The Most Important Question You Will Ever Be Asked as a Leader

This is a guest post by Jeremie Kubicek. He is the author of the new book, Leadership is Dead: How Influence is Reviving It. He is also the CEO of GiANT Impact, the company that owns Catalyst and produces the Chick-fil-A Leadercast. You can follow Jeremie on Twitter or read his blog. If you want to guest post on this blog, check out the guidelines here.

To be a true influencer in the lives of those you lead, you must understand a simple, but powerful question. It is one your followers are asking. It goes like this: “Are you for me, against me, or for yourself?”

Followers Holding Up Question Mark Signs in Front of Their Faces - Photo courtesy of ©, Image #11860969

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It is a great question, one that is asked by those you and I lead at least once within the relationship. Once the question has been confirmed, it rarely comes up again. Our followers know our intent towards them or at least towards ourselves.

Here is an exercise you can do to fully understand the concept:

  • Make a list your past 5-10 bosses or influencers in your life.
  • Beside their name simply write whether or not they were for you, against you, or for themselves.
  • Think about a few key examples to solidify your answer.

I would guess that, in most cases, you wrote down that they were for themselves. It is rare to have your last several leaders be against you. (If so, there may be other issues at work.) And while some are adamantly for you, my experience is that most leaders are more focused on things that affect themselves.

That is not a crime. Nor is it a major character flaw. I have had dozens of leaders that I have appreciated who have been deeply focused on themselves first and foremost. The problem is that they are not memorable. Therefore, they are not significant in my life.

Oh, but I do remember those who were for me. Not only do I remember them, I revere them and value them as leaders and friends. These leaders believed in me, listened to me and appreciated my gifts. Not only that, but they intently invested in my life in significant and valuable ways.

I remember leaders like Kent Humphreys, who poured himself in to me and showed me how to serve employees and vendors. Or, Johnny Bingaman, who gave up time and energy to listen to me and counsel me in my early entrepreneurial years. These men were for me.

Now, back to those in your life. Those you lead or serve are asking you a question. Some already believe they have an answer. Are you for them, against them, or for yourself? Make this next exercise mean something.

  1. Make a list of people you lead or serve within your organization.
  2. Beside their names ask yourself if you are for them, against them or for yourself?
  3. Next to that list write how you believe they see you. Do you think they believe you are for them, against them or for yourself?
  4. Now, ask yourself the same question about your family members.

Do you think most people in your life have already answered this question? If so, how can you open the topic up again and, perhaps, change their mind?

If our goal is to “do unto others as we would want done to us,” then I suggest as leaders we reevaluate who we are for and why? If we can show others that we are authentically for them then I believe you will find yourself having even greater influence with those you lead.

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  • Deanna

    I have led professionally, organizationally and situationally. But now I lead relationally. I now lead from my living room couch, leveraging the influence God has given me with young women in search of a mentor/mother figure, big sister, friend. I live near a large university and seek to influence the next generation of women struggling with the balance of culturally mandated pursuits of career, relational independence and financial success vs. the heart-driven, Biblical pursuit of marriage, parenthood and homemaking. There is a balance there, but almost no one finds it without guidance. I am seeking any help and resources I can find to do what I do well. Thank you for considering me in this giveaway.
    Deanna Davis

    • Schmid Andreas

      as a youthpastor my person is all that i have to lead others. they don’t really buy in to titles, they don’t get paid. and exactly this makes leadership challenging and beautiful… i find it hard to find a good balance here. is it selfish to invest ‘into myself’. no not at all. it later on serves the them. but does it really? and do the people of the church have the same perspective? not always!

      i want to be ‘for the people’ i lead. but if i get emptied because of that i have to be ‘for myself’ first. but i notice more and more that it is hard, to realize how much capacity do i really have for those relationships. and how much can/need i take time out to invest into long haul…

  • Brian

    I like turtles.

    • Jherrel Peters

      You should win.

      • Brian

        I agree.

        • Trina

          I agree!

    • Brandon

      Haha! That video is awesome! Maybe I should always respond to this blog with “I like turtles!” :)

  • David Santistevan

    Seems like a very timely read. With the onslaught of leadership books available, I wonder if the heart of leadership is getting lost. I want to have influence – influence in my worship leading, as a pastor, as a blogger – influence to spread the greatest message on earth. I think this book will help me get there.

    • Brandon

      I agree with you!

    • Joe Lalonde

      David, I don’t think it’s so much the heart of leadership is getting lost. I think it’s more that the discipleship that builds up leaders hasn’t been happening and that’s why all these leadership books are coming out.

      • Conner Snedden

        As a kid right out of college, at my first job for about a year, my take on “leadership” may be a bit sideways. In corporate America I’ve noticed leadership is something that needs to be taught. At a time where the job market, especially for new grads, is not flourishing, managers seem to be clinching tight to their projects that those under them are very capable of doing. The problem? they think holding on will give them job security.

        The focus of leadership needs to make a shift from “if I hold on I have job security” to “if I pass this off, maybe I’ll get promoted”. People are scared, and when you’re scared, you can’t make moves, nor can you teach those you’re suppose to be “mentoring”.

        • Joe Lalonde

          Conner, I think your view is pretty spot on. I feel their attitude is a lot like the “scarcity mentality”. Rather than managers leading, they tend to hold onto everything for fear of losing control and not being “busy” enough.

    • Anonymous

      Absolutley timely… But perhaps Leadership is not exactly lost… More so it is, discovering, and re-inventing. The need for authentic and self-less serving leaders is growing, and I believe the world (we) are responding to the call.

      • Jeremie Kubicek

        Rob, that is right. Leadership can come alive if it is about helping others, not just ourselves. Leadership is a vehicle for influence, not a destination.

        • Anonymous

          Amen to that! Thanks Jeremie…

  • Mark Cleghorn

    I have been leading an organization for the last seven years. I try to read about and study great leaders as much as I can. Even if I don’t get one of these books, I do want to thank you for making this book known. It will definitely make my “books to read” list.

  • Frederick

    I am pastor of a 80-90 member congregation in rural Pennsylvania. In this, my second pastorate I am beginning to discover my need of leading others out of interest in them not out of interest in my own career or success. I believe this book may give me some pointers to enable me to serve God’s people and His Kingdom in a better way.

  • Peter Hoppe

    Jeremie, I really do appreciate this post. I am 23 and just starting to lead others in my career. Though I really do have a caring heart for people, I have found that it is far too easy to get simply get caught up in my own responsibilities without taking sufficient time to invest in relationships with others.

    I am learning, and my sales manager at the Varsity Internship Program (started by Thomas Nelson) has been an incredible help in guiding me toward a more balanced life. He is one of those leaders who I know is for me. I want others to know that I am for them too.

    To further learn and grow in this area, I have been reading books like “The Art of Influence” by Chris Widener and “Everyone Communicates, Few Connect” by John C. Maxwell (thanks @MichaelHyatt:twitter for recommending this). I have really grown to appreciate the wisdom shared on Michael Hyatt’s blog, and I believe Jeremie’s book “Leadership is Dead” be another great way for me to learn from those more experienced than I. As John Maxwell would say, learning from other great leaders raises the “lid” on my own influence (Law of the Lid).

    As I work with the president of Varsity to rebuild the company to its previous level of success, I appreciate all the help, resources, and wisdom I can get my hands on.

    • Jeremie Kubicek

      Excellent, Thank you Peter!

  • Justinvjoiner

    Being in leadership in different settings its good to know of you have the backing of your followers. I’ve always heard let the intentions of your heart be made known. I think this book would go great with the area of leadership I am in. I also see where it could be passed on after I finish reading it. There are too many people out there that only are out to look out for themselves. Where is the loyalty? I served faithfully under a leader in the past most people wouldn’t give the time of day to. God called me there so I made the best out of the opportunities. It will pay off in the end.

  • Jviola79

    In a week, my son will be graduating from Bible College. He will also be starting a PT position in our church. I would like this book to give to him so that he develops into the leader that God would have him to be. In his young life, he has experienced being under a leader that was for himself & while not against him, not for him. He is currently being mentored by our pastor that has been such a godly mentor, pouring himself into my son’s life. I know that is the type of leader my son is hoping to be. It would be such a joy to be selected & give him this book.

    Thank you for your consideration.

    Joanne Viola

  • Trina

    I think you should give a free copy to Brian below who said he likes turtles. :)

    For me, I just want to always be a positive influence and encouragement to everyone around me in my own little place in the world.

    I’ll be heading off to Chic-Fil-A’s Leadercast in about an hour from now… hoping to learn something about myself that I can change for the positive.

    Oh, and I like puppies!

  • skeggsjp

    Wow. While I’d love to win a copy of Jeremie’s book, this is a post that I can meditate on for a while. Thanks for inviting Jeremie to share!

    • Joe Lalonde

      The same with me. I’m going to have fun pouring over the questions asked and can’t wait to see the answers.

      • Jeremie Kubicek

        Joe, would love to see your answers.

        • Joe Lalonde

          Jeremie, here’s the answer to the first question regarding bosses and influencers in my life –

          Troy – I’d say for himself. One of
          my first bosses. Was a great guy but don’t remember him helping me out much.


          Casey – He was a mixture of both.
          Sadly, our relationship ended on a bad note. He was trying to develop me into
          an assistant manager. That helped develop some leadership traits in me.
          However, I had to turn down the position and this turned into him getting upset
          because it made him look bad.

          Rick – For me. He’s helped develop my
          skills in public speaking by giving me the chance to talk in front of our youth
          group. He’s also be an encourager and uplifter.

          4. ***** – I’m not sure as we don’t
          interact a lot. He’s not against me, I know that.

  • Tony Verguldi Jr

    I have held various leadership roles in various volunteer organizations and companies. I never really thought about the question Jeremie brings up. It is a valid question. Made me realize that ther may only be 3 or 4 people in my life who have been for me. Makes me wonder if anyone thinks I was for them. I can think of some people that I am for, but wonder if they know it.

    I would like to dig deeper into this topic and be able to provide leadership. I follow various leaders on twitter and read various blogs to help with that. I have a couple books, but I think this one poses a question that I need to understand more fully.

  • David O’Dell

    As a young man in ministry I can relate to being around leaders who are only looking out for themselves. I have served on chuches of staff who could care less about the success of others, but rather only for seeing there success attained. This self-preservation leadership model has taken away from the heart of transformation in other peoples lives. I would love to read this book and explore more about these leadership principles in this book. Ultimately the leader has to look for the greater good in the follower and challenge them to attain that level.

  • Etremblay

    We are presently planting a church and realizing that leadership has a lot to do with everything church planting represents.

    I’m a leadership student and try to put my hands on good leadership ressources like this one.

    Thank you for your investement in leaders!

    Eric T

  • Jason Fountain

    This post resonates with me because I remember hearing a speaker talk about “bridge building.” He said that when we build a communication bridge with another individual, we have a solid connection that will survive the challenges of day-to-day ups and downs.

    For example, once I “know” that my boss is for me, I will not challenge his motives. This is a huge step in a subordinate relationship. Building this communication bridge takes time initially, but once established has the power to help individuals survive many challenges.

    Michael, I would love a copy of this book as I seek to grow in my role as an educational leader.
    Thanks for the great post, Jeremie!

  • Jason

    These are great concepts which have great practical and strategic implication for individuals and organizations. I work considerably with CEOs and senior leaders of organizations helping them to establish a sense of balance and maintain focus in their direction to be able to influence those in their lives – personally and professionally – to make a positive difference. This book has great concepts which I would like to use in my work to support, encourage, and nurture even greater leaders.

  • Frank Meyer

    In a generation that’s looking for authentic leadership, people are flocking to leaders who serve those around them. This book looks to be a book that will help me learn great great principles of influence (service) for the culture around me. My family, my church, my market place. Thank you Michael for all your valuable resources that you give away.

  • Dean Deguara

    I’m a backseat leader so I would have to disagree with the writer’s conclusion that leaders that are for themselves are forgettable. I think it’s quite the opposite. They are most memorable because of the lessons we learn from their mistakes, the wounds that are caused because of their selfishness, etc. I could go on and on. Do I want to forget them…most definitely, but most of the time I have to forgive them because of the damage that is done through leaders who are in it for themselves.

    I’d like to read the book so I can really understand the writers context. Always looking for new angles from the “backseat.”

  • Jeff Payne

    I’ve experienced being led by others where it’s been all about them. I want to be an effective leader that treats people with respect and to make certain they are valued, to let them know we are in this together! The kingdom will grow and it will grow better with honest, open leaders who treat others the way they want to be treated (it’s a great biblical principle. Jeremie’s book will be a great resource in leading this way!

  • Leah Adams

    Wow!! Now this just smacks you right between the eyes. I fear that all too often I have been for myself. Tons of material for deep self examination!! Thanks, Mr. Hyatt,

    • Anonymous

      I’m with you Leah… This can really make one reflect, “was I really for them or me?” — Great reminder to be intentional about how we serve.

  • Scott

    I work as a pastor and outside the church as a therapist. As such, I encounter all sorts of folks in numerous circumstances. When companioning with people, I am learning that influencing, rather than “leading,” seems to garner better results. Folks need to know you have their best interest at heart. Receiving such a book will further my quest to companion more effectively with people.


