Inside My Mentoring Group

I started my first mentoring group in January 2010 after being inspired by Regi Campbell, author of Mentor Like Jesus. His organization, Radical Mentoring, guided me through the process and enabled me to do something I had always dreamed of doing.

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Mentoring has been one of the most rewarding experiences of my life. The first year went so well, I decided to do it again in 2011. We just wrapped up our second season. I am doing it again in 2012.

Scores of people have written to ask how my group works. I thought I’d write about it here in the hope that you might be inspired to start your own group. (This is not an invitation to join my group. It is already full for 2012.)

I am contacted almost weekly by people who want to be mentored. If there’s one thing I have learned, it’s that young men and women are desperate for mentors who will build into their lives.

Here’s how my group works. (Again, this inspired by what I learned from Regi, but modified a bit by me.) Let’s start with the vision.

My vision is to help younger men live a God-centered, integrated life and fulfill their God-given potential.

I believe that we can be followers of Jesus Christ and have successful careers and be great husbands, fathers, church members, civic leaders, disciple-makers and friends—ALL at the same time.

I endeavor to share what I have learned about success in these areas, most often by focusing on where I have failed. (And I have plenty of examples!) I want to help my mentees avoid the same mistakes that I made along the way.

I have eight men in my group. Why so few? As Regi says, “More time with fewer men equals greater Kingdom impact.”

Also, the reason I have not included women is because I want to focus on those things that men struggle with. I believe mentoring is done best with those of the same gender. You may disagree, and that’s fine.

Requirements

I specifically recruit men who met the following criteria:

  • Men who have a passionate commitment to Jesus Christ. They may be struggling in their relationship with God, but, fundamentally, they want to grow.
  • Men who are married and in their late 20s to late 30s.
  • Men who are willing to look themselves in the mirror and make changes to improve.
  • Men who are teachable and willing to take direct feedback—about anything—without being defensive.
  • Men who are willing to replicate the process at least once with another group of guys sometime in the future.
  • Men who live in the greater Nashville area. I think it is important to be able to meet face-to-face.

Commitments

The men and their wives sign a written covenant to do the following:

  • Be on time to every session. I am big on punctuality.
  • Attend two scheduled retreats, one at the beginning of the year and one at the end. These start on a Friday evening and end late Saturday afternoon.

  • Meet with the group at my home once a month for three-hours (7:00–10:00 pm). This is the formal session.

  • Read one book a month. I assign these and the mentees are responsible for purchasing them themselves.
  • Prepare a written “net-out” (book summary) for each book and bring eight copies to each meeting.
  • Memorize two assigned Bible verses per month.
  • Meet with me one-on-one for lunch every eight weeks (six meetings through the year).

  • Meet with their assigned growth partner (one of the other mentees) in person or by phone once a month. These meetings can be as short or as long as the partners desire.

Opportunities

In addition, I invite my mentees to participate in these optional activities:

  • Meet with the group informally once a month for two hours (7:00–9:00 pm). This is the informal session and will be driven by my mentees’ questions. I host this in between the formal sessions.
  • Come to dinner with my wife, Gail, and me at our house once during the year—just the four of us. This is purely social.
  • Contact me as necessary to process any specific issues they need to work through.

Schedule and Topics

This is the program I have planned for this year:

Month Theme and Book Cost
Jan Launch Retreat: Creating Your Personal Life Plan by me $100.00
Feb Character: Who You Are When No One’s Looking by Bill Hybels $9.72
Mar Priorities: Choosing to Cheat by Andy Stanley $9.06
Apr Health: The Power of Full Engagement: Managing Energy, Not Time, Is the Key to High Performance and Personal Renewal by Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz $10.87
May Marriage: Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas $10.19
Jun Temptation: Sex Is Not the Problem (Lust Is) by Joshua Harris $9.77
Jul Fatherhood: Parenting with Love and Logic by Foster Cline and Jim Fay $16.15
Aug Talents: StrengthsFinder 2.0 by Tom Rath $14.97
Sep Leadership: The Servant: A Simple Story About the True Essence of Leadership by James C. Hunter $14.53
Oct Community: Samson and the Pirate Monks: Calling Men to Authentic Brotherhood by Nate Larkin $11.07
Nov Influence: Radical: Taking Back Your Faith from the American Dream by David Platt $14.95
Dec Graduation Retreat: Finishing Strong: Going the Distance for Your Family by Steve Farrar. $100.00

