Comments on: The Gift of Validation

By: Christian Ray

Christian Ray — Tue, 17 Jan 2012 02:32:00 +0000

Insightful video. My wife Deb is my biggest validator. Ultimately we all long for the big “…well done”, don’t we?

By: Paula Davis

Paula Davis — Tue, 17 Jan 2012 01:57:00 +0000

This was incredibly inspiring to me. I work at the front desk of an orthopaedic office and this makes me think of all the opportunities I have each day to validate others. I’m going to make this my mission from now on.

Michael, thanks for sharing, and for inspiring others with each post you write. God uses you in my life and I’m certain he does in others.

blessings to you!
Paula

http://www.pauladavispeace.com

By: Vwmashni

Vwmashni — Mon, 08 Aug 2011 21:14:00 +0000

unbelievable video..def worth the 16 minutes.

By: Andrew Allen

Andrew Allen — Sat, 06 Aug 2011 16:35:00 +0000

What a great video and great lesson. Made me smile :-)

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sat, 06 Aug 2011 05:17:00 +0000

I love this video…it has been awhile since I watched it…thanks for the reminder to validate others!

By: Paul

Paul — Sat, 06 Aug 2011 03:32:00 +0000

Amazing video. Thanks for sharing. 16 minutes of my time well spent. God bless you!

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By: Georgiana

Georgiana — Fri, 24 Dec 2010 22:08:00 +0000

Validation, encouragement, support all filled with positivity is what we all need in this world! I’m so thankful for my loving family and close friends who have been with me through both good times and bad. God is gracious in providing when we are in need and his Word is a genuine validation beyond all measure! :-)

By: DerekDRobertson

DerekDRobertson — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 19:09:06 +0000

Wow, I am a person who needs a ton of Validation and just the need to feel imortant. It took my wife quite sometime to figure this out and pinpoint. When she did it really helped our relationship but also helped me to try to stop depening on other peoples validation and of course to look to God for that. Cause as always we disapoint each other.

Tnaks for the reminder

By: Jeroen

Jeroen — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 18:41:00 +0000

Thank you very much for this inspiring post!

By: Jeroen

Jeroen — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 17:41:00 +0000

Thank you very much for this inspiring post!

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Blogging Makes Me Feel Like Charlie Brown « Scott D. Winter — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 14:08:22 +0000

[...] know I sound all whiny, but don’t we all want/need to feel validated? It reminds me of this post, from a man who has no need to whine about his blog [...]

By: JasonWert

JasonWert — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 16:03:00 +0000

IMO, lack of validation in someone's life can slowly starve someone's spirit to death the same way lack of food will starve the body. I've been giving my wife validation in a new venture she's working on.

By: JasonWert

JasonWert — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 16:03:00 +0000

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Validation « All Signs Point 2 God — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 14:09:36 +0000

[...] could have said this better. Michael Hyatt, president and CEO of Thomas Nelson Publishers, has a blog entry discussing people’s need for validation and how we can help. He writes, Validation. [...]

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By: FaithBarista Bonnie

FaithBarista Bonnie — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 16:17:17 +0000

I L-U-V this post. My total "hot" button in ministry and life, in general.

If only we could validate as much as we criticize, how much brighter and happier our world around us would be.

If I could err on the side of love, why not? I say. Take a risk. Love and validate someone TODAY. 1 Cor 13.

Thanks, Michael!

By: FaithBarista Bonnie

FaithBarista Bonnie — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 16:17:00 +0000

I L-U-V this post. My total "hot" button in ministry and life, in general.

If only we could validate as much as we criticize, how much brighter and happier our world around us would be.

If I could err on the side of love, why not? I say. Take a risk. Love and validate someone TODAY. 1 Cor 13.

Thanks, Michael!

By: dewde

dewde — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 16:11:41 +0000

My nephew is the only (half) black member of our entire family. He is being raised by white folk. The question of validating his role in the family, and validating him directly, sort of blind-sided me when he was about 5 years old. I wrote about it here: http://bit.ly/tlx42 peace | dewde

By: dewde

dewde — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 16:11:00 +0000

By: Kayla

Kayla — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 02:46:00 +0000

I totally just watched that video for TJ Thyne AKA Dr. Hodgins from Bones, but it was AWESOME. Thanks for posting!

By: Kayla

Kayla — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 02:46:00 +0000

I totally just watched that video for TJ Thyne AKA Dr. Hodgins from Bones, but it was AWESOME. Thanks for posting!

By: Dave Aldrich

Dave Aldrich — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 01:53:00 +0000

That was awesome! Thanks for sharing.