  • Saranades

    Thank you for this post! I am serving in a new church plant in a small group of ladies, and will continue to lead as different opportunities come up (such as a book club for the summer). Recently God has me on a journey to deal with some deep seated heart issues. I have asked myself, “Am I leading to the best of my ability? What takeaways are the ladies getting? Am I really invested in them?”
    This post resonated with me and the questions it poses could greatly impact the ministry and influence I have been called to. I would greatly appreciate having a copy of this book as I dig deeper with God and through the issues in my heart, so that the influence can be greater in a city that desperately needs authentic Christ followers impacting it for HIM.

  • Duke Dillard

    If the book reflects this post, then it sounds like one I need to read. The question in the post was perfect for me. I realized right away that this defined the problem I have had with some of the people I lead. They have decided I am for myself and have responded in kind. I plan to let them read the post in order to discuss the issues. Hopefully the book goes deeper into the issues. Thanks for letting him guest post.

  • Michael Levitt

    Powerful, and true. I think back to all of my former bosses, and the ones that stand out are the ones that invested in me, both professionally and personally. Their selfless acts helped provide the foundation in how I lead others today.

    I often reflect on the fact that Jesus washed the feet of others. God in human form washed feet.

    That’s the type of leader I want to be.

    • Anonymous

      Amen to that Michael! That is the type of leader I want to be as well.

  • Anonymous

    Thanks so much for this guest post. I needed to read it. Over the past few years I’ve been doing a lot of soul-searching and realized that one of my biggest defects is being for myself. Sadly, I think that has cost me many good relationships. Not because folks got fed up with me but because I’ve ignored what could have been meaningful and fulfilling relationships because I simply couldn’t see what was in it for me. I needed to read this. Thanks.

  • Ronni

    I suppose my comment won’t be one of much eloquence, but the reason I want this book is because I carry the scars of bad leadership, and turned around one day and realized there are people following me. That scares me on many levels. I have a few good leaders in my life, all very different from each other, two specifically are very for me… and that humbles me. I just want to know how to be that for someone else, how to lead without scarring, and how to pour what I have in me into someone else effectively. That’s it.

  • Perry

    I am a simple mind man. The question is a simple and answerable one that applies to leadership on every level and I am hopeful that the book would follow suit. I direct a 43 bed transitional housing facility in the core of Milwaukee and teach discipleship. Questions like this give traction to the gospel and that is my passion. Book or not THANKS for the insight
    Perry Brown
    Hope Street Ministry

  • Marti Burbeck

    The 3-question exercise at the end of this post is deeply challenging – thank you for it. I will take time this week to answer these questions, and to allow my answers ( and subsequent questions, as I’m sure there will be those) to lead me into changes in the way I both lead others and simply in how I conduct myself day by day.

  • Tammy

    Love the question. Serving in an HR role in my organization, I see that this question is on our staffers minds every year when they fill out their preference forms… is the national leadership team for them or against them. Thanks for bringing this question to the forefront of my mind so that I can consider the ways I’m communicating verbally or non-verbally this ‘for or against’ attitude. The books sounds like a great read!

  • W. Mark Thompson

    Great post. Interested in the book because it seems to have a fresh point of view on leadership. Even in the article it doesn’t limit leadership to the office. It is presented as more of a lifestyle. Please consider me when naming the winners of ‘Leadership Is Dead’. (See how I did that? Just came right out and asked.) :)

  • Matthew Snider

    That is a huge question brother. Loving it. Off to Ponder!

    • Brandon


  • R Wayne Powell

    Great post of an idea that can help those who lead. And we all lead at some point. I am learning to lead by serving. This post gets to that – SERVING. As a servant I can influence and lead even those “above” me in the organization – my boss, her boss, my pastor – when i can show that i’m “for them”. I remember being impacted by the servant hearts l’ve known. Thanks for sharing.

    • R Wayne Powell

      And I want the book because it will cement these leadership concepts into my life as seeds that will produce fruit for others. I love mixed fruit and metaphors!

      • Brandon

        I like those and anything to do with guitars!

  • John Alexander

    Very very interested in reading this book. Great post as well!

  • Czymroz

    Interesting question. As a leader in ministry, I have often given thought to the question of how the people who follow me actually see me. After more thought and prayer, I definately want to pose the question, “How do you see me?” I believe I know the answer for most of my team, but the discussion will be invaluable, I’m sure!

  • Jeff Andrechyn

    To me, this kind of leadership Jeremie describes is a recovery of leadership described in the NT. Leadership isn’t getting what you want but rather helping others become fruitful with the gifts they have and helps them fulfill the tasks and goals of the company they work for. The leadership Jeremie describes gives dignity to those it impacts. I think that is what Jesus did the most, restored dignity to people around him.

  • Matt Joy

    My first thought is to craft a paragraph with language that will convince of my bend towards leadership and the need to be a constant learner. My second thought is that is probably obvious in that I am a subscriber to your blog. My third thought is that I think fruitful Kingdom work, in large part, rises and falls on leadership – and a book re: influence will help mold me into a sharper leader. Fourth, and perhaps most honest, I would love to win LOL.



  • Micah Horneman

    I want this book because I realize that I have let true leadership die in my own life despite carrying on in roles as a leader. I know that I will benefit greatly from reading what Jeremie Kubicek has to say in Leadership is Dead.

  • Dr. Brad Semp

    The strongest leaders that I have observed in life are heavily weighted on the side of living outwardly. These leaders accept criticism on behalf of the men and women who are on mission with them. They are also quick to pass along praise rather than soak it in themselves. It definitely is an interesting analysis to consider whether these leaders are “for me, against me, or for themselves”. The best leaders in my opinion are always for me.

    • Anonymous

      Couldn’t agree with you more… And you up bring a great point about being the face to take critism and quickly passing along the praise. Here, I’m quick to reflect on the love I have for my family. Leaders embrace and raise up those they serve and love.

    • Brandon

      Although people can be leaders no matter what personality, you have to be outgoing to a certain extent to be a leader…

      I, personally, am very outgoing! But I guess you can never be too outgoing?

  • Allen Marsh

    In the business world today influence is the new currency. You have to have it to get things done. Whether you have direct line authority or not influence is, in my opinion the best way to get lasting results. When we humble ourselves and role up our sleeves next to our co-workers and employees great things happen. A great book on this topic is “Influencer: The Power to Change Anything.” I will now add Jeremie Kubicek’s book to my reading list. Mr. Hyatt thank you for what you do and for bring leaders great, time tested and principled leadership resources. GiANT Impact is a great company with great resources. I hope many readers are able to attend the Chick-fil-a leadercast today. Unfortunately for me I have moved companies this week and did not think asking for the day off in the first week was a good career move. The great news is that there is always next year!

  • Oscar

    This so true. Many people now in days are lookign for leaders that are for them. Also, sometimes we as leaders lose perspective and might forget why we are in the position we are in. Looking foward to reading this to help my self and the peolpe I can influence.

    • Brandon


  • David

    If Leadership is Dead is about challenging to lead for the sake of others and be FOR those I lead, than I’d love to read it.

  • Nrkmsfnp

    What a thought provoking question. In some aspect we are all leaders. Some more obvious than others. As I’ve entered my fifth decade of life I strive to live by example. My daily actions are, hopefully, an extension of my inner belief system. This post has brought to my awareness a need to be even more intentional about my interactions with others. I look forward to this exerecise and where it takes me.

  • Suzy Parish

    I am moving into a new season in my life. I’m a 51 year old mom of three grown daughters and my husband is going overseas to train police officers in a developing government for the next year. I feel God directing me to be a greater influence in my community. I was a Community Columnist for our local paper. Currently I have a Women’s Fiction in progress and am volunteering in tornado relief efforts for our city.The short excerpt I read intrigued me. God bless, Suzy Parish

  • Shari

    I would love to read this book both for professional and personal reasons. I’m a little halfway through my “Jubilee” year and have been using this 12 months to reflect on those gifts God has given me and how best to use them in the second half (optimistic, I know) of my life. Professionally, I oversee a nonprofit resource center and am always looking for good titles to buy for the collection, to recommend to others, to review, and to use to lead book discussion groups of nonprofit executives. Truthfully, I will probably review and purchase this book for the collection regardless, but I’d love to have my personal copy to mark up as I work through it.

  • Revitupmethodist

    I pastor a church in a small southern town and constantly see the need for leadership/influence in both my congregation and within the community at large. To truly affect lasting change, leadership is vitally important.

  • jimmyproulx

    I am a pastor/church planter. My team is mainly young men that I am mentoring and discipling and training to be better leaders. I am encouraging them to seek God and pursue the vision that He is giving them. I believe that influence is better than control and I also believe that you gain this influence by the relationships that you establish. I believe this book will unpack more of a leadership style of serving and influence. I am looking for any resources/books that will help me be a better leader.

  • Jonathan Bradshaw

    I am just beginning to emerge a a small business owner. I am a fairly new dentist and now own my own practice. Dental School has prepared me for the clinical portion of my career but did little to prepare me for the leadership skills needed own a small business and manage/lead employees. I am looking for anything that can help me to grow in leadership and do it well for the Glory of God.


    Jonathan Bradshaw

    • Brandon


  • Anonymous

    I have had a recent boss who I would say was against me, but in the end it really boiled down to being against me was just more concentrated being for himself. Like @MichaelHyatt, the bosses I have had that were for me are the most memorable, influential ones.

    When I was in the Army the majority of my leadership lessons were what I call “neagtive lessons” the kind that make you say, “When I’m in charge there’s no way I’m doing that.” They led me a long way. It also led me to my personal saying that even in homogenized milk, the cream always rises to the top. It just takes a little longer. When I finally got under a good leader, who was good for more reasons then just being “for me,” I was able to blossom. That was over 12 years ago. We live more then 3000 miles apart and still communicate every few months. He had a big impact on my leadership ability and to this day I try to look out for those below me as he did.

    And yes, Hunter Thompson pointed out that the scum also rises, but I just use that as an explanation for those that defy the Peter Principle and have been promoted beyond their level of incompetence.

  • Alex Wilson

    I have watched many of the companies and organizations I have been involved with falter and fail due to poor leadership. Management is not the problem – it is lack of good leadership. All too often I have seen “leaders” fight for themselves or against others in an effort to better their position. I am in a leadership position where I work today and am struggling with this problem every day. I need to refresh my approach and try to set the example for others to follow. Even if not picked for this free book, I am sure I will purchase it and share the lessons with others.

  • rbodenstab

    Wow, what a timely post and the the book “Leadership is Dead” a great reward! I have always seen myself as in influencer since I was age 10. I know that I have been a leader that has had only my interest in mind. I am a Christian School Principal and former Children’s Pastor and find it easy to put the students interests above everyones, but many times am frustrated by the other leaders in my life. I want to be able to learn and practice and overcome the obstacles that keep me from influencing these leaders so that they can achieve their goals and dreams…then I am convinced that they too will do better at helping their students achieve their goals and dreams. I want to be a leader who influences others for HIS will in all of our lives! Thanks for the continued leadership support!

  • Dougrowles

    A free book and my birthday too! What a great deal!

  • Boris Eichenberger

    I like turtles, I have four of them, one cat, and a wife, and three children, and three young adults living in our house community, and a church to pastor and a NGO to lead. So I need every material on leadership desperately – mainly for the Turtles of course.

  • Rtaylor913

    The questions are penetrating. But more importantly, the answers provide insight into my motives for leading. Thanks for the post and I’d love to read the book.

  • Rashad Morris

    This article left me speechless. I can’t say that I’ve heard leadership explained this type of rationale before. It definitely has caused me to adjust approach. I can only imagine what else the book contains. I will be adding to book collection even if not in 100.

  • Ryan

    I believe this will help me be a better leader.

  • Joe Lalonde

    Great post Jeremie. Thanks for posting this as it’s always a great thing to think about. I look back and see a few bosses that were for themselves and one that was for me but also for himself. Sadly, my relationship with that boss did not end well.

    As for why I would like a copy of the book… Just reading this short post made me think it would be a valuable resource to have in our library. The questions that Jeremie asked in this post made me think about evaluate where I am. It also would help greatly in our youth ministry. It’s something I could bring up with our youth pastor and see how we can integrate it into our leadership.

  • Jeremy’s Confessions

    I am currently in a situation where the person I directly work under is completely for himself. He does not hate me, in fact he genuinely wants to see me do well, but in the end his brain just returns to himself. And it is painful for me. I feel bad thinking that way about it, but in the end it is true. Experiencing this for myself I understand that it is important for me not to be that way.

  • John Richardson

    Great questions, Jeremie and a very timely post. There is a big difference between working for somebody that is in it for themselves and someone who is a servant leader. I have worked for both and the outcomes are striking. If you happen to be unlucky enough to get a leader that is actively against you, life becomes hell.
    I would love to read your book and pass it along to others. I have some huge questions to answer over the next few weeks directly related to this topic. As I took a few minutes just now to answer these questions, some decisions are becoming much clearer. Thank you for posting today.

  • Karl Mealor

    Ok. Before I comment, I am so loving the new @ feature on the blog.

    • Brandon

      Although I am not in the twitter world, I think it is really cool! Is it doing this for all the Disqus? Or just te hMichael Hyatt site?

  • Bmann

    My new board meets in June … I am a growing leader and I see my board of 11 and staff of two as leaders with me. Together we could really benefit from this. Even if I don’t get the book I will use the jump off start from the blog. Thanks Michael!

