out, the sky is the limit. Don't believe me? Let me ask you this: What did you think of PayPal when it first started to appear? If you're anything like me, you thought nothing of it, but now try making a purchase online without it being an option, if not the only option. Facebook already has the credibility to do what took PayPal years to accomplish.
    My recent post 30×30 Video Weight-loss Journal

  • Fidel

    I think Facebbok is a Waste of time for people that have nothing to do, designed to connect people that juts want to kill time, because they have nothing positive, lucrative or profitable to do, ecxept those that do selling and find Victims here. I hope I’m not the first to say this, but I am not a fan of this time wasting and my favorite thing on Facebook is go in once in a while once a week may be and see how much valuable time people is wasting

  • Fidel

    I think Facebbok is a Waste of time for people that have nothing to do, designed to connect people that juts want to kill time, because they have nothing positive, lucrative or profitable to do, ecxept those that do selling and find Victims here. I hope I’m not the first to say this, but I am not a fan of this time wasting and my favorite thing on Facebook is go in once in a while once a week may be and see how much valuable time people is wasting

  • Logan

    I got a virus from Facebook :/ I had to deactivate my account, and get my laptop fixed. Thanks a lot, Facebook!

  • Logan

    I got a virus from Facebook :/ I had to deactivate my account, and get my laptop fixed. Thanks a lot, Facebook!

  • Martin

    The video was amusing, but many of the aggravations were, as a previous poster suggested, easily fixable or ignorable. However, some issues, such as the impact of the technology on close personal relationships and our ability to engage others in a stronger and more intimate way than those relationships would normally permit are well worth consideration. I know I have caused anger, pain, disappointment, and distress to others, some whom I barely know, by my ill-considered posts. Facebook, like most innovations, is not perfect, nor is it an unmixed blessing, but I derive a great benefit if I use the same care I apply to my face-to-face encounters.

  • Martin

    The video was amusing, but many of the aggravations were, as a previous poster suggested, easily fixable or ignorable. However, some issues, such as the impact of the technology on close personal relationships and our ability to engage others in a stronger and more intimate way than those relationships would normally permit are well worth consideration. I know I have caused anger, pain, disappointment, and distress to others, some whom I barely know, by my ill-considered posts. Facebook, like most innovations, is not perfect, nor is it an unmixed blessing, but I derive a great benefit if I use the same care I apply to my face-to-face encounters.

  • http://intensedebate.com/profiles/danielgsnyder danielgsnyder

    Brilliant. This is one of the best videos I've seen recently. I agree completely. Though i won't be deactivating my facebook account anytime soon, it's still too useful of a networking tool.

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/DerekDRobertson DerekDRobertson

    Well I would have to say that I agree with Chris Brogan. Although I dont have a blog that has any huge following. I do use twitter and facebook to catch people that might not necessariy go to my blog. I also post my blog through Posterous which acutually sends my blog to three different places. This way i can catch as many people as possible. No this does not help my blog as far as visitors but I still get out there what I want people to read in many fashions. So I say use it all to your advantage

  • http://twitter.com/DutchRiete @DutchRiete

    I am most definitely not a Twitter or Facebook afficionado, even though I have an account on both sites. I use both to keep in touch with people I know but won't have time to see that often or to just follow some people I'm interested in. Having said that, Facebook has made it possible for me to get in touch with some long lost friends, so that's a good thing. And Twitter got me here, so that's a good thing too :))
    My "home base" however is on Multiply, a social networking site that specializes in "less contacts, more contact" … in-depth relationships and in-depth blogs.

  • zkwc

    I HATE GAME INVITES AND STUPID GIFTS FROM GAMES I HAVE NO INTEREST IN PLAYING!

  • https://sites.google.com/site/ericjamz/ Eric Simpson

    I hate the brevity and superficiality of twitter, prefer fb. Why contact so many people if the sum total of your relationship with them is to sell yourself? Seems pretty empty to me, and the internet offers more.

  • http://www.gospelofkingdom.com Gregory Scott

    MIchael-
    Just read this post for the first time. I couldn't agree more. I was beginning to think I was the only one who felt this way. Thanks for validating me.

  • Anonymous

    I’m writing a book about Facebook’s impact on relationships by having coffee (or a meal or something) in person with all of my FB friends. We hang out, catch up and then I interview them. After about 40 conversations, it’s amazing to hear the range of things that annoy people. Facebook is a community that runs without any communal understanding or shared standards of behavior. We’ve individualized and privatized ourselves so much and it’s almost intolerable to deal with others who see or behave outside our personalized etiquette codes. Julian’s list is funny but the people I’ve interviewed haven’t mentioned any of these things. Farmville was the top pet peeve for a while but politics and whining are the things that people consistently hate the most. Stay tuned, I’ve got another 200+ interviews to do, we’ll see.