By: Dave Aldrich

Dave Aldrich — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 01:53:00 +0000

That was awesome! Thanks for sharing.

By: Janet

Janet — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 23:11:57 +0000

Ah, but there's validation and there's empty praise.

Once I was doing some side-by-side translating at a banquet at an international event. As we were leaving the banquet hall, a member of the audience came up to me with a bright smile and said, "You did such a good job!" I swelled a bit. "Oh," I said, "do you speak French?" "No," she said brightly. I deswelled. I still haven't figured out exactly what she thought she was complimenting.

I guess she just wanted to make me feel good, which was very sweet, but her compliment was empty. A puff of Dream Whip, with no substance.

The power of a meaningful and justified compliment should never be underestimated though. I've sometimes gone months or years on the strength of one of those. And while I tend to be a bit sparing with mine, I've seen my kids beam with pride when they earn them. They know that I don't hand out compliments unless I've got good reason to and even if they are rarer, they've got a fantastic shelf life. (None of that, "Of course you'd say that, you're my mother.")

Not trying to be difficult here, just looking at the issue from another angle.

By: Janet

Janet — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 23:11:00 +0000

Ah, but there's validation and there's empty praise.

I guess she just wanted to make me feel good, which was very sweet, but her compliment was empty. A puff of Dream Whip, with no substance.

Not trying to be difficult here, just looking at the issue from another angle.

By: LauraLee@Selah

LauraLee@Selah — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 21:35:00 +0000

Oh YES, how true is this? I don't have time to watch the video right now, but your words alone are full of wisdom. I have always been one to easily validate others, so I often crave it myself. When I'm walking surrendered to the Lord's way of thinking, I'm focused on Him and others instead of how anyone else views me. Excellent post.

By: LauraLee@Selah

LauraLee@Selah — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 21:35:00 +0000

By: Validation, everyone needs it. | titakosivilma.com

Validation, everyone needs it. | titakosivilma.com — Wed, 15 Apr 2009 12:16:46 +0000

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By: Who Have You Validated Today? | Everyday Excellence

Who Have You Validated Today? | Everyday Excellence — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 04:31:37 +0000

[...] important it is to affirm others after seeing a great youtube video about validation mentioned by Michael Hyatt on his blog. It’s a sixteen minute clip and just shows how much validating someone can make [...]

By: Karin

Karin — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 03:45:00 +0000

My blogs was on 'compliments' and then I found yours on validating. I was blessed!! I took the video and also linked to your post. Thank you so much for these excellent thoughts.

By: Karin

Karin — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 02:45:57 +0000

My blogs was on ‘compliments’ and then I found yours on validating. I was blessed!! I took the video and also linked to your post. Thank you so much for these excellent thoughts.

By: MANOLIS

MANOLIS — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 23:35:00 +0000

Thanks for a great post!

By: MANOLIS

MANOLIS — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 22:35:54 +0000

Thanks for a great post!

By: Jason

Jason — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 19:26:00 +0000

Pure magic!!!

I have to confess, I was so validated and inspired, I stole your blog entry for my blog. But I gave you credit. Does that make it ok?

Thanks for the inspiration!

By: Rachel Hauck

Rachel Hauck — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 18:28:00 +0000

Mike Wrote: But God is the one Person who is wholly other-centered. He made us in his image and delights in us. He stubbornly loves us even when we are unlovable. If that’s not validation, I don’t know what is.

I love this, Mike. No truer words were ever written.

I recently listened to one of my fav teacher/preachers talking about loving people and have decided to work on loving, thus validating, others.

We are all so uniquely made, some things can only be said by "me." (or you. each of us.)

I can tell from Gail's tweets and the dinner I shared with her a few years ago, she is an encourager and validator.

Thanks for this post!

Rachel

By: Jason

Jason — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 18:26:11 +0000

Pure magic!!!

I have to confess, I was so validated and inspired, I stole your blog entry for my blog. But I gave you credit. Does that make it ok?

Thanks for the inspiration!

By: Rachel Hauck

Rachel Hauck — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 17:28:34 +0000

I love this, Mike. No truer words were ever written.

I recently listened to one of my fav teacher/preachers talking about loving people and have decided to work on loving, thus validating, others.

We are all so uniquely made, some things can only be said by “me.” (or you. each of us.)

I can tell from Gail’s tweets and the dinner I shared with her a few years ago, she is an encourager and validator.

Thanks for this post!

Rachel

By: Matthew Cain

Matthew Cain — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 17:16:01 +0000

Discovering new things like that is one of the great things about your blog. I’m so grateful that you blog.

