An Invitation to My Mentoring Group

I’m sorry but the application period for this group has now expired. If everything goes according to plan, I will launch a new group for 2012. Stay tuned.

Almost every week, I get a request from someone looking for a mentor. Frankly, I always find it difficult to say “no.” I think this is probably because I have profited so much from the various mentors I have had throughout my life and career. I also know how difficult it can be to find a good mentor.

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As a result, I have been considering starting a mentoring group for several months now. My goal is to impact the lives of younger men in a way that points them toward an integrated Christian life.

I believe you can be a devoted Christ-follower, loving husband and father, successful businessman, dedicated church member, caring friend, and serious disciple-maker, while taking care of yourself physically—all at the same time. From my perspective, helping people do this is what mentoring is all about.

I should quickly point out that this is NOT because I have life all figured out. I don’t. I continue to struggle and fall. But I have learned a few things along the way and want to share those with a few good men.

As I mentioned in my blog on Monday, after months of thought and prayer, I had developed a really detailed mentoring plan. I was just about to announce it when—thankfully!—someone told me about Mentor Like Jesus by Regi Campbell. As a result, I changed some of my thinking and decided to adopt his program, Next Generation Mentoring (NGM), as my own.

I plan to start my group this coming January. If you are interested—and live in the greater Nashville area—please continue reading. I will outline the details for you. If you are a leader, thinking about starting your own group, this will give you an idea of what is involved in starting an NGM group.

Purpose of the Group

We will spend significant time on understanding who we are from God’s perspective and how we can excel in our work and in our communities. We will work on establishing priorities, work/life balance, dealing with sexual temptation, making good decisions, leadership, and godly character. We will spend time on relating to our wives and raising our children. We will especially focus on what it means to have a vibrant, living relationship with Jesus Christ.

Criteria for Participating

Who is this mentoring group for? I am looking for eight men who meet the following criteria:

  • Residents of the greater Nashville, Tennessee area, as I will be hosting the meetings in my home.
  • Devoted followers of Jesus Christ.
  • Broken men, who are hungry for growth.
  • Married career men who are in their late 20s or 30s.
  • If already parents, children under 12.
  • Humble men, willing to look at themselves in the mirror and make changes to improve, and, at the same time willing to accept direct, personal, and comprehensive feedback without being defensive.
  • Willingness to replicate the mentoring process at least once with eight other men sometime in the future.

Format of the Program

The program involves a monthly meeting (from 7:00–10:00 p.m.) at my home, one extended session (approximately six hours), one weekend retreat, ten significant reading assignments and memorizing about twenty scriptures (two per month). We will begin with a launch event on Tuesday, January 12, and end with a weekend retreat of celebration at the end of the year. (This is a one-year program.)

The meetings aren’t optional. The group will settle on a schedule and stick to it. A premium is placed on timeliness, preparation and respect for everyone else in the group. You will likely have to make some tough business and family decisions in order to honor your commitment to me and to the group. 

The Cost to You

If you are involved in graduate studies, or already overextended in other commitments, then you should probably pass on this opportunity. Although not onerous, the requirements are consistent and they will take focused time, both to attend the sessions and to do the reading and memory work. 

The cost of the materials and books is $200. The cost for the retreat will be divided by the members of the group. (I have yet to finalize the plans for this.) The $200 will be due to Next Generation Mentoring at the kickoff, which, as I mentioned previously, is planned for January 12. You MUST attend this launch event in person in order to participate in the program—no exceptions.

Really, really think about this. Pray about it. Talk to your wife. She will be asked to sign the covenant with you, committing her support as you attend the sessions and retreat, read the books, and do the homework assignments. If you are lukewarm, don’t pursue it; you will be taking a slot that someone else might really want and need.

The Application Process

If you conclude that you are interested, click on this link to apply. The application process will take approximately 30 minutes to complete. Once you’ve begun the application, you cannot leave it and return. You’ll need to finish it at one sitting.

You will be asked to indicate your acceptance of the NGM Covenant as part of the on-line application, as will your wife. So it’s important that you talk through the commitment with her before you begin the application. You can download a PDF copy of the covenant by clicking here. (Please read both pages.)

The deadline for applications is Friday, December 18, 2009 at 5:00 p.m. CST. This is a firm date so apply as soon as you and your spouse are together on the commitment.

Acceptance

Once I get all the applications in, I will prayerfully review them. I will then select eight men to be part of the group. I will notify you via email by December 31, 2009 at 5:00 p.m. CST whether have been selected or not.

Note: Much of the content for this post came directly from the Next Generation Mentoring recruitment material, which is copyrighted and used by permission.
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  • http://simplyhis.org Lisa B @ simply His

    This sounds absolutely awesome! My only questions would be could this program be adapted for a group of women? Or is there something else you might recommend for women wanting to mentor/be mentored?
    My recent post Stop beating yourself up

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      Yes, I definitely think it could be adapted for women. You might want to check with NextGenMentoring.com and see what they have. Thanks.

  • http://danryansview.com Dan Ryan

    If men of all ages are looking for another option you might consider Christian Leadership Concepts (CLC).

