What Does Tiger Wood’s Apology Require of You?

Last Friday, I watched the Tiger Woods press conference in amazement. I was stunned at his candor. He didn’t sugar-coat his sin. Instead, he repeatedly acknowledged the magnitude of his wrongdoing and the scope of its impact.

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It is worth reading or watching the statement in its entirety. It contains several important lessons. However, these three paragraphs summed up his thoughts:

The issue involved here was my repeated irresponsible behavior. I was unfaithful. I had affairs. I cheated. What I did is not acceptable. And I am the only person to blame. I stopped living by the core values that I was taught to believe in.

“I knew my actions were wrong. But I convinced myself that normal rules didn’t apply. I never thought about who I was hurting. Instead, I thought only about myself. I ran straight through the boundaries that a married couple should live by. I thought I could get away with whatever I wanted to. I felt that I had worked hard my entire life and deserved to enjoy all the temptations around me. I felt I was entitled. Thanks to money and fame, I didn’t have to go far to find them.

“I was wrong. I was foolish. I don’t get to play by different rules. The same boundaries that apply to everyone apply to me. I brought this shame on myself. I hurt my wife, my kids, my mother, my wife’s family, my friends, my foundation, and kids all around the world who admired me.”

I’ll be honest: I was moved by Tiger’s confession. It is rare for celebrities to accept responsibility for their sins, understand the full scope of the damage they have caused, and express such remorse for their actions. At the end of the press conference, I tweeted:

Screenshot of My Tweet Regarding Tiger Woods’ Apology

Almost immediately, I received several direct messages from people who thought I was naive. One person wrote, “It was totally scripted. I don’t believe a word of it.” Another said, “It was a PR stunt. He’s just trying to salvage his sponsorships. He will be right back at it once he’s away from public scrutiny.” Still another wrote, “If I were his wife, I would have dumped him long ago. I could never forgive someone who had cheated on me that many times.”

Maybe they are right.

However, during this season of Lent, my church prays an ancient and beautiful prayer by St. Ephraim the Syrian (ca. 306–373). It says,

O Lord and Master of my life, take from me the spirit of sloth, faintheartedness, lust of power, and idle talk.

“But give rather the spirit of chastity, humility, patience and love to your servant.

“Yea, O Lord and King, grant me to see my own sin and not to judge my brother, for You are blessed from all ages to all ages. Amen.”

I have been especially struck by the last sentence. Consequently, I am trying to avoid the sin of unforgiveness, especially during this season. Jesus stated plainly: “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses” (Matthew 6:14, 15).

Based on this, whenever someone confesses their sin as Tiger did, I have at least five responsibilities:

  1. Resist the temptation to judge. It is not my place to judge Tiger or anyone else. I don’t have to account for his sin. That’s his responsibility to bear alone. I have plenty to account for myself, thank you very much. Instead, I should feel compassion. As the old saying goes, “But for the grace of God go I.”
  2. Accept the apology at face value. It is not my job to determine if Tiger is sincere. (How would I do that, anyway?) As Tiger himself said, “My real apology to her [i.e., Elin, his wife] will not come in the form of words. It will come from my behavior over time.” Is he done repenting? No. He is just getting started. But he has begun well. And for that, I should be grateful and affirming.
  3. Believe in the possibility of change. Cynicism is easy. It costs me nothing. Belief, on the other hand, requires risk. He may be lying. He may fall again. He might betray us all. But if people really cannot change, then what hope is there for any of us? One of my core beliefs is that “with God all things are possible” (Matthew 19:26). No one is beyond the reach of God’s redemption.
  4. Extend mercy and grace. Justice demands that we pronounce him guilty, dismiss him from further consideration, and move on. But Mercy requires that we refuse to condemn him. Even more astonishing, Grace insists that we extend to him what he does not deserve: hope, patience, and love. Though he doesn’t deserve this, he needs all of it. Without mercy and grace we are all lost.
  5. Pray for transformation. Tiger seems to understand—as all self-acknowledged sinners must—that he cannot overcome his sin alone. He needs help. His journey has just begun. The road ahead is long and difficult. He will need human assistance, to be sure. But more importantly, he will need God’s help. This is where I can play a role by refusing to cave to cynicism and judgment. Instead, every time I am tempted to go there, I can pray that God would transform him into the man he could be.

Tiger’s story is not that different than mine. Yes, it is perhaps more severe and more public. But in the end, sin is sin. It is only a matter of degree. “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23). If there is hope for me—or for you—then there is hope for Tiger.