Agenda

The agenda for the formal, three-hour session looks like this:

  1. Prayer: We begin with me praying for the meeting.
  2. Catch-up: Each guy shares the high point and low point of the prior two weeks. I encourage the guys to take notes. They will need these at the end of the meeting.
  3. Scripture Memory: Each guy says his two assigned verses from memory. I then randomly ask guys for previously assigned verses.
  4. Break: We take a ten-minute break.
  5. Discussion: This is the bulk of our time. Each guy passes out copies of his book “net-out.” I then lead a discussion around the content of the book. (I use questions I have prepared before the meeting. I also do a net out.)
  6. Assignments: I make the assignments for the next session. This includes the next book, next two Scripture verses, and any exercises I expect them to complete. (Every session will have one practical exercise that they will do daily before the next session.)
  7. Prayer: We pray for one another, based on what was expressed in the Catch Up section.

The informal, two-hour session is driven entirely by their questions. They bring questions they want to ask me. These could be on any topic. I also ask the guys questions. It’s a very free-flowing discussion.

Cost

The total cost is approximately $360. This includes the books and the retreats above, plus the cost of going to lunch with me six times during the year. (We go “Dutch” and I assume they will spend $10.00 per lunch). In addition, I ask them to make a donation to Radical Mentoring and suggest $100 each.

As you can see, my guys make a serious commitment of time, effort, and money. So do I. This insures we all have “skin in the game” and maximize our learning.

I am really excited about leading my mentoring group this next year. I only wish I had time to do more than one. That’s also why I am praying that other men will step up and become mentors.

If you are over forty, I seriously encourage you to consider it. It will be one of the most rewarding things you could ever do.

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  • http://www.leighkramer.com/ HopefulLeigh

    I love the way you’ve structured this!  My one question is why being married is a requirement, whether that’s so everyone in the group is coming from the same place or so that you can specifically mentor that aspect of their lives?  As a single, I’m genuinely curious about that stipulation.  And if your wife ever decides to start her own group, I’d be very interested!

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      I think this is more of my own sense of calling. Having a group of singles, couples, or even mixed singles and couples would not be wrong. There is no right answer. It’s really a question of what you feel called to do. Thanks.

  • http://twitter.com/kelleyboles kelleyboles

    For a “Health” book. You may want to take a look at The 4-Hour Body by Timothy Ferriss. I have NOT read this so this is not a recommendation, but merely a suggestion as I have read positive reviews on it. 

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      The problem is that it has a chapter on Improving Sex that is inappropriate. I’m not opposed to sex; just a lot of his assumptions and methodology.
      Thanks for the suggestion.

      • http://goinswriter.com/ Jeff Goins

        I am also not opposed to sex. ;)

  • http://www.noahlomax.com Noah Lomax

    Michael, this is awesome! I’m thankful for men who have the burden for mentoring. I’m only 25, but I am involved in active mentoring of freshmen at the college I work at. Your blog gave me some great ideas.

    Here’s my question: how can I find the same type of mentoring? I have asked men in the past and it usually did not last or was primarily weekly shooting the breeze.

    You are right: most young people long for intentional mentoring. I do.

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      Jeff Goins has a great post on this: How to Find a Mentor in 10 Not-So-Easy Steps.

      • http://www.noahlomax.com Noah Lomax

        Thanks! I appreciate your influence!

      • http://goinswriter.com/ Jeff Goins

        wow. thanks, Mike!