By: Matthew Cain

Matthew Cain — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 17:16:00 +0000

Discovering new things like that is one of the great things about your blog. I’m so grateful that you blog.

By: Stephen Swain

Stephen Swain — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 17:15:00 +0000

Here's a thought: There are times when we experience ourselves as being so empty that all that is left is to continue to validate the others we meet in the most ordinary of circumstances. When we are so exhausted that we can barely cling to the mystery of why we are still here, when our purpose in life has eluded us again, when God seems infinitely distant or reticent, it helps to take pleasure in every glimmering of the ordinary that we see and feel in others. This unheralded moment of give-and-take may actually surpass in beauty and meaning all the grand things we ever wished or hoped for. Let us not fail to remember that those whom we acknowledge and validate may be experiencing their own desert too. And the smile or touch or word of common kindness we exchange may be manna for us both.

By: Lynn Squire

Lynn Squire — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 17:09:00 +0000

Mr. Hyatt, a big AMEN. I've read your blog for over a year now and have seen you struggle – and not without cause. I nod my head in agreement, not just because your words are true, but because I am seeing God work in your life and you responding to Him. Praise God.

By: Stephen Swain

Stephen Swain — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 16:15:14 +0000

Here’s a thought: There are times when we experience ourselves as being so empty that all that is left is to continue to validate the others we meet in the most ordinary of circumstances. When we are so exhausted that we can barely cling to the mystery of why we are still here, when our purpose in life has eluded us again, when God seems infinitely distant or reticent, it helps to take pleasure in every glimmering of the ordinary that we see and feel in others. This unheralded moment of give-and-take may actually surpass in beauty and meaning all the grand things we ever wished or hoped for. Let us not fail to remember that those whom we acknowledge and validate may be experiencing their own desert too. And the smile or touch or word of common kindness we exchange may be manna for us both.

By: Lynn Squire

Lynn Squire — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 16:09:38 +0000

Mr. Hyatt, a big AMEN. I’ve read your blog for over a year now and have seen you struggle – and not without cause. I nod my head in agreement, not just because your words are true, but because I am seeing God work in your life and you responding to Him. Praise God.

By: Eva Ulian

Eva Ulian — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 14:13:00 +0000

Amazing post. And I identified completely with that photographer… if you want genuine reactions from people, you too must be genuine with them.

By: Eva Ulian

Eva Ulian — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 13:13:47 +0000

Amazing post. And I identified completely with that photographer… if you want genuine reactions from people, you too must be genuine with them.

By: Abby

Abby — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 11:01:00 +0000

Mike, great post, and you are SO right! We all need and crave validation. I do everyday. Problem is, I need to seek it from God and not depend on it from other people. Because only God can truly validate me and who I am. But I want to be a validator as well, to remind people how God feels toward them. I think this is going to be a new prayer of mine…"Lord, how can we together validate __________ today?"

By: Abby

Abby — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 10:01:28 +0000

Mike, great post, and you are SO right! We all need and crave validation. I do everyday. Problem is, I need to seek it from God and not depend on it from other people. Because only God can truly validate me and who I am. But I want to be a validator as well, to remind people how God feels toward them. I think this is going to be a new prayer of mine…”Lord, how can we together validate __________ today?”

By: Scoti Springfield Do

Scoti Springfield Do — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 09:26:00 +0000

A friend emailed the link to me, then I saw it on Tiffany's blog. So I jumped on the band wagon and wrote a validation piece relating to single parents on my blog with a link to this video. Years ago, I decided on a "Go ahead, make my day" motto, "If I think something nice about someone, why don't I tell that person?" So I verbalize it, even at fast food drive ups. I LOVE going to one Wendy's NOT because of the food, but because of the upbeat woman who takes my money–and I told her so.

Some hypothesize that there are 7,500,000,000,000,000,000, or seven quintillion five quadrillion grains of sand in the world. And God's loving thoughts towards me outnumber every grain. Now THAT'S validation.

By: Scoti Springfield Domeij

Scoti Springfield Domeij — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 08:26:08 +0000

A friend emailed the link to me, then I saw it on Tiffany’s blog. So I jumped on the band wagon and wrote a validation piece relating to single parents on my blog with a link to this video. Years ago, I decided on a “Go ahead, make my day” motto, “If I think something nice about someone, why don’t I tell that person?” So I verbalize it, even at fast food drive ups. I LOVE going to one Wendy’s NOT because of the food, but because of the upbeat woman who takes my money–and I told her so.

Some hypothesize that there are 7,500,000,000,000,000,000, or seven quintillion five quadrillion grains of sand in the world. And God’s loving thoughts towards me outnumber every grain. Now THAT’S validation.