    On the business side, I think Chris is right about having outposts. How successful the FB is as a business outpost is wholly untested. I argue that the entire dynamic of the user base will have to shift for it to be successful for business. People aren’t there for commerce right now, they are there for relationship, be it a different kind of relationship.

  • http://twitter.com/levittmike Michael Levitt

    I recently finished a fast from Facebook. Twitter is better for me to learn from others, and not be so wrapped up with whom needs a cow for their farm ;-)

    Blessings on your Christmas and all the best for 2011.

  • http://twitter.com/ToscaSac T

    I dislike FB for the way the site is built. The fact that the world knew no better and just flocked there is well a sheeple kinda thing. I hate a lot of what MZ seems to stand for in the way of using social media and so of course this is nothing surprising. My friends and connections do not bother me. When they do I unfriend them. I am loving having two Twitter accounts, two blogs, options like pages and groups on FB to further keep distance from people I know and connect to strangers I do not. Google+ has it’s pluses and minuses in much the same way. No one seems to have gotten it right. POUT sigh

  • Kennisha Hill

    LOL! Loved the video!

  • Cepickerel60

    I think some people just love to hate stuff.  That’s what I think.  I wouldn’t even have known about this video had it not been posted on facebook.  If you don’t like it…..jump out!   It’s amazing to me how many peoople gripe about facebook and still use it.

  • Cepickerel60

    It’s a SOCIAL NETWORKING site…..get over it!  Anti-social people probably won’t like it.

  • Scowcat

    Dear Mr Hyatt…I have to admit though I have been on twitter for a few short months – I have to agree that have found some amazing items on twitter – many of them are on your site! Facebook is an entirely different tool.  It has it’s purpose.  I agree with practically every one of his statements. Thanks so much for sharing your wisdom…Just finished up my PLP and I am excited to share your e-book with others! 

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      Awesome! Thanks.

  • http://twitter.com/autigers1970 autigers1970

    To be honest, most of them would annoy me but I’ve either eliminated them by clicking that little “x” and hiding various games and apps forever, or I just don’t seem to have people who do annoying stuff like poke me. 

    And frankly, I know it’s silly but I love the Happy Birthday messages.

  • http://www.forward-living.com W. Mark Thompson

    Facebook makes more sense to me. Seems like there’s more of a connection with people on facebook. Twitter seems like a social drive-by. But, if you’re trying to save time, that makes more sense. I’ve been away from twitter for a while, but in the past few weeks, I’ve been trying to get back to it.

    But I like Brogan’s explanation with the home base and outposts explanation.

  • guest

    I hate my sister in law always writes bullcrap on the fuckin’ face book, she said she allowed herself to go to Burger King or Mcdondals once a week, and she said she thanked God for letting her have enough health to burn the calories, then her friends, most bitches replied to her, anf those bitches always blame those greasy spoon restaurants letting them fat, bullcrap! What kind of food is not fattening anyway, and I don’t really give a damn shit about their dumb thinkings, what to blab about for anyway? If I have to say shit, I can also say my stomach isn’t impossibly flat because of too much beer. Really have enough of those dumb posts from those dumb bitches, I’m also a female, but I’d never say this kind of dumb shit

  • http://decker.com/blog/ BertDecker

    Facebook is a connector and an information gatherer. Have had some neat experiences on it. Don’t agree with the 25 comments, but agree with about 15 of them. Particularly games, groups and excessive posts. But you can ignore them. Don’t put an age on Facebook – I won’t qualify. (I do have to refrain from posting to grandchildren, but great to see their lives unfold.) Anyway, it’s evolving, so good to be a part of that…

  • http://michellejorna.com/blogweb Michelle Jorna

    Thanks for posting the funny video I agree those 25 things are annoying! I find facebook fabulous though for connecting with family and friends on the other side of the world, with the time difference I always miss the tweets but see the facebook updates which allows us to stay in touch. Its good to assess your aims for each social media platform though- thanks for the prompt to do just that!

  • Frank Buck

    I could not agree more than abuot the reference to the importance of the blog. I have always told people it’s at the center. Twitter and Facebookprovide a quasi RSS feed for people who may not even understand RSS. I use both, because MANY people have an account on Facebook but not Twitter. Not being limited to 140 characters is a plus for FB. The threaded comments and thumbnail photos of links you reference are each a plus for Facebook.

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