  • http://blog.rumorsofglory.com/ Lucille Zimmerman

    Good morning Michael, I just happened to watch a video today that might make an interesting feature for your health topic. This doctor came to some startling conclusions about what causes health to flourish or go sour. It aligns exactly with the book I’m writing about self care: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7tu9nJmr4Xs

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      I’m checking it out now. Thanks!

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      This is excellent, Lucille. I just sent the link to Gail and my daughters. Powerful.

      • http://blog.rumorsofglory.com/ Lucille Zimmerman

        My husband came home for lunch so I showed him too. I’m glad you liked it.

  • http://www.15minutewriter.com Sharon Gibson

    Excellent that you are doing this and excellent that you are giving a model for others to follow. There is a huge need for this and we need to raise up more people to know and love God and to walk in His ways. Some people shrink back because they don’t think they are perfect enough. You don’t have to be perfect to mentor. In fact it’s better if you can be vulnerable about your mistakes and struggles because it gives people permission to admit theirs.

    Thanks again for this encouragement in a much needed area!

  • Abby

    I think it’s really great that you do this. I also agree that mentoring is done best with someone of the same gender. I’m going to pray that God brings me to a mentor and that I can also mentor someone else. 

  • BJ Strickliln

    Michael,
    As always, great stuff.  Thanks so much for the book recommendations as well.  I would love to see more of that.
    Do you publish your reading list for the year?  (via goodreads.com, etc)
    Or maybe you could do a “Top Ten Books I Read this Year” post at the end of the year?

    Either way…
    Thanks for the recommendations.
    BJ

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      Great suggestions! You might also check My BookShelf. I have listed my Mentoring books there.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      BJ, it looks like Michael’s post was missing a link but he does have a Reading List link at the top of the blog. You can see it at http://michaelhyatt.com/mybookshelf

      • BJ Strickliln

        Thanks Joe.

  • http://www.suttonparks.com Sutton Parks

     It is difficult to feel a sense of belonging in a church or bible study when they are geared towards couples and families.  Being a middle aged and single and economically challenged, I have found I need to seek out mentorship through books, tapes and inviting others to lunch or coffee.  I have to be very intentional about seeking mentorship and accepting it whether it’s through a book or in person and it is there if I look for it.  

  • http://twitter.com/CoachTheresaIF Theresa Ip Froehlich

    I got a lot out of this post. Mentoring has been on my heart for many years. While I’ve been mentoring some women one-on-one, I haven’t really been using any particular structure. Your post is especially valuable for providing a sample structure.

    Recently I started a small group at our church, focusing on discussion of how to apply the sermon in our lives. Your blogpost inspired me to start a group using the suggested structure.

    One question I have is the recruiting part. Your visibility as former Thomas Nelson CEO may naturally draw others to you (that is not to say that they would not have been attracted to you otherwise). Those of us who are not as visible in our communities may have to work harder at connecting with potential mentees. Our church has an online small group finder on our website, so that’s one way to recruit. If you or other readers have other suggestions, I sure would love to hear them.

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      If you don’t mind, scroll up the list of comments. I answered this a couple of times. I think I might need to do a post on it! Thanks.

  • Anonymous

    Thanks Michael! This was a big help. I am just about to launch my Radical Mentoring group next month. I’d appreciate your prayers!

    Jonathan Milligan

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      Good for you!

  • Michelle Sarabia

    So when is Gail going to start one? I’d be interested in that.

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      Actually, she has a Bible Study she teaches on Tuesdays.

  • http://twitter.com/diigentwarrior Ian Spence

    Thank you so much for this.  I have been preparing to set up a mentoring group and the structure I was considering includes much of what you have included – I was wondering if I was expecting too much from my mentees.

  • http://www.jeubfamily.com Chris Jeub

    Gee, can I be in this group? Seriously, I feel like I am. You are one of most transparent bloggers I know, Michael, and I love reading up on your life. Keep up the Kingdom work!

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      Wow. Thanks. You made my day.

  • http://twitter.com/joshkelley Josh Kelley

    This is a great concept and I hope it encourages many new mentors. But what about all of the men and women who want to be mentored?