  • Jamie O’Donoghue

    I think this is a good article for all leaders and followers alike to read. I’ve been fortunate that most of the leaders that have been over me have been ones that have had my best interests at heart but the ones that usually I have a hard time forgetting about are the ones that were looking out for themselves. It makes a significant difference on a follower knowing that their leader is for them and not against them or even passive toward them.

    On another note I would love a copy of the book, my wife and I are getting ready to make some major steps that will shape our lives and I would value a resource like “Leadership is Dead: How Influence is Reviving it”.

    Either way thank you for the timely reminder on the real reasons why leaders are in the positions that they are in.

  • Chris Carney

    I am a leader in several areas of my life, business –
    community – family, and I am guilty of leading for people, against people and
    for myself at various times in my life.
    I look forward to reading and studying Jeremie’s book as a tool for me
    to make sure that I am always centered on leading “for” others. – Michael and Jeremie for this

  • Josh Riley

    I’m finding myself increasingly required to lead through influence versus direct authority. It’s happening at work where I receive a paycheck, and it’s happening in my non-profit roles where I don’t. Sounds like this book will help improve those skills, which will benefit not only myself, but those I influence both at work and online.

  • Susan Lawrence

    Thanks for this post. This issue comes up consistently as I speak to groups, encourage others in leadership – and perhaps most often, in my personal everyday life. I appreciate the practical steps of assessment. I didn’t just read the post and think “good point.” I have action steps, not just for myself but for others I encourage through this process. I’d love to have a copy of the book to read – and share.

  • Tim Hart

    As a young leader, this book seem indispensable to helping me grow!

  • Karl Mealor

    When Solomon was told by the Lord that he could ask anything that he wanted, Solomon of course prayed for wisdom. He basically said, “God, I don’t know what I’m doing. If I’m going to help all these people, you’re going to have to help me figure out how to do it.” And God was pleased because Solomon did not ask for himself. He asked for the benefit of his people.

    Lately, I’ve been trying to pray the same prayer: “Lord, I don’t seem to know what I’m doing. Please give me wisdom.” This book sounds like it could provide some of the wisdom that I’m looking for, and I would be most appreciative of a copy.

    • Joe Lalonde

      Karl, that’s a great prayer to pray. If you don’t mind, could I post this post on my facebook page?

      • Karl Mealor

        Absolutely. Thanks.

        • Joe Lalonde

          Thanks Karl. I look forward to the discussion it will bring on my Facebook page.

    • Steven Cribbs

      Great perspective Karl! Solomon gives us a great example of the attitude we should have in approaching leadership opportunities.

      • Karl Mealor

        Thanks, Steven.

  • Anonymous

    For several years I worked in management in an organization that truly pursued and celebrated servant leadership. Both in our personal lives and professional lives the supervisors and managers were encouraged to do everything for the benefit of the employees. “It’s not about you,” was a common theme. I strove daily to embody this concept. I’ve been told throughout life that I’m a giving person, but there is such a different meaning when you’re giving your all to a group of people without expecting anything in return, all the while hoping to advance your career in someway for the benefit of your family. But with my manager and director of operations as examples and supporters, being “for them,” my team, wasn’t very challenging at all. The result- an amazing work environment with immense trust, healthy conflict and a dedication to growth.

    Fast forward to the present. I left that organization to pursue a slightly different career in a location closer to our family. My new working environment is the exact opposite, and frankly, I’m swimming against the tide. I read your blog and other leadership resources daily for insight on how I can make a positive impact on this company when not in a titled leadership role. I’m desiring a copy of this book to help renew my passion for selfless leadership in a time and place where “looking out for number one” is the modus operandi. Thank you for your consideration and inspiration!

  • Tiffany Malloy

    i would love this book because i am a young leader who will be influencing (God-willing) many college students for the rest of my life! It seems like this would be a great discussion to move them through in my leadership development process.

    thanks for your generosity!

  • K.C. Procter

    Wow. Thank you for this. I have shared w/ my team at work.

    This is such solid stuff. I look back on the bosses I’ve had you are so right in that the most memorable are those who were for me. It is hugely motivating to have a leader inspire, coach and even just be friendly.

    As I endeavor to be a leader I want to remember who I’m for. Not myself.

    I want this book because I have a passion for people and want to influence them to chase their dreams and empower others.

  • Chris Neiger

    I can name a handful of people who have been over me that encouraged me in what I am good at, and you’re exactly right about them being memorable. Thanks for the reminder to be for the people around me.

  • Brandon

    It sounds like a great book! I really liked this post though!

  • GSBurke3

    I am continuing my education and my emphasis is on Leadership. I believe a copy of this would be a great resource to have as I take a deeper look into leadership. This resource would also help me practically in the ministry I serve. I believe this could be a valuable resource for the staff I serve with in the local church. I am looking forward to learning more about influencing those that I love, work with and serve alongside.

  • Pastor-keith

    As a pastor of a small, Midwest congregation, I pray that my folks believe that I am FOR THEM. This article has served to challenge my thinking. I need to conscientiously strive to be SURE that they know I am for them. I’d appreciate the book to aid that striving!

  • David Klotz

    Always promoting a higher standard and being intentional about leadership.What a blessing! Started learning from Michael because of @zachclark.

  • Acockrell

    I have been commissioned by a major mission organization to work on a project related to the recovery of dieing or plateaued churches. We are currently discussing the issue of leadership as it partains to relationships and we have determined that influence is the feature that most describes an effective leader. We are still in the discovery stage and the book “Leadership Is Dead:Influence Is Reviving It” ld be a good resource for us.
    Alan Cockrell

  • Eric Swann


    Thanks for sharing this book. I just finished up my first school year as a
    youth pastor and realize my growth areas immediately. Although I have led a
    group of teenagers before, I have never led a group of adults. This is exactly
    what I must do now and easily my biggest need or area of improvement in my life
    as a leader. From reading your post and checking out the book’s website/ amazon
    reviews, I think this book would assist me greatly in my leadership journey. I
    would really appreciate your consideration in awarding me one. Thanks for your
    blog and everything you do to help develop leaders everywhere.

    God Bless,


  • Anonymous

    Love the post. I would love the book to enhance my leadership skills in my ministry. I want to be an influencer of this next generation and could use some help in honing my skills! Thanks so much! And really I would love to not pay for the book–but will, if I don’t win a copy! :)

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  • TNeal

    Jeremie–you’re post takes a deeper look at the heart of a leader. I am reminded of Jesus’ words, “The greatest among you will be your servant” (Mt. 23:11). I appreciate your practical focus on the past (who led us) and our present/future (how we lead). Thanks–Tom

  • Heath Stoner

    I want this book because I am leading a staff retreat in 2 weeks and I could utilize the information in there to grow my staff and the people they serve.

  • TNeal

    Mike–I would appreciate Jeremie’s book because, if he writes so well and leaves an impact with a short post, he’ll leave a greater impact through book form. In this post, he has made me aware of my leadership focus as I work with high school boys. I want to be clearly “for them” and would love to read practical ways to make my intentions clear.–Tom

  • Anonymous

    I would love this book because I find it really speaks to me as a professor. Sometime professors walk into a class and they are either for themselves or against the students. What would happen if they saw themselves as “for the students?” I love this already.

  • Brian Zehr

    I see people everywhere struggling with the position of leadership instead of utilizing the influence they have. What i want to learn is how to use my influence and help others to maximize the impact they can have. Leadership as they know it is dead. Long live influence!

  • Melia

    This has been one of my favorite posts of your’s. It touched me and opened my eyes. It also led me to be sure that the influencers in my life know how significant they have been to me.

  • Uma Maheswaran S

    Countless martyrs have sacrificed their lives for Jesus and still millions would die for Jesus who liberated them by His love and sacrifice on the cross. That’s the influence Jesus had and has on His believers in this world. His leadership and influence over humanity is matchless on any count in the entire history. Jeremie Kubicek’s Leadership is Dead must be a good stimulator to enable us to move towards (if not achieving……) such style of leadership in our daily walks of life. Napoleon Hill says, “your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.” Love to be a cause of success in lives of my relations (be it personal or professional) through positive influence.

  • Dorothy Sankey Simon

    Nice post!! I am studying business in Montreal. As a student, i think that leadership, which is so important is one of the subject that is leass discussed or taught in class. As a future leader in formation, I think it is important to encourage us students to start thinking as leader and act as leader in order to have a better impact. The earlier we would have a mentor in leadership and formation in how to be so, the better we will be prepared to go to the workforce with the characteristic of a real leader.

  • Naomi

    I’m a project manager in my day job and very involved in ministry at my church. I’ve seen a lot of changes in leadership over the last 15 years and have come to realize that influence is where it’s at and if a person is willing, and able, to lead from a position of relationship, people partner and listen and ideas are shared. Ultimately it’s about allowing people to find the leader within them and facilitate growth.

    Unfortunately, I haven’t had this style of leadership modeled for me so so I fumble around on my own. I am trying to build my knowledgebase so I can increase my skills as a relational leader, both at work but also within my family, my circle of friends and within my faith community. People need people who are authentic and who care. People need people who are for them. I want to be that person in the lives of the people I touch. This is why I would love to have a copy of Jeremie’s book. It sounds like he truly lives what he teaches and those are the kinds of leaders I want to learn from.

  • Phil Kaufmann

    Two reasons this book would help me:

    1. It’s time to transition from focusing on my success to my followers. Over the past year, I have successfully transitioned to a more executive role. The Next Level by @scotteblin has been invaluable, and I define success by his measure of laying down old habits and picking up new ones. I have been, necessarily, focused on me. The new habits are now mostly habits; it’s time to focus on others.

    2. Our three boys are age 15, 11, and 4. My dad has always been invested in my success. I think I’m doing fairly well, but I don’t want to screw this up. It’s clear this book would help.

  • Adam

    I want this book because I want to be the best leader I can be for those around me and for my family. This is just another tool that can get me to where I want to be.

    Thanks for the opportunity.

  • Anonymous

    I too, have had leaders that were OK and were worthy of following, but they did not have my best interest at heart. I learned from them because I had an intention to do so. This book is welcome addition to the leadership book landscape. It sounds more like a mentor than just a leader, which is what the better leadership theories of transformational and servant leadership are all about. I too would welcome the chance to learn more about this subject from this new book.

  • Lincoln Parks

    Its always great to have people tell you how you lead them, or how they see you. Now it can be really brutal when you ask them to tell the truth. I’ve done this before after reading @darrenhardy the Compound Effect. I know personally becoming a servant leader is a work in progress. Its really rewarding to know there are no agenda’s just pouring into someone else. Can’t wait to read the book.

  • Jeffsmithnc

    I’m a youth pastor. I try to be a strong leader. I thing this book could really help. I look forward to giving it a read.

  • Jennifer Hudson Taylor

    Your post made me consider my previous bosses and leaders–and you’re right–most were for themselves. As an author, I do have the opportunity to inspire and help others. I want to be a leader who is different from those I’ve had. I can only name 1-2 bosses I truly respect and trust. I think trust is huge. I want to be sincere, not sound like a used car sales person who throws out key terms to sound in vogue. I’ve seen this often in speakers at workshops, conferences, and in ministries.

    PS – My Twitter account auto posts every post on this blog with a link.

  • Tim Milburn

    I am listening to your interview with Jeremie right now on the Chick-fil-a Leadercast Backstage feed. Jeremie makes a great distinction between the people who “effect” us and those who “impact” us. My hope is to raise up a generation of leaders, both in my work on a college campus and in my circles of influence, who can become the kind of people who transform their world. I would love to be among the few who receive a copy of this book.

  • Nina Kee

    I’ve been trying to put my finger on this idea lately but couldn’t put words to it. I’ve noticed something amiss in some leaders, and something right on with others. I’ve often said you either get a “Me too,” or “Me first,” vibe from people. I know which leader I’d rather be and I’d love to read more from Jeremie’s book and figure out what that looks for my areas of influence. Thank you for sharing such insightful stuff with us. Love it!

  • Carina Brunson

    I am a leader at church and at work. I find it hard to tell if I am leaving an influence on some people, especially if they have been with the company longer than I have. At church, I still feel lost and like I don’t know enough. I am a convert of the church I go to, and therefore seem like the children I teach lead me more than I lead them at times. I know we learn from each other, but I do not know if I am effective as a leader. I would like to make sure I am putting those I work with and teach as my top priority, and I want them to feel that as well. I have seen how some leaders are not leading well, and I want to take the direction and incentive to lead efficiently and make sure others believe I am their for their good, not mine. I enjoyed reading this article and look forward to reading the book.

  • Anonymous

    Great post! I have recently experienced this with a family member. I am completely for them, and spoke truth to them in love, but because it wasn’t what they wanted to hear their perception is that I am against them. Have you written anything on how to handle rejection as a leader?

  • Craig T. Owens

    As I look back on my career, it’s amazing to me how INeffective my leadership skills were in the past. But the sad part: I actually thought they were effective. Which is the reason I would love to get a copy of “Leadership Is Dead.” If I had such a huge blindspot before, what might I be missing now? I believe @JeremieKubicek:twitter ‘s book will help be see what may be lurking in my leadership blindspot.

  • Luana

    As a Human Resources Officer I am always looking for ways to encourage positive leadership skills within myself and those that I come in contact with. I want to encourage people to use their God given gifts to catapult them into their destinies personally, professionally and relationally.I’ve just started to read Michael Hyatt’s blogs and books I am so inspired by the wealth of materials and eagerly await each new idea to implement in my one life and the life of those in my circle of influence

  • Jeff Janoski

    To be a true influencer, yes that is part of my mission. As a independent business coach and ministry volunteer there is always misconceptions of leadership. I’ve struggled with this myself, am I leading for “self,” am I leading to influence or to just get things done?