May God help him to find his way home and reconnect to the One who gave His life as a ransom for many (Matthew 20:28).

Question: How did you respond to Tiger’s apology? What do you think it means for you?
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  • Colleen Coble

    Sin is what someone else does. When we look at our own lives, we too often just call it a mistake. But the reality is we all struggle with some sin. It's easy to look at someone else and judge them but ignore our even worse sin. I've always liked Tiger and was grieved when I learned of how he'd hurt his family. His apology is a great reminder that every sin affects other people. I was impressed Tiger seemed to understand that.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      That was the surprising part for me. So often people are just sorry that they got caught. He seemed to get all the ramifications.

  • http://www.leadingisreading.blogspot.com James

    I was shocked as well. He said the right things and hopefully he can overcome the temptations that will be there again. I was especially impressed by his continuing theme of "leave my wife and kids alone."

    As for me, his apology firms up the truth that we all fight the battle of flesh against our spirit-man and the only way to win is through Christ.
    My recent post Sowing and Reaping

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/joannamuses joanna

    Lots of people are questioning whether his apology to the public is sincere, but I'd question whether he even owes the public an apology at all. Certainly there is people (like his wife) who completely deserve an apology and an attempt to make things right. As people who don't know him personally and have no greater connection to him than occasionally watching to TV, should we even be finding out about the details of his private life and deserve an apology for what we find out about it?
    My recent post Book review: Douglas Leblanc- Tithing

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      He specifically apologized for letting down his fans. I think children and teens especially looked to him as a role model. It just goes to show that we never sin in a vacuum. There is always a ripple effect.

  • Gretchen Goldsmith

    I agree with you. The apology was sincere and very different from other celebrity apologies I've seen. It took full responsibility; it called wrong wrong; he admitted his own selfishness. It showed shame and humility as well as a care and concern for the feelings of his wife and family. He set his golf career and financial interests as low priority in comparison to fixing the problem. Historically, the problem with sex addicts is that they like to (a) blame others, (b) act like it's "not too bad", (c) focus on themselves and their own losses, and (d) hope they can avoid of the spotlight and get back to "normal." Tiger didn't do any of this.

    I think that he will be able to turn around because he is focused and not afraid of the pain that it requires to change. I hope he finds some sort of accountability person or group. In time his actions will speak for themselves. And yes, when a wife sees that kind of courage, she will find it in her heart to forgive. Perhaps she already has…

  • http://www.MarriageStudies.com david & lisa frisbie

    To err is human, and you're right about that second part. The broader question is how Tiger rebuilds trust. Relationships can and do withstand a single error, even a major one. It is much more difficult to repair a relationship when there has been a lengthy, demonstrated pattern of duplicity and deception. This is Tiger's core problem: Not forgiveness, which most are ready to extend, but how to rebuild trust. From a distance, an observer wishes he had stayed single.
    My recent post Healthy Families, Strong Marriages, Great Kids

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      Yes, I think rebuilding trust will take a consistent change in behavior over time, as he seems to acknowledge. That will be the more difficult task.

  • http://twitter.com/estephen @estephen

    #6 or addendum to #1 Pray the Lord's prayer where Christ says "…lead us not into temptation…" which I interpret to read "…don't let me be overcome by temptation…" I think its easy to forget that any one of us can succumb to the temptations that overcame Tiger. I pray that God sends solid Christians his way so that Tiger (and his family) can see God's love and forgiveness.

  • Bob Seymore

    Tiger is a champion who has failed. He became a champion because of exceptional disciplined behaviour on the golf course. He has the ability to rise to the challenge. The difference in Tiger and many others that fall is most return to their platform sooner. Tiger has put golf on hold. That’s admirable. This is an amazing opportunity for a champion to show the world how to win. I’m praying for a win for Elin and Tiger. Ultimately I’m praying they would find new spritual journeys in all of this, but I’ve watched him down on Sunday afternoon and been convinced he could pull it out on the 18th. I’m convinced he can do it and the world will win if he does.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      I’m praying with you!

  • Mary Jo Asmus

    I was humbled by his apology. To be able to do so (publicly, with all the scrutiny and naysaying that goes along with that) was truly remarkable; he could have chosen to avoid this. I am hopeful that he has set an example for other leaders. I am hopeful that those who matter most in his life are willing to watch, listen and accept his humanity; and to consider foregiveness.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      I plan to use this when I teach in the future about how to make a good apology.

  • Lindsey Nobles

    I was kind of sick of all the Tiger talk but this is a reminder we all need to hear. Thank you!