    One of the most important elements of my life is my “Mutual Mentoring” group; a group of guys who have been meeting together over beer, helping each other grow for the past 7 years.

    Groups like this have been duplicated in our church for men and women, especially after I preached on how to set up your own group. If anyone is interested in that material, they are welcome to it: http://bit.ly/tgmv159

    Josh Kelley
    http://www.RadicallyNormal.com

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      Cool. That’s certainly an alternative.

    • http://michaelhyatt.com/ Michael Hyatt

      Yes, I agree with this concept. I talk about it in this post, “How to Find a Mentor to Help You Go Further, Faster.” I talk about MasterMind groups there.

  • http://markjmartin.com Mark Martin

    Wow, great post!  I can see this working in a college and career group setting.

    I am 29, and I lead the young single adults ministry at our church.  I’ve had a burden to focus more on “discipleship” in 2012, and this gives me food for thought about how to go about it.

    It would probably start out with a fewer number of people than even 8.  We currently have about 5 men in our young single adults group.  Fewer still may sign up, but it could still be very valuable for those who do.

    Thanks, again, for a tremendously helpful post!

  • Dalton Paul Saunders

    Michael,

    Do you know of someone in Memphis, TN within your network that may be willing to do this? I know of 4-5 young guys you talk about in this area that could benefit from a mentor that fit your criteria, including myself?

  • Anonymous

    Really enjoyed/inspired by reading this post, it definitely has given me a renewed desire to be involved in a group like this and also a thorough structure to how it might work.

    i am not currently in a group like this but personally intend to use reading list

    From reading some of the comments it seems obvious that there is a real desire  for many of the readers to be engaged in something like this.

    I guess for most of us, its working out how this might work, particulalry if most of your interaction is with your peers….

  • http://wheretigerswill.wordpress.com Will Laohoo

    Great post! I think it’s great that you do this, and I hope to emulate you in this one day. I think it would be cool if you started a network of mentoring around the country (and maybe the world) based on your structure.

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      I actually already picked one. Take another look at the post. It is in the table with a link to the book.

  • http://idreamculture.com/ Andy Mason

    Mentoring takes the best of you and gives it to others, which is good. But how do you get people to go ‘greater than you’ like Jesus said? How do you allow freedom to help those being mentored to discover who they are and live out the fullness of who God made them to be?

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      Great question. What do you think?

      • http://www.christianfaithatwork.com Chris Patton

        I hate to just be an Andy Stanley quote machine…but his advice at Catalyst was that it is not our responsibility to fill the mentee’s cup, just to empty our own! We cannot teach them everything they need to know, just everything we know…and how to learn more on their own.

        I think, from what I have seen of your program, you are already teaching them to go greater. You are teaching them how to do for themselves and grow as leaders.

        You are teaching them how to develop a Life Plan, not to copy yours. You are teaching them how to determine their own strengths and use them to their potential, not mimic yours.

        I have not read all of the other books on your list, but I think you get the idea. Your focus already seems to be on teaching them how to learn, much like going to college. I am using very little, if anything, I learned in college. At the same time, I learned how to approach problems in college. I learned how to learn. If I can apply that, then I will grow on my own.

        • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

          Yes, Chris, that is correct. Thanks.

      • http://www.facebook.com/andy.janine Andy Janine Mason

        Your response is perfect. Rather than giving all the answers, draw on what people already have/know by using questions that teach them to think. Most of us already know what we should do, we just need the courage to act on it. What if we could have accountability to our greatness rather than just accountability to our weaknesses?

        Thanks Michael for what you are doing. Your blog is informative and practical. it has personally assisted me as we start out as writers, bloggers and public speakers. Andy Mason http://idreamculture.com

        • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

          Thanks, Andy. I appreciate that.

  • http://twitter.com/executivesquid Edward Temple

    Wow! Very cool. Thanks for the blog. I will consider doing something like this in three years (when I turn 40). I like the structure and plan. I also like that is has nothing to do with a particular church or church program. Please, I can’t handle any more ads for “amazing” small group material!