    Sounds likes a great book.

  • Samuel Nam

    I’m always looking to sharpen my leadership skills. I appreciated the exercise that Mr. Kubicek gave in this guest blog and I’d like to read more of his work.

  • Zack Williamson

    Thanks @JeremieKubicek:twitter for this insightful, yet simple question we can ask to evaluate ourselves in leadership.

  • Dion

    Absolutely blown away by the title of the book. I think Jeremie managed to articulate what I’ve been feeling for the longest time, without being able to put my finger on it. I would love dive into this book.

  • Jonathan Manafo


    I want this book because I would much rather be known for being FOR people than being for MYSELF. I think we all deal with selfishness…it’s a daily struggle for everyone, myself included. I’d like to think that I’m for others, but I’d be mistaken to think that I don’t need help in this area. There are probably more reasons why I need to read this book, but that is the most prominent one.

    Be Well,

    Jonathan Manafo

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  • William Coker Jr

    I have generally been characterized as a leader among those with whom I work. However, as I reflect back, I realize that some of those times I was thinking and working for myself rather than intentionally on behalf of others. I do not simply want to be a “leader” like a cowboy leads cattle with a prod or a sheepdog leads sheep by barking and running around them. I want my leadership to be one of empowering people to see the value of others and to make positive impacts on the lives of others whereby they can rise up and become leaders in their own rite. It sounds as if this book will be a resource to facilitate my thinking and acting in this regard.

  • Evan

    I am a high school basketball coach, and I actually just made the city semi-pro team as well! So currently I am a follower AND a leader! An exciting time to say the least. The reason why I would like this book, is that I teach and coach at one of the most well-to-do schools in the area. The school is in the elite financially, and academically. I have often wondered why God has led me to this place, vs working with inner-city youth, which was my early interest, but I have quickly seen such a leader for servant-minded leadership. I see so many future leaders around me, and most of them seem…maybe because they have never experienced need…or going “without”, but most of them seem like some of the most cynical children out there. Like they are being intentionally raised to second guess everyone’s motives. I feel like I try and put these children (high school students) first, but they seem to A)think the world revolves around them, and B)seem to think that everything that is done, is for someone else. I studied Servant leadership in college, and really would like to apply it, and want to more accurately survey my leadership-style, and what things I can do better to break-through this cynical generation, and show them that there are people that really care about THEM as people.

  • Mdl376

    A fresh perspective is like a cool breeze on a hot day.

  • Tomlovestheducks

    I’m a newly ordained Lutheran pastor (March 13th). The church where I serve has had very difficult recent history surrounding leadership integrity. I believe I’m perceived as “for them,” but there remains a high level of sensitivity.
    I would welcome any helpful resources as I navigate both a new calling and service in this particular place.
    Tom Welch

  • Scoti Springfield Domeij

    Wow! A powerful post. My heart resonates.
    Sometimes I wonder, “Are you “for real”?” Most of my bosses “used” my
    gifts with little or no thanks to promote their visions, their careers, their
    “ministries.” I can only guess the “we’re-supposed-to-sacrifice-ALL-for-Christ-mindset”
    provided the rationale for “I’m-better-than-you”, “God-only-speaks-to-ME–not-you-stupid”,
    and “never-say-thanks-we-do-it-for-God” mindsets. When I finally asked one
    boss, whose backside I regularly saved due to his procrastination and disorganization,
    “Why do you talk to me the way you do [demeaning]? He said, “You are NOT my
    peer. You are NOT on my level.” And I wondered, “Do you EVER read the Bible? I
    think God says something about that.” Interestingly enough, in secular
    environments, I received glowing appreciation. NOT SO in ministries. What’s
    that about?

    In the end, God used their lack of consideration
    for others and user-mentalities. Burned out, depression suffocated any
    heartfelt ministry desire to contribute to “others’ visions.” The repulsion I
    felt FORCED me to reassess where God wants me to exercise the passions and
    giftings He infused in my spiritual DNA. I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE encouraging others to pursue the passion and truths God put in their hearts.

    I’d like to honor two persons of note–Bob
    Hawkins, Sr. (of blessed memory) and Wes Haystead. Both freely mentored and
    lavished on me the wisdom they’d gained. Wes especially poured his patience,
    his giftings, his insight, his knowledge, his integrity, and his editorship
    into me. I will be forever grateful and follow their example.

  • Dbutcher

    Influence……somedays I feel like that is all I have.
    In my monday through friday job, I went to the lead of my small department in literally minutes due to a firing. I don’t have the title that truly gives me authority to provide yes and no answers that my former boss was able to provide. Instead when working with folks within my organization I have to use influence and the authority that influence gives me with both leadership and those at my job title level across a large company.
    Additionally, I work in ministry in a plant church. I recieve no salary and limited time so I can’t micromanage ministry heads. I can only help to influence them.

    In the past I thought of myself has having a mission statement of Lead….at this point Influence would likely be a better word to use.

  • Adam

    I read a lot of leadership books, and this one really intrigues me! hoping to get a chance to read it very soon, :) @waters_edger

  • Manny P.

    I am a youth pastor for a startup church in Colorado Springs. An oath I made back when I felt called into ministry is that I want to lead others and make them better than myself. I have great leaders who influence me that are both local and also national. I believe that this book would be a great resource and tool to help me and others as we try to raise up leaders.

    Thank you for hearing me out,
    Manny P.

  • Roy King

    Wow! I am so touched. I am 56 years old and teach leadership at Master’s and Doctoral level here at Columbia Intl University . I could instantly answer the question with the same result Jeremie described. Now — I need to answer the question for the people I am leading… What would it look like this week for me to be “for them”? and how would they answer that question about me? Tell me more!

  • Anonymous

    I would really like a copy of this book. I pastor a small church, and I need all the help in being a good leader that I can get!

    I would appreciate a copy of this book. Even though I mostly read Kindle editions, a hardcopy would be great! If not, then this will be my next amazon purchase!

    Tim Dahl

  • JD Eddins

    This is a very powerful exercise, especially when you are asking the question to about your efforts to be for other people. Sadly, I would have to agree with the premise of the book that most leaders are for themselves, it will be interesting to read the tone of the book. I hope it doesn’t come off as too negative. I will certainly be picking up a copy once I knock out some other reading.

  • Glanceteel

    During tough transitions we need access to the insights of others. Books are my way of thinking and working over ideas. Jeremie’s book looks to address how we can lead without authority and love without permission. I look forward to the read.

  • Steven Cribbs

    Thought-provoking post! As much as we want to be for others, there is always a personal component in the mix.

  • dsprtlydpndnt

    Thank you for being willing to share your space. I would say there are some people you are “for”. Your example is noted on many levels, as well as the words and questions Jeremie proposes. Helpful. Intentional. (Not even a TNelson publisher). Humility in leadership. I am learning a lot as I follow your blog. Thank you for your faithfullness to us out here.

    I know I influence many and desire that to be effectual for God’s purposes and plans for them. That is why I would read the book. Being an unemployed mom with 3 in college and many youth around me is why I’d like it free :). Sincerely

  • Jacob Musselman

    This question is fantastic! Completely got me going this morning.

    So often we stop with the first two options and don’t realize there is a third. Without the third, it’s just a battle. Lines are drawn. Enemies are made. People are to be conquered.

    From a leadership perspective, that can’t be good for a team. Because I’m not sure it’s possible for a person to be for everyone and for their dreams.

    But by adding the third part, you take away the lines. And as a leader and follower I appreciate it. As a leader, it allows me to reflect on where I am, where my motives are, and to make sure everything is properly aligned.

    But it’s possibly even more powerful for me as a follower. It doesn’t mean my leader is against me; it just means I haven’t done the work to convince him to be for me. That’s not a line drawn; that’s a goal set.

    I love this question! And can’t wait to read more in the book.

  • Geoffreytalbot

    I want this book because I want to think less about myself. It’s become painfully apparent to me lately that I have a strong tendency to hold on to my own point of view in relationship with others rather than simply STOPPING and listening… and engaging and helping others.

    I want to live a life that goes against the grain…. I want to be for other people not for myself. Yeah I think this book could help.



  • Tylerrsmith

    I’m 24 years old. I have lots of ideas, but I’m not very good at rallying people around them. If this book would help me in that regard, I would like to read it.

  • @kylereed

    As a young leader and one that wants to be a leader for the rest of his life I want to be for others and want to learn why leadership is dead.

    Mainly I want to find out why leadership is dead so that I do not become a lifeless or dead leader.

  • Susan Wilkinson

    Fantastic post. Potentially life-altering question. I’m going to do this exercise today. Thank you.

  • Dan

    I try to read as much as I can about leadership, and any book claiming that leadership is “dead” sounds like a must-read to me. I am an associate pastor in a large church (600+) without a point leader at this time, and I need as much leadership help as I can get in these days of difficulty and transition.

  • Jennifer Bowen

    Interesting timing on this article as just last week I sought out a previous boss that both my husband and I had many moons ago on Facebook. We connected and I shared with him what his leadership, mentorship and giving personality meant to our family 10 years ago. He changed our lives, not because he had to, but because he wanted to. That’s just what he did for his employees.

    Having been an entrepreneur and business owner for many years and now rejoining the corporate world this book would be extremely beneficial. During my entrepreneurship days I can honestly say that I had the goal of being “for others” but many time I was “for myself” because I was trying to get ahead. Now, back in the employee role I can see the different roles play out everyday. This post has given me great perspective on how I want to proceed and what I need to be aware of.

    Also, in my personal life I sadly came up with a few people that would answer that I was “for myself” in our relationships. That one hurts and now that I’m aware I certainly know what to change. Thanks for the thought provoking article.

  • Edchambers22

    While it would be foolish to pass up an opportunity to receieve something of value at such a price, the main reason i would like a copy really isn’t about me. After all if i onlywant the book for me then i walk as mere men walk.

    The real reason i want the book is to use it to make a difference in others. I have a friend who heads a rather large organization and i want to give it to him because he affects so many more than me. He mentors bible school students and i want him to have it. Sure i influence some people but he many more. If i receive the book i will give it to him (new) to help keep fresh the wonderful truth of giving preference to one another in honor (Ro 12:10).


    Ed Chambers
    Eph 4:15

  • Carl Irish

    Over my career I have learned that there is a fundamental difference between “management” and “leadership” and often times I think the lines get blurred…perhaps out of necessity of a given role, but perhaps more out of tradition (it’s always been done this way…). I’ve also learned that leadership (shout out to John Maxwell) is not simply vertical but 360 degrees. The questions posted here, (..are you for them, against them, or for yourself) I think go the to heart of the matter in a pretty simple yet profound way. I look forward to the read … I think it can be especially useful for leading “up” as well….and influencing those who lead you in a more productive and empowering manner.

  • Mama

    My son just recently graduated from seminary. He started his fist job this past Monday as Associate Pastor. I believe this book would greatly benefit him in his new job.

  • Matt Molt

    I am a church planter, in the state of Washington. Leadership issues are key for us right now. I feel the weight of the responsibility and deeply desire to follow Jesus WELL in life. I’m an avid reader, and will consume the book and learn from it. Who wouldn’t want to give a book to a guy like me? (I’m on twitter as well, @mattmolt)

  • Jon Stolpe

    As a leader in my home, in my church, and in my workplace, I want to lead with influence. I want to be for those who I lead. I believe this book could be an excellent resource and source of motivation and education for spurring me on in my leadership.

  • Nicholas Madden

    I believe this book woul be of great value to me in the relationships and leadership roles in my life today. Not only am I in management at my work place but I spend countless hours in my off time leading young people within my church and community. I value those that I have followed and I want to be someone that pours myself out into the lives of those that have chosen to follow me. My life and calling are not my own and for that reason I wouldn’t change a thing in my life. I desire to grown in every arena of leadership and any tools as resources I can get my hands on I’ll take.

  • Michael

    Powerful thought. I am going to work through this with those in my sphere of influence. I’d love to have a copy of Jeremie’s book to help through this process. As I have told you before, I appreciate you. Thank you for being faithful. Michael Nichols

  • Lee Meadows

    I lead teachers, and your book will help me lead them better. It’s a painful time to be a teacher these days. Very few teachers feel like their leaders are for them, and they’re discouraged, frustrated, and confused. These beautiful souls who have dedicated their lives to children feel today that no one really sees or cares about the way they drain every resource they have, including their own wallets, to care well for today’s students.

    I live and work in Alabama, where we are reeling from the April 27 tornados. They were our own Katrina, and we have years of rebuilding to do. A quieter storm has ravaged our state as well, and it’s the poor quality of eduation we have given our children. Teachers are the front line of that rebuilding effort, and as a teacher ecucator I am the one who must provide teachers vision, technique, and hope to change their classrooms and thereby the lives of their students. I am a teacher leader, and I want to be excellent at that. Anything less is immoral because the lives of our children are at stake.

  • Karl Mealor

    The exercise of listing former bosses/influencers is extremely inspiring. My first boss was the owner of a pharmacy. He was only in his late-20’s, which was relatively young for him to be in that position. I was about 15 and it was my first job. I stayed there for about 6 years. He honestly embodied the principles presented in this article. I honestly think he hired people in which he saw well-hidden potential. He taught me so much about life in general, and how to treat people in particular. It’s amazing that I learned so much about how to be a teacher and a pastor from a pharmacist, but it’s primarily because he poured his life into me.