  • Jessica Persson

    Michael, I so agreed with all that you wrote. It also served as a warning to all of us about choice and consequences. Like what John Maxwell said "Stupidity hurts".

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      I love that saying of John’s!

      • Carol York

        Or John Wayne "Life is hard. It's harder when you're stupid."

  • Mary Hartfield

    Thank you for reminding us, that everyone has sin. I wish I could have RT this to all the shows talking about they did not believe him. Thank you for writing this, I will RT to everyone.

  • http://missionarynatasha.net Natasha

    I remember the day I discovered I was a sinner. It was the most painful, eye-opening day of my life. I'll never forget it. I was repentant, ashamed and disgusted, but it was in that place that Jesus met me. The love I felt was unreal. Still is. He loved me enough to show me the very thing that was suffocating the life out of me, my sin. Yesterday, at church in Bible Study, Tiger came up in the conversation, and all I could think was that Jesus loves him, because He revealed his wrongdoings. Believers need to pray for Tiger and love him through. Same thing with Michael Vick…it's nothing but God's love leading them through. Better is open rebuke than hidden love.
    My recent post Sweet Spot

  • think2

    it reminds me of MJ. he was much more famous and humble,noble,hard working and talented than TW. There are tons of fans around the world crazy about MJ ,but this kind of affair never happen to him. In LA celebrity world, MJ is miracle.

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/ronlane Ron Lane

    Michael,

    I watched Tiger's statement because I was very curious what he would say. As it went on, I was pleased with what he said. I am in the camp that feels that he doesn't really owe anyone but his Family anything in this matter because it is a private matter.

    I am willing to forgive Tiger, but it wasn't me that he wronged. I pray that he gets better and is able to come back to golf soon, because I enjoyed watching him play.

    I will also be praying for the media and other people that cannot seem to let things go and that want to know about all the details of his unfaithfulness. They seem to think that it is their right or privilege to know private details of others lives.

    My recent post What would you do??

  • http://kevinowens4.posterous.com Kevin Owens

    As I watched, I could not help but think to myself, “What if I had to stand in front of a room full of people, much less the entire world, and admit to some of the things I have done in my life?” Not something I would look forward to doing. Sure it was scripted. I’m not sure the most eloquent of speakers could have made it through that without a script. I just pray that the behavior makes the turn that repentence has begun.

  • Karla Akins

    I am perplexed at the attention given to one man's sin by the liberal media. All have sinned and fallen short. Not one of us hasn't fallen in some way. While I don't feel the need for Woods to apologize to me, I do realize that we are all a part of this web of life, and what we do doesn't happen in a vacuum. I am glad for the sake of his fans he is facing up to the consequences. I'm just grateful that God in His mercy has kept me from having to confess all my sins as publicly as Woods has. It must be awful, and I can't help but feel compassion for the guy.
    My recent post The Help by Kathryn Stockett

  • Rachel Wojnarowski

    This article is a great example of how judgmental even we , as Christians,can be. Extending grace is so important to being Christ-like! “Let him who is without sin cast the first stone.” Thanks for providing a much-needed spiritual viewpoint on this topic.

  • http://thewritepursuit.blogspot.com/ Sandra King

    This is yet another reminder of who we should be placing on a pedestal. There's only room for One.

    I've been accused of wearing rose-colored glasses. And my sister says I tend to look for the best, and sometimes that does get me into trouble. But I was touched by Tiger's breaking voice, his apology to those who looked up to him, and his attempt to protect his wife. I wonder if I would have the courage to do the same. Even with a "smaller" sin.

    We try to put degrees on sin, but sin is sin, and guilt is guilt–both with "I" in the middle. My prayer is that now he has recognized his part, he will grab onto the grace of the One who alone can fill His deepest needs and give him the strength to overcome.

    Sometimes we have to tumble far in order to climb high.

    Thanks for this post, Michael.
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  • http://intensedebate.com/people/success2you John Richardson

    Michael, thank you for your insightful post. It seems to me that Tiger needs a few good men to meet with him on a regular basis that will hold him accountable. He needs a good life coach… someone like Joe Gibbs or Tony Dungy, that know the pressure of professional sports. He has a chance to turn things around. I pray that God will bring the right men into his life, that know about forgiveness and transformation.
    My recent post Checklists and Why Diets Fail

  • Cristina

    Thank you for this message. It really blessed me in this sunny morning (here in Brazil). It kept me away from the cynicism and brought me forward to God’s grace. Thanks God by the internet!

  • charlie

    thank you. well spoken.