    I am an Executive Pastor and regularly talk about “church programs.” I think we need more organic things like this. My sense is that we don’t need pastors telling followers what to do and how to do it. We need followers going out on creatively “following,” and then pastors championing and celebrating what they are seeing.

  • Samantha Johnson

    I have done a similar kind of mentoring (and being under someone’s mentorship) when I lived in Manila. I am longing to do it with women here but quite unsure where to start since I just moved to Nashville.

    My husband (whose job as a youth pastor at a church plant in Franklin is what brought us here) is also wondering if you open your mentoring group to applications. 

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      Unfortunately, all my slots are full for 2012. I am not aware of a women’s mentoring group in Nashville. However, you might check with Radical Mentoring.

  • http://www.danapittman.com Dana Pittman

    Thank you! I could write an essay instead of merely a comment, but I won’t. Your post answered a prayer. I subscribe to your blog and receive your posts by email. I read post, which is not true for many of the emails I receive. My prayer was to develop the structure for a small women’s group. U have ladies interested and ready. However, something was missing. I have been reading and researching only to receive my answer via YOU. Thank you.

    QUESTION: Would you consider sharing the application and covenant? Also, do you plan to read the same books with your mentees that are carrying over to the new year?

    Thank you, God bless, and Merry Christmas to you and your family.

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      Sure You can find the covenant here. No, the new mentees will not read the previous books. We will all read the same books that I listed in the post.
      Hope that helps.

      • http://www.danapittman.com Dana Pittman

        Thank you again.

  • Anonymous

    Seeing what topics you cover (and don’t) was interesting, and did spark one thought. I was curious to see that you don’t have a “finances” topic. Since “money, sex, and power” seem to be three big issues, that seems to be an intentional omission. Or do you hit that when discussing David Platt’s book?

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      We covered it last year, but you are right. It is a major issue. So many topics, so little time!

  • http://www.dennismccaskill.com Dennis McCaskill

    Hi Michael, This sounds great. Pity I live in New Zealand. Are you interested in doing some mentoring via skype etc?

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      No, I’m afraid I don’t have the bandwidth. Kind regards.

  • http://recreationalwordslinger.wordpress.com/ Tessa

    Thanks for letting us into the inner realm of your mentoring program! I wish I could find a women’s group in my area that is like yours. 

  • Laurie

    Great details Michael! I’m an ordained minister and a certified life coach. I mentor and coach men, women, and couples. It is very difficult to gain mentoring insight and leadership tools from my heroes who are men. I understand and respect any leader who wants to mentor where they are an expert (same gender). I love your blog ! I have accepted the crumbs of resources and influence some men have given to me. Thankyou for sharing your specific intentions,vision, and books……so valuable!!! This girl will feast for days on it!

    -Laurie

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      Thank you, Laurie. Very kind of you to take time to say so.

  • http://www.tnealtarver.wordpress.com TNeal

    I emailed this to my two pastor friends. I appreciate the map you’ve laid out on the table. Your specifics help me see the possibilities. Curious as to the age choices you work with and wonder what you’d suggest for those later in life. I actually see two age groups (one younger, one much older) where this mentoring model might be helpful.

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      Are you asking about mentees who are older? or mentors?

      Regardless, I think this is largely a matter of calling.

      • http://www.tnealtarver.wordpress.com TNeal

        As a mentor, I would look at where my influence is–guys my age (which is mid-50′s) and high school to early 20′s. Those are the people I see on a regular basis who might consider a mentoring program. Anyway your post has been extremely clear and practical. Thanks.

  • Jill Farris

    Michael, you have inspired me. I have mentored younger moms and have a heart for that. I am a big believer that women need to also see older women in their homes and relating to their families (in order to visualize some of the lessons)….at least I did as a young mom and wife!

    I am wondering how you decide who (of the many) are you going to work with for the year. Do you just pray about it? Take the first bunch who make the commitment? How many “no shows” do you give them before you tell them “thank you but I’ll see you later”? Commitment and punctuality is a concept that many people don’t seem to have in this day and age so I am sure that is a challenge.