    What I’m trying to say is, “Thanks, Fred.”

  • Jesse Mutzebaugh

    Thank you for this amazing post! This simple evaluation will help me uncover blind spots in my leadership and life when I don’t have the opportunity or option to sit down with some key leaders in my life and have them coach me (those meetings are quite humbling). I will be carving out time tomorrow to do this.

    Here’s a few reasons why I would love to receive a copy of “Leadership is Dead”

    – I am very young (24). I know if I start learning selfless, biblical leadership now, I will have exponentially more influence when I am in my 40’s+ than if I just learn it as I get there.

    – I don’t have leadership positions and titles necessarily at this point in my life, so all I have is my influence. I know I need to learn how to best leverage this to help others around and above me succeed.

    – I love reading. Leadership books give me unlimited, anytime access to the authors lifetime of learning and experiences on the subject.

    Thanks Michael!

  • Karen Davis

    What a great post! I love the challenge of the exercise and the opportunity for growth in it for me and the members on my team. I’m always looking for ways to improve the way I lead at home, work and in the community and I believe this book would help me be more intentional about how I deal with the people in my circle of influence.

  • Flowsource

    I am a manager at my company and am aware of the many influences (both positive and negative) that exist. I would like to get a copy of this resource to help me be more effective in my current role.

  • Scott F

    I agree to be a successful leader you need to be a servant leader. To be a leader you must be a servant to all.

    Scott F

  • Valerie Allums


    This is an excellent question and one that I have been asking myself lately. I am always thinking about my circle of influence and how I move others to affect change in themselve and others. Your book sounds like an interesting read and one that I would like to add to my library and have others read. I look forward to receiving it.

  • Cynthia Leighton

    Indeed! I want to be a leader who people feel and know are for them.

    Thank you Michael. This article’s a great example of what I am learning from your posting and your many guest posters, Michael — this one it led me to other timely, valuable information. Ah! And a related video and another free book.

    • Cynthia Leighton

      I want a free copy of Jeremie Kubicek’s book Leadership Is Dead because I want to recognize when my behavior matches my heart’s intent of being for people — and learn how to do so more often and in more ways.

  • Jeff Randleman

    I would love to read this book! I’ve heard about it several times over the last couple of days and my interest is piqued. The largest sub-category in my personal library is leadership, so I think this would make another fine addition on the shelf, after it’s read, of course!

  • Kerry Buttram

    In my work as a missions pastor I constantly wrestle with the question of what leadership looks like in my context. It is my view that relationships are the primary means by which we influence others. So I would value the opportunity to learn from Mr. Kubicek by reading his book, free copy or not! Your blog consistently encourages me to pursue excellence as an expression of God’s image. Thank you!

  • Diane

    I would like this book on leadership to learn how to be a servant leader. As a child all the leaders in my life let me down big time. I feel like my own leadership skills growing up were
    squelched. I don’t want anyone to ever question whether or not I am for them. It is not about me. Thank you. ~Diane Glass

  • alexlong676

    This fall I am going on staff with my church; I am leading our covenant house, a house of 7 college students living in intentional Christian community. I am leading as a witness for Jesus, a role model for the students in my house and the other members of my church community. This is the first time I’ll be in a leadership position in ministry and I think this book could be helpful in teaching me how to be a good leader. I want to be a good leader because of the students in my house; they deserve to have a good leader that if for them.

  • Teasicannon

    There is nothing quite so much fun as getting a free book – other than getting a free book with potentially life-changing content. Jeremie’s book sounds like just that sort of book. Though you won’t see me at the head of the table in a board room, you will see me at the dinner table with my kids. When I look into their eyes I know I’ve got such limited time – time in which to leave a legacy and not just a reason for future counseling. I want to lead them well. I want to love them well. And not only them, but any others God sees fit to place in my sphere of influence. This is why I’d love to have this book from which to glean. I’m a sponge. Please provide the puddle:)

  • Rachel

    Great post, food for thought. I’d never thought of leadership that way…As for why I would love to receive a copy of Jeremie’s book, that’s simple. I want to grow as a leader and I believe that one of the best ways (besides actually keep on leading) is by constantly feeding myself with new knowledge, provoking thoughts, inspirations, etc. If this post is representative of his book, then I am convinced it will provide all three.

  • Authentic Musician

    I loved this article! I have worked in music ministry through parachurch ministries for 17 years and church plants for 23 years. I currently have a ministry aimed at equipping artists and church leaders to have authentic ministries. It’s valuable to me and others (I hope) to continue to develop leadership skills and pass the lessons on to other artists and leaders of artists! Thanks for your generosity!

  • Jeff Pinkleton

    Love that question, right up there w/ Andy Stanley’s “What is the wise thing to do?” – Jeff Pinkleton,

  • Jeremy Weddle

    I would love to have this book with me when I enter law school this fall. Good leadership is vital, both at home and on the job, and I believe it is something that happens on purpose. I may become a leader by accident, but I’m convinced I can only be a good leader through dedication, intention and a lot of help. Thanks to you, Jeramie, for sharing what you know; and thanks to you, Michael Hyatt, for the recommendation.

  • Biggles

    i am a young man coming out of university and heading towards teaching.

    i have a desire to serve the youth of today by being a postive role model towards them. i feel this calling of leadership has been placed upon my heart and i have a true desire to be the best leader that i can be.i am absorbing as much knowledge about leadership as i can. i believe this book will be a great help in that.thanks

  • Eric Hendrickson

    I am a youth pastor as well as a part of the SC United Methodist Conference design youth ministry design team. this would be a great book for me in my positions.

  • planssucceed

    I listened to the tele- seminar yesterday. It’s no wonder that Jeremie Kubicek started His first company when he was 21 years old. Needless to say I took 4 pages of notes. Being a part of EQUIP no doubt I will be reflecting over those notes many times. Reflection is so important to growth. For Leadership to be alive it really is about serving others. Jeremie Kubicek said it is important to ask yourself this one question “What is holding me back?” Why it is important to identify that One thing is for sure Jeremie Kubicek wrote this book to help everyone who reads improve and grow in this area.

  • Bud Royer

    Wow…. I have learned much from those I worked for… as you said most were in that for themselves but I mentally jotted down my impressions which at the time were just impressions…. and now many years latter I can see how those impressions have greatly shaped my life and relationships with others.

    1. I so remember the first job I had in the restaurant business with Steak N’ Ale back in 1969 in Austin. The guy who ran it was Roy Nunis, who to this day is a dear friend. I was only 18 at the time. I quickly recognized how important being left brain/anal is key to running a successful restaurant operation which to me, at that age, seemed to be all ’bout Roy! I decided at that time that I never wanted to manage a restaurant, as I had a good time building relationships with my guests and making great tips which was all ’bout the guest! Do note that this decision was ’cause of watching Roy…. nothing wrong with how he ran the business but it was way too left brain for me. And of course nearly 20 years later I being out of work for two years took over a small run down, country cafe with $200 in my pocket and a banknote, four kids all under 12 and a wife…… of course that was 24 years ago and I had to figure out how to run a restaurant without a left brain. made many mistakes but the last thing we are is left brainers!

    2. While still working through ranks of the restaurant business I ended up with a boss that was the CFO of a small chain in Houston in the late 70’s & early 80’s. Speaking of working for someone who lived by all his numbers and being right. I will never forget the lesson he taught me about trying. He took a pencil and tossed it to me which I caught. He quickly pointed out to me “there is no such thing as trying to catch that pencil, either you catch it or you don’t….. NO TRYING!!!” WOW I can remember his red hair with his starched shirts and that was 30 years ago…. he was a quick to judge and was very a poor leader! He clearly taught me that you either do it or you don’t… NO TRYING! He also pointed out to me that “genius is simplicity!” Which is one of the foundation cornerstones of our business…. Keeping it simple which is a very intentional task that becomes more and more difficult as one’s business grows!

    3. I so remember another major milestone principal taught to me by one of my major restaurant suppliers which I was in the midst of negotiating new costing guidelines. Note the key word was “I” not “WE”. Jack Parks was his name and he finally sat me down looking me in the eye and told me that I had to understand that it is not all about me or all about them but that we have to end up with a “win-win” for all the parties involved!!! WOW was that ever a life changing principal to grasp. A principal that impacted ever relationship I had in life! So was Jack for me? Yes he was…. he was willing to stay in the boat with me long enough for me to understand that we had to row the boat together. That was a gift.

    Life’s lessons, as well as life’s “great insights”, are most often caught rather than taught. I have found over and over in life that the creative process requires one to catch that fleeting cloud of an idea….. the solution is most often not an intentional act but one of recognizing the idea and saying “AH-HA!!!” ” THE AH-HA PRINCIPAL”

  • LSloan

    I have studied the subject of leadership for over 20 years and have become so frustrated at the lack of leadership fruit in our church that I have considered hanging it up several times – but where would I go? I love them too much to quit. I have prayed and studied and observed and analyzed and yet, I honestly don’t know what to do. I have been tempted to blame the “busyness” culture but I see others having success. I know that the only person I can willingly change is myself, but in what way has become a frustrating mystery.

  • Catcher72

    Leadership has been something I have approached two ways: 1) I either avoided it, or 2) I led based on talent instead of character. Becoming a father, growing in my faith, and developing as a professional has helped me to better understand the responsibility of servant leadership and the opportunities to lead with character.

  • Gene Smith

    After doing the initial exercise in the blog it has become abundantly clear how much I need to unlearn about leadership. both mine and those who have influenced me.

  • Katrina, Bible Games Blogger

    Jeremie, you give some really
    great insights into the questions we face as leaders in the church. As a
    children’s ministry leader, I’ve faced some of these questions and have,
    unfortunately, sometimes had difficulties answering them. Thank you for sharing
    the various exercises—I look forward to doing them and hope that they will help
    me to get a better understanding of what being a leader means to me.

  • Boyd Pelley

    I first met Kent Humphreys as a college student. He had nothing to gain from offering me lunch. That was 25+ years ago and our paths have criss-crossed many times since. You are right about the difference that kind of leader makes. You know he is for you. I would love to add to that image the lessons of Jeremie Kubicek’s book. I noticed he mentioned Kent as well in his forward. As the company I founded and lead continues to grow, I want to make sure I am the kind of leader who inspires people to go way beyond me.

  • Todd Weiden

    want this book for one simple reason:To strengthen the NEED for Influence in my Leadership.It is sometimes TOO easy to simply lead by authority & accountability (ie – “I have the ability to fire you – so listen to me….”) – when a leader can take that authority, put it in their back pocket, and simply lead from the heart & from TRUE influence….that’s when IMPACT occurs. That is when troops follow you into battle, that’s when your TEAM triumphs in dark circumstances, that’s when you simply win, no matter the circumstances. This book will strengthen this trait in my leadership & I can’t wait to see how it will impact my professional & personal life.

  • Krissi

    Thank you, Mr. Hyatt for allowing guests to post. I am being challenged by the posts on your blog and appreciate it! Thanks Jeremie for this great thought-provoking post.

  • Sjohnston

    I would like to have this book because I want to be the kind of leader who has people answer the question posed in this post as “he is for me.” I have much to learn in this area. It is too easy to lean toward the “he is for himself” side. I have some great folks on my team and many faithful volunteers who selflessly serve each week. I want them to know that I am for them.

  • Anonymous

    What a great exercise. I have a mentors in my life, whom I consider wonderful leaders and influential people, including yourself Michael who really care, and will pour their heart into those they serve, and inspires me to do the same. This also allows me to re-affirm with my own leadership, that I am ‘for’ the people I serve and love.

  • Dan Greegor

    I just came back from the Chick-Fil-A Leadercast where Mr. Kubiceck. His messages were very inspiring and also very challenging in my life. Like Mr. Kubiceck, I too believe that leadership is NOT dead. However, I am finding that fewer and fewer in my area want to be leaders. I would love to change that and his book is a great place to begin.



  • Karen Mhere4u

    As a former full time minister, school of ministry teacher, then missionary, I now voluntarily serve as am advisor to ministry leaders and missionaries. Another hat I wear is on the team that oversees adult education leaders at our church. This article is very helpful and will be passed to all I work with. The book would be a special blessing and considered as a study book for this church ministry. Thanks for your insight.

  • Niiboye

    There is a group of marginalized people in society that I am somehow having to deal with. They are commercial sex workers and HIV/AIDS tested positive patients. I trust this will aid me. You may contact for confirmation.

  • Katie

    I attended Leadercast today and thoroughly enjoyed everyone who spoke and participated in the important dialogue. As a wife, mother of 2, and employee there are things I could certainly do to become more like Jesus– the very best example we have of an influential, dynamic and people-loving leader. I’d really love a copy of Jeremie’s new book! (And my co-workers would love if I passed it along.) Thanks for the opportunity to win. I’m looking forward to Leadercast 2012!

  • Jonathan Brantley

    I would love to see what he has to say, plus it would be nice to win a giveaway on this blog.

  • Jeremy Burroughs

    I love Howard’s perspective on leadership. I have noticed in my own life that I am always more fulfilled when I focus on being “for” people. Recently, two young men that I mentor experienced ministerial and personal breakthroughs. By being “for” them, I was able to take part in the joy that they had in their victories The problem I run into, at times, is that I am not always sure how to go about being “for” people in the best ways. I am looking forward to reading this book. Thanks for the post Michael!

