Ken Lang

Most things in life seem to center around who you know, what you know, or what you do. But the most important thing is who you are (character/integrity). If you make all your important decisions in that category first, the other areas will fall into place. If you do it out of order…. you already provided an example.

Speaking from personal experience, you are right on target. I said many time that we’re all an eighth of a second away from doing something really stupid and it making the front page. In my case, it was fourteen days in a row; most above the fold.

While it ended a life I had known for over fifteen years, it didn’t completely end my life. There’s a line in a popular movie that says, “You can get busy living or get busy dying.” I decided the former was better than the latter.

You bring out some important points, but finding an accountability group is most important. While your spouse needs to be a big part of that process, having a small group of Christian friends of the same sex you can speak frankly with is recommended. My goal in my upcoming memoir is to capture your comments and expand on others so we never forget in this electronic age, just about everything we say and do can be preserved and viewed for as long as our world exist. Keep up the great work.

Thanks for your post!

We're dealing with the consequences of my husband's decisions and it hasnt' been fun or pretty. Thank God that He is good!

Lizzie

Ecclesiastes 10:1:
As dead flies give perfume a bad smell, so a little folly outweighs wisdom and honor.

Christ provided us the escape route from making destructive decisions–he made the way for us to go to God and ask for knowledge, understanding, and wisdom. If we take advantage of what Christ has done, we will become equipped to overcome the impulsivity that can lead to big-time trouble. Reason, not feelings, will win the war against the kingdom of evil–the war that took Steven McNair's life–and usher in the return of Christ.

Sin is shimmering and enticing and deceitfully delightful…chaos appears bright, exhilarating and attractive, but it is a trap, a death sentence, whether physical or spiritual or both.

Very timely post. Thank you.

I regularly remember that line 15 years later as one of the most emotionally powerful warnings I have ever been given. It's not just the words, but the tone of voice. He delivered it like a master storyteller, a sort of Christian Stephen King, except this was REAL!

Has it stopped me from sinning? Oh, how I wish. But at least I can share the warning with others in the hopes of eliminating a little bit of chaos.

On a brighter note, in recent years I've come to recognize that the opposite is true as well. We have NO IDEA how long-lasting the effects of our good actions are.

I think God likes doing that to keep us humble.

I'm sorry for McNair and his family. Honestly. And your post has taught me that the lesson here is not "Don't have an affair, Jeff," but, "Don't flirt with the waitress, Jeff."

Thanks.

How do I want to be remembered? As a Christ-loving wife who loved her family and friends unconditionally. I have my accountability group pray for me frequently to keep me on track as I do for them. It's so important to have godly people prayin' for ya constantly.

Great post. Thanks for it. Such a tragedy.

You might find this book interesting http://www.amazon.com/Principle-Path-How-Where-Wa…

I reviewed it for Thomas Nelson a few weeks ago. Much needed advice for our young people.