  • http://twitter.com/BrettCohrs @BrettCohrs

    It sounded like he was in the 'making amends' step or 'admitting the nature of his wrongdoings' step and this is what he felt he needed to do for the public. He's already been working this step w/ his family. He knew he was taking a risk, that every word and intonation would be scrutinized. What exactly would make a perfect apology? And if anybody has been in a 12-step group and heard a step given, I'd love to hear if Tiger's is in keeping with the way a step is presented.

    The most troubling part has been the cynicism: "He's just doing this as a PR stunt." "He just read a speech, so how can it be sincere?" And then there were the inane comments revolving around "he tricked us into thinking he was going to tell us when he was coming back." I need to go on a sports radio fast!

    • http://twitter.com/BrettCohrs @BrettCohrs

      Quick addendum: It made me think of Tommy Nelson at Denton Bible Church: "If you knew about me what I and God know about me, then you wouldn't come to church here. But if I knew about you what you and God know about you, then we wouldn't let you in!" (Paraphrased).

  • http://twitter.com/nateriggs @nateriggs

    Michael,

    I have to say that I was honestly moved by this post, your perspective on the situation, and your bravery for not only choosing to not judge Tiger, but also offer insight into your faith and why you've choose to keep the lens that you have.

    It's interesting. We live in an age where things like blogs and Facebook and human brands have ignited a call for transparency and admission of mistakes, and yet we as a society still scrutinize those who make sincere attempts to come clean of their sins. It's a sort of double edge sword – damned if you do, damned if you don't, I guess.

    I side with you. Let he (or she) without sin cast the first stone…

    Thanks for writing this blog. I'll continue to enjoy reading.

    @nateriggs

  • http://www.clintshouse.blogspot.com clint

    I agree with you that this was a sincere apology. I work with sex addicts everyday as a therapist and I am in recovery myself. Even though the statement was read and prepared, it was an honest statement of what happened here and what he must do to recover. Thanks for the blog post here, I think that too many of us judge a situation without ever really understanding what it would be like to face the situation ourselves. I think Jesus called this compassion.
    My recent post Way

  • Clay Knick

    Mike,

    This was wise, profound, and filled with Christian charity. It sparkles with the kind of love that needs to mark us and serves as a witness to the world.

    Clay Knick
    Kernstown UMC

  • http://forrest-long.blogspot.com Forrest Long

    It’s amazing how skeptical people have become today and maybe it’s just because of the events of our times. I appreciate your post and I agree. In what I hear I believe there was sincerity in what he said and time will tell how it will all play out in his life. But people at least need to give him a chance. What happened to that overused question, “What Would Jesus Do?” Unless I see some reason to think otherwise, I will see his apology as geniune.

  • http://www.tim-sinclair.com Tim

    Michael, I agree…wholeheartedly. Thanks for writing this!

    I noticed this same thing (albeit post-mortum) with Michael Jackson. So many Christians were not throwing but HURLING stones after he died. They couldn’t identify (or weren’t willing to identify) with sin that was so blatant.

    Yet, on the very same day, these same people were mourning the loss of Farrah Fawceett as if she were a saint. Grr.

    “Why (some) Christians Annoy Me” is a blog I wrote last summer out of frustration with our culture’s double-standard when it comes to sin. See if you agree…

    http://reallifeconversation.blogspot.com/2010/01/why-some-christians-annoy-me.html

  • http://www.robinalewis.com Robin Lewis

    I agree with your bottom line: All sin and fall short of the glory of God. Let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds.

    Everyone needs compassion,
    Love that’s never failing;
    Let mercy fall on me.

    Everyone needs forgiveness,
    The kindness of a Saviour;
    The Hope of nations…

  • http://www.drobertpease.com D. Robert Pease

    Well spoken Michael. There really seems to be level of judgmentalism that is growing stronger in Christian circles as of late. If someone does not believe what we believe, then to "Hell" with them. I get frustrated by people, even in my own church, who just don't seem to be able to get past whatever sin they see in others, to the true purpose of our lives–bringing the lost to salvation. Thank you for being a voice crying in the wilderness.
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  • http://www.facebook.com/TimothyFish Timothy Fish

    Scripted, yes, but I think his public apology is the right thing for a person in his position to do. However, I also found it to be sad that he believes returning to the teaching of Budda is the best way to solve his problem.
    My recent post People of the Book

  • http://speckleofdirt.blogspot.com Speckle

    I thought it was very scripted and insincere. The way he glanced at the camera when he was talking to the fans "at large," and how he made eye contact with everyone in the room when he was speaking about them, indicated a well-rehearsed apology. Mixing Buddhism in with his statement that he doesn't rule out coming back to golf this year, shows me that he's wanting the sponsors, the fans and the money. But, after reading your blog post, I've realized that I've been unforgiving and cynical. Thanks for the great reminders.
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  • http://www.spintheaxis.com Jason

    I think it was completely genuine and sincere. I once walked the same road Tiger walked (albeit without a spotlight) and there were times I would write down or practice what I was going to say because of all the heavy emotions involved with it. The fact he could even get through a statement like that was pretty impressive to me.