  • Wilson

    I am called by God out of a charismatic mega Church to a small, traditional Anglican Church to serve as a youth pastor one and a half years ago. I find it difficult to integrate into their culture and relationships which they have already built since their childhood years (they are 2nd generation believers). My leaders trust me to a certain extent but I hope to go much deeper than that. In addition, I desire to be God’s vessel to bring reformation to the old culture of leadership which is no longer relevant in today’s context.

    Thank you :)

  • Clinton

    I would want this book as I am always striving to improve as a leader. I just came off of a job where my immediate boss was against me and have just started a job where I am a project manager on a large project (in trouble) in a matrix organization. My influencing skills are going to be tested and anything I learn in this area will be used.

    Thanks for the opportunity.


  • Rick Duncan

    I would love adding this resource to my toolkit. I just started teaching a leadership class at my church in Cleveland, Ohio. I have ten men in the class. 2 are in the eldership process at our church. 2 are young 20-something pastors. 1 is purchasing a business and will be president and CEO soon. The others are men who are searching for God’s will for their lives as leaders. I think this tool would help me help them. Most importantly, we lost LeBron when he took his talents to Miami. We need a leadership lift here in Cleveland!

  • Nora Zarate Hodges

    Michael, I attended Leadercast today, in Wichita Falls, Texas. It was incredibly life changing. I was up late last night and up early this morning to make the 40 mile drive to the event. Still, tonight I am pumped up beyond belief. It was an amazing day. You have been instrumental in my journey of personal development and today I saw and heard so much wisdom I am bursting with the energy to live my life with passion. I read this post early this morning as we drove to Wichita Falls and knew I had to come back to it. Then I listened to Jeremie and all the others throughout the day. I am for you, for Jeremy and anyone that will be a part of my life. I have new passion for the volunteer work I am already doing and I will go forward with a renewed spirit. I read something every day for personal development. Leadership is Dead has to be great- just reading Jeremie’s post and listening to him today makes that certain. “Create yourself every year. Create an edge every day” (Mack Brown today). Life is beyond good! Have a great evening and thank you.

    • Michael Hyatt

      I am so glad to hear that, Nora. I was really proud to be associated with this event.

  • Richard Campeau

    Hey, Michael.

    Thanks for the opportunity. I could certainly use this book because after 15 years as a solo pastor in the same small church in a small isolated town I feel the need to review (re-invent?) my role as a Christian leader. Thanks!

  • Lkfischer

    I never would have thought to do this about my family. Thanks for including that! Great post!

  • Mike D

    Leadership is Dead:
    How Influence is Reviving It. This title makes me think about my
    current situation. I work for a multi-national and it is very hard for me
    to lead across oceans and large language barriers. Sometimes all I can do is to ensure they know
    the expectations and help them to get the skills/ability to meet them. Provide a person training and opportunity and
    they will follow you because they know you are in it for them.

  • Slm7399

    I have led Soldiers in combat by commanding two artillery firing batteries. I now teach at West Point, one of the world’s premier institutions of leadership development. I want to study, implement, and teach leadership not by command but by influence.

  • Aaron Smith

    I like reading. This is why I would like a copy of the book. I also think that it would be a good book to help me re-think what organizational leadership in a church might look like as I try to minister here in Portland Or.

  • Davisbucs

    Leadership is Dead was promoted at the Chick-fil-a Leadercast that I attended today. I immediately decided it is a resource I want to have—-a complimentary copy would allow me to share with my daughter in college and still have a copy for the rest of the household at home.

  • Anonymous

    I’m soon to assume managerial duties in my current job. I led others while I was an officer in the military, but I feel a wasted some opportunities and want to consistently do better in my new job. The question asked is exactly what I need to explore within myself and how I plan to lead this time. I want to be for those in my family, my circle of friends, and my workplace.

  • Deb

    I just had the privilege of participating in the Chick-Fil-A Leadercast event today for the first time. It was phenomenal! My husband and I have both marked the date for next year. Thanks for your work on the event.

    It was great seeing Jeremy interviewing (via video) people he talks about in his book, and it really sparked an interest in me to read his book. I’m working on my Master in Library Science (one semester left!) and just completed a leadership forum (class) – which is when I found your blog (via my husband) which I then shared with all my classmates! I would love to have Jeremy’s book for my husband and I to read together and discuss (two for the price of one…), as well as the books in the Signature package offered at the Leadercast. Unfortunately, since I’m not working, that’s not possible right now. I appreciate your consideration for the giveaway of Jeremy’s book.

  • Chris Ferguson

    Having people naturally following my leadership is not enough. I must improve my skills constantly and when a proven leader like
    Jeremie Kubicek has taken the time to share his insight in “Leadership is Dead”, I must take note. I would like a copy, please.

  • Bets401

    saw your interviews for the book @ the leadercast event today – can’t wait to read it!

  • Bets401

    saw your interviews for the book @ the leadercast event today…can’t wait to read it!

  • Haydeeang

    Started reading books on Leadership for 2 yrs already and I’m liking it cos they help me to grow as a person. My perspective has changed. Many thanks to you too for sharing tips on your blog!

  • Ben Nunes

    I need to fill my entire summer off of television with reading books.

  • John Dye

    Just watched the movie LA Battle and the major theme is that the soldiers don’t want to be lead by their new leader because they didn’t believe he was “for them.” he was the only surviver of his last platoon. they finally come around and decide that the Sargent is actually for them and the decide to follow him to death if necessary. It seems that we as leader have a group of people that we look after, but seem selective about this, based on how committed they are to us. This book sounds like something every leader needs to read. I know I could use it.

  • Guy

    Thats was a great post a reall simple statement but very powerful and made me think about who I lead and who leads me.

    Why should I win a copy of Jeremie’s book, when I am probaby the farthest away in New Zealand and you would want to send a copy of the book down here surely ;-)

  • Michael S

    I can only apply the leadership concept to myself in the
    context of being a supervisor within an organization; I have never led one. The
    last time I was a supervisor, I genuinely tried to be for my employees rather
    than for myself, but in all honesty there was one employee whose difficult and
    manipulative behavior caused me to shift to a ‘for myself’ mode. I’m not proud
    of that, but it was the best I knew.

    I now know too well what it is to have one or two in my chain of
    command against me. I delayed posting to take time to think that through. It
    wasn’t even conduct at the far edge of ‘for themselves;’ it was definitely ‘against

    I would like a copy of this book to prepare myself for
    returning to supervision with a better skill set than I’ve had before. It’s
    important to acknowledge the self-serving aspect inherent in a ‘for my employee’
    attitude. There’s a line in a somewhat popular (at the moment) song’s lyrics
    that goes, “I don’t shine if you don’t shine.” When I read your post and sensed
    the genuine gratitude you felt for the leaders you’ve had who were for you, it
    made me want to operate at this highest level. I think reading this book once,
    twice or more will help me.

  • Rovervic

    I recently came across your site in my pursuit of resources to help me in a time of transition. I am moving from a smaller family style church to a larger program/staff type church. One of the issues that I will be dealing with is how best to lead? I realize that some of what was effective in a smaller setting will no longer be possible ( i.e. I will not be able to know everyone). I know that I will have to continue to develop a skill set that will allow me to work more with the leaders in a diffident way. My challenge with be how to become a better coach and mentor to them so that they can play a vital role in the shaping and leading of the church. Your book seems like it might offer insight that would be very helpful to me at this time.

  • Arman Sheffey

    I am an emerging leader in my church,, in my field of work as an Academic Advisor, and am gaining more influence as a leader amongst my frineds. The issue that concerns me is my pride and my inward focus. I was challenged by this blog post and would love to further examine my leadership through the reading of Jeremie’s book. I have been intrigued by the Catalyst organization, since I heard of it two years ago and if it were not for my hectic weekday schedule would have made it a point to attend their events in my Area, Northern suburbs of Chicago.
    Other than reading this book for personal leadership revitalization and development, I truly would like to recommend this book to my pastor, Mark Carter, who’s explicit calling is to train and edify believers and to empower them to become world changers. He does so specifically through a year long discipleship group, wherein we read several leadership, personal, and spiritual development books, including the likes of John Maxwell, Andy Stanley, and Dave Ramsey. It sounds as though this would be an excellent book to include in the monthly discussions.
    I am excited by the opportunity to be blessed by a complimentary. Copy of this book and I know that it will pay great dividends for the kingdom as it continues to impact readers.
    God Bless,

  • Beatrice

    Reading this post makes me re-realize and re-remember that we all have a great deal of influence on each other. There is no strict line between leaders and followers. I like this post and therefore am curious about the book because it makes me re-think about my motivations and intentions not only as a “leader” but as a human being in general. These are essential questions that, if asked on a regular basis, can make us more deliberate and responsible in our actions, no matter how the respective answers will turn out.

    Dr. Beatrice Kraemer

  • Anonymous

    I saw this book at the Chik Fil A Leadercast. I am very interested in it and would love the chance to read it. I’m at a leadership crossroads right now. I moved to a new city by faith with my wife because we want to plant a church for Navy families. I want to change my influence ways.

  • Michael Dundas

    This was a very relevant post for me. A little over a year ago, I switched industries and moved from a consulting and vendor type role,to working in the financial industry. I have recently, become the leader of a team in this rather large organization. From my perspective, there are interesting dynamics in place. On one hand you have your team members, trying to get to know them, understand their strengths, weaknesses, goals, desires. On the other hand you have the company and the objectives that it is trying to accomplish, with limitations on resources, who should be responsible for different aspects. How does one balance these and I believe there is a link between how you balance these and how your team members will perceive you. If you are completely aligned with only the company objectives, you will be perceived as for yourself. If you are completely aligned with only employees objectives, you may appear as ‘for’ them, but you may appear to the company as ‘against’ them.

    The key of course seems to be the constant management of these to ensure some type of alignment.


  • Beth West

    I have a company of 7 amazing young people I lead and I want to know more about how I can be for them and make sure they know it.

  • Jeff Goins

    Powerful question. I’m still growing as a young(er) leader and want to continue developing my leadership. It’s a discipline, it seems. Sounds like a great book. In this season, I’m learning, in particular, how to lead laterally through influence.

    • Jeff Goins

      This book sounds like it could provide some practical help for leading as a servant. I’d love to grow in that habit.

  • Renata

    People can generally be identified as “Givers” or “Takers” in life. It’s the core of our human sinful nature to be a “Taker” accumulating wealth, social status, fame. Climbing the ladder of success only stomps on others around showing no care or concern. While the richest neighborhoods acquire money and mansions, the poorest homeless seek food and shelter.

    Jesus taught us to love our neighbor as ourselves and what we do for the least of our fellow individuals, we do as if unto Jesus. This mindset takes conscious action both personally and professionally. How a person chooses to use his free time speaks volumes. Do I lend a volunteering hand to others in need or work harder to develop my career and make more money for myself?

    I would love to read Jeremie Kubicek’s new book emphasizing how great an influence a leader does have in demonstrating these principles. In being a “Giver,” a leader makes a lasting impression on those around and him and sustaining legacy building the values of the team and business. People look up to leaders and mentors. I strive to be a role model for others that I encounter in both my work role and home life and look forward to Jeremie’s insights.

  • Bruce Bartolomeo

    As a new board chair of a non-profit that brings a mirco-enterprise to women who were enslaved in forced prostitution, I am, and have been for some time reading everything I can to make disciples. That was Jesus model of leadership and the model I seek to emulate. The Chick-Fil-A leadercast yesterday provided some great insights and I enjoyed your interview with Dan Cathy & Muhtar Kent.

  • Jason M.

    Increasingly more and more I see the need to assume responsibility for becoming a leader even for the day to day situations both at work and at home. Even if it is as simple as being a better leader/parent to my kids I will have a positive impact in their lives.

  • Carla

    I shared this on FB the day it posted and reread again today. This is really helpful especially when mentoring teens in speaking and leadership. We all need to look at our motive in our actions and choices. This question causes me to do just that. good post. thanks

  • Saundra Dalton-Smith

    Looking over my past experiences I would have to agree that most of the leaders in my life were for themselves. If I’m honest with myself, most of those I lead would probably say the same about me. Not the type of leader I want to be, so excited to see the suggestions in this book.

  • Jmhardy97

    I am in a leadership position and I know that leadership is influence and we each get up in the morning and make an impact on others. It can either be positive or negative. We have a choice. Leaders need to chose wisely. Thank you for your post and consideration in the giveaway.

    Jim Hardy

  • Jon Owen

    Is it possible that some are “for me” but with an agenda? I’ve found a leader I know who is supportive and appreciates my gifts. They listen. However, as soon as I step out of what this leader perceives to be the right boundaries, I have to pay for it. It has raised major trust issues. I cannot tell if this person is really for me, or if this is manipulation in some sense. When I say boundaries, I’m not talking moral or ethical. I’m talking opinions. Frustrating. This is a great post, because I know what to look for in leaders and those I lead.

  • MrDanOCC

    I lead a team in a church that works with children from toddlers through high school. My children’s staff is highly organized, task oriented and goal driven. They stink one on one with people! My youth guys are off the charts relationally, but when I want to talk goals and accountability – they look at me like I want to kill their kitten. So – I lead a team of complicated stereotypes. I TRULY feel my job is to get this disjointed team to use its talents effectively together for the Kingdom of God and to lead by letting them excel at their strengths. I instinctively know that it is my job to be FOR THEM, but I find myself asking them to do things they stink at all the time. I will read Jeremie’s book – because I need it. It would ROCK if you pick me, Michael!