    CLC is a two year discipleship program that equips men to be better leaders in their homes, their church and their community.

    You can learn more at http://www.christianleadershipconcepts.org/index….

    Dan Ryan
    @that_danryan
    My recent post What should we be doing about unemployment? The small business view

  • http://www.project7.com tyler merrick

    Mr. Hyatt, is there any consideration to reviewing applicants outside of the area. i would be wiling to commit and come from Dallas.
    My recent post 25 Days of Giving – Day 8

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      I don't think so. Honestly, I think that puts additional pressure on me, and I also think you would do better to find a mentor in your area. Sorry.

  • Bridget

    Wow! I wish I lived in Nashville, was male, and young! I am not any of those, but wish you the best and will definitely read "Mentor Like Jesus"!

  • http://stric9design.wordpress.com/ Patrick Turner

    Michael,

    Is there a way people who don’t live in the area or fit into the other criteria can follow what’s going on. By going on I mean the subjects, ideas etc…

    Patrick

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      Not really. The only think I can suggest is to check out NextGenMentoring.com. I am using their curriculum. Thanks.

  • Bill Prettyman

    MIke, if you have not decided on curriculum material yet but want to cover a man's relationship with God and what God has to say about family, wife, money, business, evangelism and a few other topics please look at Christian Leadership Concepts (CLC). It was started in Nashville by Hal Hadden in 1982 and is still headquartered there with many men's discipleship groups around the US. It is a 2 year men's discipleship program and sounds almost exactly like your description of what you want to do. I would be happy to connect you with Hal if that is of interest to you. I believe he lives in Brentwood.

    I went through the program myself 15 years ago and recently completed mentoring 9 guys with a co-leader.

    Here is their URL: http://www.christianleadershipconcepts.org/

    If I can help answer any questions about CLC you can email me at bprettyman@wbf.com. I pray for God to deliver committed men to your group.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      Bill, this time around I am using the curriculum developed by Regi Campbell and NextGenMentoring.com. But thanks for also bringing this to my attention.

      Best.

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/jeffdolan jeffdolan

    Thanks for doing this Michael. I respect your heart for mentoring.

    What is your reasoning behind pooling your blog readers instead of your church or company? Sorry if you answered this elsewhere.

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

    My blog reaches the folks in my church and company. I wanted to cast the widest possible net. Thanks.

  • David S

    Michael, i submitted an application last night but didn't get a confirmation email. Should i re-submit?

    David Sylvester

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      David I did receive your application. Thanks.

  • http://mosaicmercy.com David

    Wish I lived in Nashville. Men who are willing to mentor are so hard to find.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      I know that is true. That's part of my vision: to mentor men who can in turn become mentors (1 Timothy 2:2).

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  • http://www.EncounterTheWebsite.com Dean Newkirk

    Wow, I really wish I had known about this earlier, Michael. I’m single though, so I may not have met the requirements. Do you ever have openings or people that back out? If so, let me know. This sounds great!

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  • Ben Wall

    Hello Michael, I'm envious of the group you're putting together in Nashville. I wish I could apply to be part of the group and engage in that adventure–it sounds like something I've been craving for a while! I've been enjoying your blog the last few weeks.

    For what it's worth, I'm a 40 year old dad of 4 kids (10, 8, 5 & 3) and I mentor multiple groups of young men & boys. Last year I committed to and ran my first 10k and now I've signed up for my first triathlon in May. I've lost my first 10% of my body weight & now am on to the 2nd 10%! I've just started in a new job this year leading a ministry striving to build Christ-like leaders (http://www.opcamp.com). Our ministry targets students from the poorest schools in town (12 public schools represented) and we challenge about 100 HS Christian leaders (from 30 churches) to mentor 200 elementary & Jr. High students.

    It's the craziest challenge I've ever faced and I'm reading everything I can on leadership development. I'm praying about how to transform the leadership culture for our incredible students in Midland, TX. If you're ever near this part of the world, I'd love for my teams to meet you!

    God bless you as you pursue enjoying God fully this year! bw

  • http://www.swanrange.blogspot.com Carol Buchanan

    Blessings on you as you become a blessing to, and receive blessings from, mentoring these men.

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  • http://www.tikesbestfriend.wordpress.com Tim Dahl

    The NGM program sounds good. However, I know that I can't personally afford the $200 at the moment. Also, I know people of my church can't afford $200. We are a small congregation, and people are hurting. Is there any other program out there, which is less expensive?

    Tim
    My recent post How to Feed a Two Year Old

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      Keep in mind that the NGM program includes (I think 10 books). I don’t know how they afford to do this. The $200 includes the shipping, a binder for each person, and all the lesson plans. I can’t imagine a quality program for less. If you find one, please let me now.

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  • Brad

    Did you ever get them a book list to read?

  • http://twitter.com/FamilyIntel Kim & Greg Harris

    Would love to see a follow-up blog post about your experience during the past year with this mentoring format. What worked? What didn’t? Thanks for considering this request!

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      I hope to do that. In fact, I just sent out a summary to my Mentees, outlining how we are going to do things this year. Mentoring has been one of the most rewarding experienced of my life.

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