    Thanks again!

    Jill Farris

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      Thanks, Jill. I first announced the mentoring group on my blog. I had 42 apply. I required them to fill out a formal application. Then I prayed over those 42 and picked 8.
      I don’t allow them to miss any sessions unless “providentially hindered.” That’s what it says in the covenant they sign. I cover this on the front-end, and don’t expect any absences. It’s not been a problem.
      You have to set the standard high and enforce it. This is part of what they are learning: to make commitments and keep them.
      Thanks again.

  • http://tbolto.wordpress.com/ Thomas Bolton

    Wonderful tips!  I started a group at my Church in September–Learners Leaders & Relationships–for disciples of all ages.  We listen to a leadership audio or video presentation, eat pizza and discuss the topic of the week and form pairs and small groups to mentor each other on needed areas, which vary by individuals.  I will look at your tips for adding some additional structure and formality.  Thanks!

  • Jean

    Thank you for such a play-by-play plan.  Practical too.  

  • Jean

    Me again Michael, how are you doing retreats for just $100?  Including lodging, food, and speaker?

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      I am the speaker. And I am free! The lodging, food, and recreational activity (ropes course or paint ball) is LESS than $100. I just put that in there to be safe. It’s a local Christian retreat center and very nice.

  • http://twitter.com/jerburroughs Jeremy Burroughs

    I really love this post. I have ordered several of these books after reading about these. I have read Choosing to Cheat and it rocked my world. I thank God for Andy Stanley’s voice in that book. 

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Derek-Johnson/100002228041272 Derek Johnson

    Is this post an invitation for us to sign-up to be accepted?  I am in Hendersonville and would be honored to be considered for this.  I just turned 40 last month and feel directionless at this point in my life – after having been in the ministry for the past 14 years.

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      Unfortunately, no. My group for 2012 is already selected. This was just a report on what I am doing. Sorry.

  • Justin Fratt

    Hi Michael –

    I read that your group is full for 2012. Do you happen to have a “waiting list” for future years or is it best to see if something opens up and apply at that time? Thanks in advance for your response.

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      If you are interested, I can add you to the list. I do keep a waiting list.

      • http://goinswriter.com/ Jeff Goins

        I’d like to be on that list.

        • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

          Consider yourself added!

          • Justin Fratt

            Thanks Michael – I am interested and would like to be added! Thanks for your consideration and Happy New Year.

          • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

            Done!

  • http://www.jeffrandleman.com Jeff Randleman

    This is incredible!  I wish I lived closer to Nashville!

  • http://www.bigb94.wordpress.com Brandon

    Wow! That’s pretty cool!

  • Roman

    This was absolutely brilliant! As a 21 year old, I think you are right on when you say younger men and women want to me mentored by older men and women. Just today I met with an older man, and the meeting was SO valuable! Great stuff here Michael, thanks for sharing! 

  • http://uma-maheswaran.blogspot.com/ Uma Maheswaran S

    I would love to be part of this group. But, my geography is placing the spolsport.

  • http://fitnessexpose.com Michael Mahony

    Awesome concept and something I want to explore with my church family. I was just wondering how you plan the retreat in such a way that is it so inexpensive? Also, why start with the retreat itself?

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      I start with the retreat, because I want the guys to get to know one another. This jump-starts that process. We all go around and share our stories in-depth.
      With regard to cost, I just called around to a bunch of different retreat centers and camps.
      Thanks.

  • Anonymous

    @TNeal:disqus ….This is crazy….my best friend’s mom makes $88 an hour on the computer. She has been out of job for 10 months but last month her check was $5483 just working on the computer for a few hours...Read about it here…. WantMoney .….

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  • Jim K

    Mr. Michael, I wonder if you could talk at some point in the near future. I have read what you have written here and am very impressed with the discipline of the program’s organization. I am currently involved in a men’s ministry here in Nashville that is comprised of several hundred and am wondering if I could pick your brain. If possible, I will recheck this site.