  • Pavel

    I am a young leader at a global youth organisation, and for me learning on the topic of leadership is essential, cause at youth organisations working on voluntary basis people are motivated by leadership, not by money, possibility of promotion or being laid off, etc. Therefore I would really appreciate being one of the 100 granted the book ;)

  • Justin Simmons

    I’m a student ministries pastor who is currently reshaping the way we do student leadership. I would be very interested in hearing and reading Jeremie’s perspectives on leadership.

  • Deborah J. Cutler

    I work in a maximum security prison and need to utlilize my interpersonal skills without becoming emotionally involved or allowing myself to be manipuliated. I want to lead and inspire workers who do not have the typical motivations of career success or an increase in their salary. The questions you discuss stike me as one avenue of enriching our work environment, without increasing cost.

  • Tyra

    I have declared 2011 a year of transition, renewal and learning. throughout the journey I have taken classes I may have never taken, read books I may have never read and opened up to people whom I may not had the courage to approach previously. It all is a part of getting to my authentic self. I would love to explore what message this book might have for me.

  • B_Schebs

    Reading this post today, really opened my eyes. I realized that even though I talk a big game about being “For others”, I am really just playing for myself. I do help others but only if it involves no risk for me. I have gotten good at spinning things so the look to help others but, in Honesty, they mostly help me get what I need. What a horrible realization to have, what what amazing opportunity to change things. thanks for the Words that hit the heart Jeremie

  • Keith Glover

    Why do you want a copy of Jeremie’s new book? There are several reasons I’d like a copy of Jeremie’s new book:
    1) It’s FREE!
    2) If Michael Hyatt is recommending it, it has to be good!
    3) I love to read leadership books. Recently, at the #CFALeadercast my co-worker asked me if I had read every leadership book out there? To which I replied, “all of them, but that new one by Jeremie Kubieck.”
    4) About the only think I love as much as reading leadership books is giving them to others, so after reading this book (If I were chosen to receive a copy) I’d give it to a friend in leadership!

    I could go on, but I’ll stop now for time’s sake. Thanks for the opportunity Michael!

  • Joe Martino

    A copy of this book could enhance my professional and personal life. To be honest, I”m skeptical about it’s value and wonder if it will be the same old stuff repackaged to help me think how smart this author is while the whole time he’s telling me how smart he isn’t in feigned humbleness. I have been on a sabbatical from reading books about leadership for quite a while because of this trend. To be sure, I’ve read some here and there that were helpful, and I have an entire shelf full of books about leadership. I’ve found that actually finding leaders and sitting down with them is a better use of my time. I am interested in reading this book because I believe it may be a book that will help me to believe that books that are actually helpful are making a comeback.

  • Bgbulmer

    I just came on staff at a great young church. I am being asked to provide a lot of leadership and influence in a very short amount of time. I want to provided God’s best and help this fast growing church go to the next level. I would love for this book to help me get there.

  • Juan

    Great question – Are you for them, against them, or for yourself? It is in our human nature to be egocentric, I really work hard on being for them (My managers, family, friends, parents, corworkers, customers/clients).
    I think most of us have the same challenge -to think first about them than about us.
    ometimes we get sidetracked by just giving results, bringing the numbers, but what about them?
    Am I really someone they can count on?
    I would love to win a copy of the book.

  • Btowler2

    Jesus preached that actions are secondary to motivation. It’s the things that proceed “out of
    the heart” that determine quality of life for yourself and those you influence. Mr. Kubicek offers a valuable method for not only evaluating motivation but improving or correcting it. As a missionary/pastor/teacher, even this short excerpt, has given me a good tool for a heart ‘check-up’.

  • Mark Heywood

    Hi Michael, I recently started leading a new team at church (of mostly younger people) I think this book would help me to serve this team well and I’d love to pass it on to my core team to also read! Thanks

  • Luis C

    Dear Michael Hyatt, I been in many rolls in my career in Mexico and USA and I’m always looking for better ways to make my professional way. I got from a friend (Linked Id) the internet page about this book and I will definitely want a copy in my next trip to USA.Luis Cantu,

  • Benjiiiiii

    I love this post!

    I just had a “Duh, why didn’t I think of that?” moment…

    This post really hit me in the gut. I’m leading more teams, overseeing more people, and recruiting people to follow. Yet, I never called a timeout to see if I’m in fact ‘for’ these people or ‘for’ me.

    I would love Jeremie’s book simply because I’m banking on having many more of these ‘a ha!’ moments as I read it.

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  • Mike McGinnis

    Leaders read. Readers lead. You say it all the time. As a college grad for the last 36 hours, I’d like to become a part of the new wave of influential young leaders and reading is a never-ending stepping stone.

    In other words, I’d like Jeremie to help me keep leadership ALIVE.

  • Robert Ewoldt

    I don’t think I’ve ever had a boss that’s been AGAINST me. On the other hand, I don’t think I’ve ever had a boss that’s been FOR me, either. My bosses have fallen into your category of serving themselves first.

  • Chris Thurman

    As John Maxwell says, “Leadership is Influence, nothing more, nothing less.” This is a timely book that gets right to the heart of leadership. I would like this book in order to expand my influence, and consequently, my leadership in all areas I participate in….business (bank executive), church (lay leader, deacon, and Sunday School teacher), and most importantly at home (husband and father of two – 10 yr. old son, and 2 yr. old daughter). More than anywhere else, my inflence at home may be the biggest leadership challenge and blessing. I pray that my children and wife see the leadership characteristics of Christ in me daily, know that I am for them and seeing them reach their potential, and I’m constantly striving to improve that leadership by influence.

  • Dirkinho

    I will take over my first small team next month, so leadership-support would be benefitial.

  • Linda Kennedy

    As the director of our Christmas drama each year, I find myself praying in earnest…please help this not be about me. Help me deliver your message to those unsaved. AND…I struggle with the frustration of those who have volunteered their dramatic skills with an “it’s only the church program” attitude. I’m searching for insight in my quest to bring out the best in them…for their sake and the message we bring.

  • Alan Kay

    Fantastic questions and great framework for making use of them! I particularly like this approach to leadership because it addresses Covey’s notion, ‘to change other’s behavior, we must first change our own’. Plus, it enables win-win, often called goal alignment.

    In answering the second set of questions (about yourself) I’d recommend scaling 1-10 each answer across each name, e.g.,

    Person #1 (Scale 1-10) For them 7 Against them 3 For myself 4
    Person #2 (Scale 1-10) For them 3 Against them 5 For myself 6

    Why bother scaling in this way? There are no black and white answers to most questions. This is especially true about the most important people in your life. By adding in the scaling you may get more insights about where you need to make changes (or make things even better).

    When it comes to the people where we have to make lots of change happen (in ourselves), having some insights on where we are ‘for them’ will give us a place to begin, i.e., do more of the ‘for’ and start trying new approaches to make the other two work better. If you have high numbers on ‘against’ and ‘myself, don’t forget to look for previous exceptions and do more of that too.

  • misty

    I attended the CFALeadercast Event which was my first introduction to this book and it intrigued me. I want a copy and it would be great to get it from you! But if I am not one of the lucky 100 people, I will be getting it regardless! :) Thanks for the post!

  • Trish Ryan

    Powerful questions! My husband and I are in the early stages of planting a church in Boston, a city where people tend to be far from family, pursuing intense & demanding goals, and not particularly inclined towards faith (although there’s an increasing level of spiritual curiosity). Which means it can be tough to find people who are “for” you in this climate. This post (and I suspect, this book) ties in exactly with conversations we’ve been having with our team about our dream of connecting the people of our awesome city with God, an the good news that he’s “for” us. Would love to read the whole book and help spread the word.

  • Anonymous

    This is a great question, one that I am sure that many leaders forget about. It may be the quite internal question of those you lead, but without you knowing about it. They may have internal dialogue that is going on and the answers may be disappointing to you if you do no address it. It seems that this book provides some in dept look at how you are as a leader and helps you to find ways to really get to the heart of servant leadership. Any book that can help me in that respect is one that I would love to read. But more importantly, I think that it would be beneficial to pass it on to some key leaders in my life.

  • Christina Attard

    My interest in your book lies in this: Leadership is a vocation. It is a call to envision a future that others will be invested in creating. One’s role as a leader will fundamentally change his/her life and the lives of those connected to the changes they create. For many of us, it is merely an accident to be charged with such power. The leaders I’ve respected the most are the ones who have learned to be intentional about the effect of their leadership positions. Who have been able to step outside their personal agendas and bring others along to create their own meaningful successes. The great leaders are the ones whose missions I still believe in now even though I’ve moved on to other projects and locations in my life.

  • Joey Cope

    I would like to read Mr. Kubicek’s book because of some thoughts I’m developing regarding justice as an essentially self-centered enterprise – partially influenced by the Golden Rule and the way it shapes us to think first of self. I don’t believe the premise of “doing unto others as you would have them do unto you” is wrong. After all, it was a theme that Jesus spoke to numerous times. Yet, I believe that we should be looking to what we want personally as a framework rather than a motivation. I also believe that we must find ways to influence people to be truly altruistic. Thanks for this post and the opportunity for getting the book.

  • Fr Matthew Thurman

    I’m the pastor/priest of a small Orthodox mission church in Ohio that has been working for years to try and grow. A key element that our community needs is leadership similar to what Mr. Kubicek talks about.

    I’ve read many books on leadership in the past and they’ve all started to blur together. I keep seeing posts on on Mr. Kubicek’s new book and am intrigued by it. This one is different and I’d like to dig into it deeper.

  • PoulAndreassen

    It is amazing to know that there are articles like this
    on web. Thanks for sharing : )

  • Nanandrews79329

    I am interested in becoming a better leader. Following God all the way.

  • Joshua Swift

    I am in my early thirties and have been in leadership positions for the past 6 years, but over the last few months I am learning that true leadership is not just a position on the organizational chart. I have read many books and know that leadership is influence but I feel God is finally showing me that this influence with others needs to come from the heart and not my head. The title is of the book is appropriate since so many leaders are pre-occupied with self at the expense of others. After attending the Chick-fil-a Leadercast and listening to all the speakers and watching the videos with Jereme and Chris Carneal and Joel Manby I really, realy want this book. I have tried to get @timsanders and @andyandrews latest books through these giveaways so I hope my persistence pays off and look forward to getting Leadership is Dead. I feel it couldn’t come at a better time in my carreer. I also have two young children (3 months and 3 1/2 years old) with a beautiful wife and feel this book will help me be a better leader at home. Just the way Jesus served, I feel I need to begin serving others and I am ashamed to say I haven’t always felt this way.

  • Heather Hamilton

    For many years I was a follower. A good follower, but a follower none the less. Through those years I had both good and bad leaders. Eventually my life presented me with many leadership opportunities of my own and I found that I thrived in those roles. Both within my community, at work, and within my family, good leadership is crucial to my personal and professional success. I am now in a new leadership position with a ten-year-old nonprofit, tasked with moving it in a new and exciting direction. Leadership here has been unstable and unmotivating at best. Always the learner even as I am the leader, I’m constantly in search of new skills and information around leadership, motivation and team work. I’m very interested in Jeremie’s ideas around leadership and how we can improve the lives of those we lead, both organizationally and personally, and how, as we improve our own leadership style, we can positively influence others.
    I appreciate the opportunity to receive a copy of this book. Thanks for opening it up to tweeters like myself!

  • Raphael

    I would like a copy of Leadership is Dead: How influence is reviving it for the following reasons: I am intrigued by the title; my interest was further stirred by the interview I heard at the recent Leadercast; I am exploring “things leadership” as an individual and as an educator this book sounds like it would be a useful resource for the journey.

  • jason langfield

    I would love a copy of this book.
    I think that I have often seen and been in all of these boats. : “Are you for me, against me, or for yourself?” I would love to learn and grow so that the people I serve with, lead and work with will always know that I am for them. It maybe some what counter culture but that is what change is for.

  • Barry Hill

    Most of the leaders that I have worked for in the past, who are all great people, have exhibited all three of the categories you mentioned at sometime in there tenure. So, maybe apart of the exercise is to take a look at the times/situations in our life and find out why, at times, why are all about self? Why at times, we are all about others? What motivates us from scenario to scenario, season to season can be soooo different! Just my thoughts!

  • Todd

    I have four children ages 7 to 1 years old and as my wife and I raise them I want them to know that I am for them and think this book will help me do that.

  • Tim Barton

    I am 55 & facing a leadership transition in my life. I sense that something new is coming. God is wanting to expand my understanding & practice of leadership. I have so much to learn about leadership. I want to expose myself to something new, fresh, challenging!

  • Ruzica Bjelajac

    I like the title and I trust Michael! It sounds like a very good book…

  • Miles Steele

    As someone who wants to someday run my own business and who is gaining more responsibility in my local church, I want know all that I can about how to be an effective influencer, mentor & leader.

  • Annie

    Great perspective & seems I have a lot to learn! As I read this, I realized that in my work and personal life I too often exhibit more of a self-interest focus that I am comfortable. Brings to mind Leadership and Self-Deception – maybe sometimes, the problem, solution and ideal relationships start with me. While I don’t have a wide body of influence, am interested enough that I’ll be purchasing regardless :)

    I vote for the person who likes turtles!

  • Ross Purdy

    I am amazed at the lack of true leadership in most organizations/schools/churches. Those who are visionaries, willing to take the risk and following their heart no matter the cost or criticism. Most “leaders” that I’ve interacted with are ultimately are in it for themselves while throwing their team under the “proverbial” bus.
    Jesus, our ultimate example in leadership, served. Servant leadership…to humble yourself and put the needs of others before you.
    I’m starving for this kind of leader and maybe, just maybe this book will mold me into being the kind of leader I’d follow.

    • Robert Ewoldt

      Ross, I think the reason that there’s not much true leadership in in
      organizations/schools/churches is because we don’t train people to be
      leaders. We train them to be everything and anything else, but not leaders.

  • Blair Howell

    I agree with you Jeremie. I have met so many self-proclaimed
    leaders that are in it all for themselves and it only takes a few moments
    before they are identified as not being much of a leader at all.
    Unfortunately, I can only think of a few leaders that I have had the
    opportunity of meeting and knowing on a personal relationship level but have
    impacted my life greatly, especially in my younger years. Which leads into my question. Does your book apply to leading your family? While I appreciate the leadership of others
    and being a leader in general I know the most important leader I can be right
    now is to my family. Does your book
    cover this precept from a Godly perspective?

  • klb

    I am now in middle management and want, so very much, to do this right. I don’t want to just “do business” in the way I’ve usually seen it done, but long to move forward, to be a light, for my co-workers to know without a doubt that I am “for” them. I always heard that you can’t be a parent AND a friend, but I’ve proven that maxim wrong in my own family. I want to prove – to myself & those around me – as well, that you can be a friend, touch the lives of those around you, and still be a very effective leader. My current employer has been an excellent example of this and I want to exemplify & expand on it.

  • Thomas B Soch

    I am married, we have no children but would like to learn to build a large business using the Amway sales and Marketing plan. I am not a quitter but have not had much results in the past few years. Love to serve people and grow myself from the inside out. This book sounds like something helpful to me.

  • Kgoza

    There are few leaders today that really care about others. Our culture has created the “I” mentality. The ipad, ipod, etc. It would be a great benefit to me as a leader to read this book. Reading is such an important part of leading.

  • Mark

    Leadership often comes down to self examination. So many leaders like to criticize those around them — but never look internally. I love this premise! I especially like that asking these questions outwardly and inwardly complete the process of leadership. I pray that I’m not purely for “myself” and that I am willing to be “for” someone else. Thank you for the blog!

  • Adonis Lenzy

    Good one Michael. Very challenging and eye opening if done with complete honesty.

  • Jimfitz2

    Of all the qualities I strive for, leadership is the one I want most! I want to be a leader for my family, my church, my office, the youth teams I coach and in the community. It’s easy for me to be for my family and for many others. Sometimes it’s not so easy in other aspects of my life. Any leadership advice is valuable to me, especially as I try to mentor others towards leadership, especially my son. Jeremie’s book would be a great tool to help me help others.

  • Teresa

    What a powerful message. It really helps clarify the leaders you come into contact with. More importantly it made me think of my role as a servant, a friend and a parent.

  • Anonymous

    Great post. I decided to evaluate many of my past employers using the criteria. As well as family members. Amazing that many were of the “for themselves” variety. There was a “remnant” though, that have always been for me. I am certainly appreciative for their presence in my life.

    Re: Leadership book. My wife and I both received our M.Div. degrees from Fuller Seminary. We are looking to relocate real soon and may eventually plant a church in the area. This book would help us develop as we lead a congregation of people as pastors. Thanks.

    Again, loved the post.

  • Josh Ketchum

    It looks like a significant book in developing a new paradimgn regarding leadership success now and into the future. It will be helpful for me as a minister in trying to influence others and looks like a good book to share with the elders and others influential men and women.


    • Josh Ketchum

      That should be “paradigm” instead of my poor spelling. Josh

  • Svanderzicht

    I love the title. Very intriguing. And I’m drawn by the simple question you say is asked by those we lead: “Are you for me, against me, or for yourself?” I’m for you!

  • bethanyplanton

    This is a great exercise to do! My current boss is one of those people who is for me and because of her I have been able to grow in my position at the company and am prepared for when I leave this position due to graduation and marriage and work somewhere else!

  • InSpirit

    really appreciate the practicality of @

    ‘s exercises – insights expressed here are a good indication of influential material i’m looking for as i pioneer a new Kingdom venture – MANY THX!

  • Dougrowles

    I don’t think leadership is dead, just out of touch with reality.

  • Evan Doyle

    I heard Jeremie at the Chick-fil-a Leadercast last week, and it was really good. I can’t wait to read his book to learn more about the future of leadership!

  • David

    I would LOVE to be able to have this book as part of my outreach to my sphere. As one who has been strongly and effectively mentored within the professional realm, I believe that it’s more than just who you teach and what you teach them. Rather, it is how your wisdom is being imparted and applied in each person you engage with. Leadership is not just a method of making you feel better about yourself; that you molded someone into who you think they should be. Leadership is a sacrifice, a servant attitude, one that would bend his knee to wash one’s feet in the same manner as Jesus did to His disciples. It is in this servant attitude that replaces the self-serving mentality and performance-based mindset with a loving, relational, engaging, and “how can I serve you” perspective that brings transformation to the mind, heart, soul, and spirit.

    I agree that authentic leadership requires authentic servanthood, and as you said:

    “These leaders believed in me, listened to me and appreciated my gifts. Not only that, but they intently invested in my life in significant and valuable ways.”

    The impartation of values, ethics, and morals is dependent on the hows, whys and when we invest in someone else’s life. The more we value them and see them the way God sees them, the better we can help them achieve, guide, and mentor their paths that God has for them.

  • Brett Berchtold

    Thank you, Jeremie, for this post! You’re doing excellent work at GiANT. I am very thankful for many of the great resources GiANT has provided over the years.

    I love this post because through the exercise you described above, I’ve found that the people in my life that have had the most impact on me, those who were definitely for me and others, were strong self-leaders. As John Maxwell says, self-leadership is the hardest form of leadership. I struggle with this more than any other thing in my personal growth journey.

    If I were to receive your book, I would use it to become more self-aware of the ways I haven’t focused on other people, how I can focus more on others, and ultimately have more influence on those that I serve.

    I have gotten a taste of your book with the sample chapter (which I love the Action steps by the way). Now, I want to consume it and let it make an impact on me for the benefit of others.
    In success,

  • Rebecca Pierrot

    As a budding leader in various outlets, I realize that although I didn’t ask for leadership, my gift has been recognized by others. So now that I’ve recognized it, I have an obligation to hone my skills and develop an effective style. This is why I follow @michaelhyatt. This is why i’m interested in Jeremie’s book.

  • bevo92

    I work for a small business organization. There were times that I would bring home organizational or leadership dilemmas and issues to discuss with my wife who works in management for a large Fortune 500 organization. Most of the times I disagreed with her “build up the team member” approach as I didn’t think it would work in a small organization. Dealing with difficult or unmotivated co-workers in this setting, my approach was always “get rid of the bum” and find someone else who will fit in. I have now experienced first hand that this approach is totally off base and counter productive. I have seen tangible examples of what building up team members can do not only for the organization but for how I feel about my true role as a leader. The power of knowing I can possibly become a positive influence in a person’s life is incredible. I believe learning more about Kubecik’s approach would greatly assist my growth into a leader and benefit not only my organization, but my influence on family friends and my community. “Do unto others as we would want done to us” classic advice no matter what your religious or spiritual background is.

  • Ryan Rotman

    Looks like a fantastic book. Definitely appropriate as a young leader in a church. Always looking for great new books out there to get my hands on.

  • Roberta


    I know I’ve been called to lead and want to help others become all that God has made them to be. I want to be the kind of leader who serves people with a humble heart full of gratitude and love for God and them. I think this book would be a valuable tool in helping me accomplish that goal. I also appreciate any help you can offer and am very grateful to God for your service to all of us. You have been a wonderful help for me. Thank you and God bless, Roberta

  • Daniel Becerra

    After naming the people in my team and asking myself the question “Am I for them, against them, or for myself?” My immediate answer was “I am for them”, but then it hit me “What if they don’t perceive that?”. My struggle lies in the uncertainty of whether or not my team is SURE that I am for them. I find that even if my intentions are the best, if I am not aware that my actions are interpreted as I want them to be, then the intentions are almost pointless. I really intend for my actions to tell the story “I am for you”. I want to be as intentional about it as possible. And I believe this book can help me get there. Thank you in advance!

  • Ben Dueck

    This book looks great! I’d be interested in getting a copy of it as I am currently taking a Masters degree in leadership. I’d love to see Kubicek’s take on the topic, and it would probably assist in many of my assignments!

  • c

    Wow, looks like another winning book! Please keep them coming!

  • Anonymous

    I would love a copy of this book as I am a leader in my home, in my church, in my job and would love any help in becoming a better leader. A leader cannot be only for themselves.

  • Jim

    I want this book to better myself and teach to those I lead. I am pastor, church planter, and an entreprenuer.

  • artefactaudio

    That’s a great question. I just became a part of an organizational health committee where I work and it’s linked to our center of our conversation in just recent months. I’ve love to dive deeper into what Kubicek has to say.

  • Nathalie Hatch

    I am part of a leadership team in a local church and found the question very thought provoking and yet gets right to the point – for, against or
    for self! Love it! I would love to be able to bring this book to our leadership table and create some dialog about this very topic – God wants a family and to be a real family we have to have the same heart towards seeing others succeed as well as others seeing us to succeed – family members are for the good of the whole not just the parents or the parents just for the kids, etc. Great article, thank you for sharing!

    Nathalie Hatch

  • Austin Roberts

    This exercise was actually really helpful. I noticed from this example that I have had it pretty good seeing that my previous and current boss has been really “for me.” It really helped me analyze myself as a leader too. Though, I believe I am definitely “for” my followers, I have to always make sure I keep that in mind. I would also say that I am “for myself” because I find a lot of satisfaction in the things I do in my leadership positions. They are great confidence boosters, strengthening my academic, time management, communication, and people skills. Yet, even with these awesome benefits, I must make sure to put my followers right up there with them. Thank you for reminding me of that!

  • Jim

     Great idea and book.  I have been a pastor for 31 years, church planter for 3 years, and entrepreneur.  I would love to have this book to read and use as a resource for those I lead.  Thanks  Jim Laymon

  • Brandon Weldy

     Lately i have been working on my leadership abilities. It started with reading some blogs and working on my life plan. Now I have been on a search for some books to help me in this journey. I was really challenged by this blog post and doing the exercise really opened my eyes to some things about relationships that I have with people that I was unaware of before. I currently for a small congregation in rural Missouri but I desire to be the leader God wants me to be no matter where I am or who it is that I am leading. 

  • Paul Dudding

    Being a young leader , I have been told repeatedly that a leader is a reader , and having an opportunity to add another great resource is awesome . I want the youth that I lead to know I am there for them , and a book that helps address the issue on how to let them know that I am there for them sounds awesome . I appreciate the opportunity to receive.this book. Thank you.

  • A.Moon

     I love books! I love books about leadership! It’s that simple… I want the Jeremie’s new book.  I also want to share it with my team.

  • Joshua Scheid

    I am excited for a leadership book that focuses more on the way a leader relates to others than on ways the leader should improve his or her own characteristics for personal gain.  As a seminary student, it’s a challenge not to envy the success of megachurch, blogging pastors (you know who I’m talking about); however, it is crucial to remember to focus on communicating a true message and fostering authentic relationships with others.  Pastors have to be the ultimate encouraging mobilizers!

  • B. Robbins

    Great post, @67f9aa4cecba761cfbdac4deb035d6fc:disqus! This post has definitely got me thinking. I am a young leader training for pastoral ministry and have often encountered this question already.  I desire to learn more 0n the topic, in an effort to become the best leader I can be.  I am very passionate about ministry and impacting lives, so I do my best to be intentional about my learning, in order to be most effective in leadership.  I would love a copy of the book for this reason and feel that it would be very helpful in my leadership growth process.  Thank you so much, Michael for sharing this post with us! Posts like these are the kind that have great impact on my process of growth as a leader and that I often find are just what I need at the time. Thank you again!! This post has definitely got me thinking. I am a young leader training for pastoral ministry and have often encountered this question already.  I desire to learn more 0n the topic, in an effort to become the best leader I can be.  I am very passionate about ministry and impacting lives, so I do my best to be intentional about my learning, in order to be most effective in leadership.  I would love a copy of the book for this reason and feel that it would be very helpful in my leadership growth process.  Thank you so much, Michael for sharing this post with us! Posts like these are the kind that have great impact on my process of growth as a leader and that I often find are just what I need at the time. Thank you again!

  • B-robbins

     and somehow my last comment posted the same thing one on top of the other. Not sure how that happened. My apology!

  • Kristegoad

     I want this book because I think it will help me be the kind of leader I want to be to others and will also help me be clear on the kinds of people I want to follow.

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  • Cpl M

    Im a Marine. Ive been a lower rank for some time and recently been promoted and then placed in charge of a group of men. Ive had quite a few leaders in my time in the corps who were not just for themselves but were against everyone .Now that Im in a leadership position I find myself struggling with not becoming the way my “mentors” were before me. Id like to make a positive difference in my time not just with my platoon but with my peers as well.

  • Jon Lorensen

    Will add if you will ” If you snooze you lose”  how can I get a copy of this book?