  • http://www.facebook.com/brentmundie Brent Mundie

    Hi Michael, 

    I’d love to be added to your waiting list as well.  I just moved to the Nashville area and I think I fit your profile perfectly (30 yr-old husband, father, Christian, leader).  I just finished up 7 years as an Air Force officer and I’m looking for a great way to use all my talents at work, home, and church.  I’d love to hear from you if something opens up.  

    Brent Mundie
    brentmundie … at … gmail … dot … com (hope that will fend off the scrolling internet bots)

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      Great. I have just added you. Thanks.

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  • Valleyrewards

    Hi Michael, I have really enjoyed reading your blog.  I am a female worship leader and my husband is the associate pastor at the church we work for.  It is a rapidly growing church and I am finding it harder to connect with the other people in our team on more than just a surface level.  We are doing team meetings once a month and “Wired meetings” bi-monthly to keep vision in the forefront and give tools to keep growing and moving forward. So… I am trying to figure out a way to have an impacting and consistent time to meet with the women in the Worship Ministry.  I am seeing the need for this but I don’t want it to turn into me controlling and leading everything.  I want it to be organic in nature and for the women to take ownership and interest in each others lives.  I am seeing that there are really two categories the women could be in- 1. Those that want to put the “skin” into it as you say and 2. those that really just need a friend, someone to encourage them spiritually and relationally.  It seems like I would need to have two separate groups???  I have also been looking at becoming a life coach.  Do you have a recommend program that I could become certified in?  Thank you for your time.

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      I basically have two groups, too: my formal mentoring group and then an ad hoc group of men that I meet with individually, usually at their initiative for encouragement. With regard to a certified life coaching program, I am afraid that I m not familiar with one. If you come across one, please let me know. Thanks.

  • Valleyrewards

    Hi Micheal,  Can you please clarify the differences between “Coaching” and being a “Mentor”
    Thank you

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      They are very similar. I think a coach is generally a paid position—at least, that’s how I think of it. I mentor people for free. If I coached them, I would charge. Both are legitimate. In fact, I have a coach that I pay to coach me!

  • http://fitnessexpose.com Michael Mahony

    Would you be willing to share the contents of the application you use?

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      Which application are you referring to?

      • http://fitnessexpose.com Michael Mahony

        Sorry, I should have been more specific. I was referring to the application you required in order to join the group. The application potential group members turn in that you use to pick the members of the group.

        • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

          I sent them each an email, inviting them to apply. I outlined the program, including the cost, and then asked them to answer these questions:
          What is your age?

          - What do you do for a living?

          - What is your educational background? (I don’t care if you dropped out of high school or have a Ph.D. I just want to know about your background.)
          - What is your wife’s name, how did you meet, and how long have you been married?
          - What are you children’s names and ages?

          - Describe your spiritual journey in 250 words or less.

          - What is the biggest challenge you are facing in your relationship with God, your marriage? your career? your parenting?
          - What church do you presently belong to and how involved are you?

          - Why do you want to be in this group and what do you expect to get out of it?
          - Are you willing to abide by all the requirements if you are selected?
          I hope that helps.

  • Stephanie

    Thank you for writing this! I read “Creating Your Personal Life Plan” earlier this year…and I took notes specifically about mentoring. I appreciate that you took the time to bring further clarity to how the group works.

  • Jean-Paul

    Any suggestions for those of us who are ” a bit behind the curve” in the 50 and over set – are we too old to be mentored?

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      Absolutely not. You’re never too old for a mentor.

  • http://www.irunurun.com/blog/ Travis Dommert

    Having been blessed to meet Regi and quite a few of the guys who have been through his program here in Atlanta, one statistic stood out above all the rest…of the 72 men who went through the program in the first 9 years he did it…zero divorces.  ZERO.

    • http://uma-maheswaran.blogspot.com/ Uma Maheswaran S

      Great statistics Travis! That’s mentoring – par excellence.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      Sounds like Regi did an awesome job with his program. That is impressive.