    You were right on the mark with all of this post. Thanks for it! :)

  • Ivan Chong

    Michael – great writeup on his apology. I love golf and I was so disappointed by the whole storyline, I couldn’t bring myself to watch the apology before – because I didn’t want to feel disappointed again. After reading your blog post, I’m ready to watch it. The part that struck me the most in your posting was when Tiger admitted that he knew he was wrong, but kept sinning because he felt entitled, that he had earned it. My pastor gave a great sermon yesterday on the topic of human pride and how it is something we all need to deal with. In view of how pride can lead to downfall, it would be harder for many of us to judge Tiger.

  • http://thebridegroomscafe.com Kmac4him

    Judging??!! Where do you begin? You can’t judge Tiger Woods, that is God’s job and it is a big one that I don’t need. But I will say this, the apology made me sad because He put His trust in Buddah to help him. You can naively think his apology was a good thing, but I believe it hurt the heart of our God. I do believe we as Christians need to walk wisely and therefore I will not support his career, or his advertisers or his products and I will pray that He comes to know the One True God and hope huge he finds Him, otherwise this fallen one will not rise to stand straight again, but will fall because Buddah is dead.
    I think it is irresponsible to focus on the good of this apology, whether you feel it was staged or not staged, nothing good can come out of worshipping Buddah, looking to Buddah to help bring you new strength and we need to teach our children that by the example of this fallen sports hero. We teach them not to judge him, yet to look at his life, he did not find what he needed in Buddah and he has grossly fallen and will fall again without Jesus Christ, so pray for him, but do not honor this sports idol, honor God, support Godly people.

    • Dan Lynch

      Thanks for writing this Mike. You put it so well into words. I for one am fighting against our normal urge to judge what he said and rather give credit due for saying as much as he did. I read this after a drive in listening to the local sports talk show talk about this same subject. It's amazing how little people understand about life and how quickly the judging begins. The two big ones I keep hearing that amaze me further are (1) Why did he have to say anything at all. Really? He is likely the biggest figure in sports. He had to at some point make a statement if he ever wanted a chance to return to the sport. I personally like that he did it in a controlled private way rather than allowing someone to fling questions at him that he wasn't going to answer in the first place and I loved how he took responsibility.

      The second thing I have heard a lot is that Sex Addiction isn't real. People are so naive if they believe this. It is as real as drug or alcohol or any other addiction. There is a great book out there for anyone interested, questioning or wanting to know more called "Sampson and the Pirate Monks." It is a courageous story of a man dealing with and sharing redemption from this addiction. Here is a link to it on Amazon if anyone is interested: http://tr.im/Pkmh
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    • Dan Lynch

      Thanks for writing this Mike. You put it so well into words. I for one am fighting against our normal urge to judge what he said and rather give credit due for saying as much as he did. I read this after a drive in listening to the local sports talk show talk about this same subject. It's amazing how little people understand about life and how quickly the judging begins. The two big ones I keep hearing that amaze me further are (1) Why did he have to say anything at all. Really? He is likely the biggest figure in sports. He had to at some point make a statement if he ever wanted a chance to return to the sport. I personally like that he did it in a controlled private way rather than allowing someone to fling questions at him that he wasn't going to answer in the first place and I loved how he took responsibility.

      The second thing I have heard a lot is that Sex Addiction isn't real. People are so naive if they believe this. It is as real as drug or alcohol or any other addiction. There is a great book out there for anyone interested, questioning or wanting to know more called "Sampson and the Pirate Monks." It is a courageous story of a man dealing with and sharing redemption from this addiction. Here is a link to it on Amazon if anyone is interested: http://tr.im/Pkmh
      My recent post The Art of Email Communication

  • http://www.redeemingthefuture.blogspot.com Bonnie Redfern

    I had the same response to Tiger's apology. And, sadly, I had similar reactions from friends who saw it as shallow and scripted by a good publicist. I posted a note on our non-profit's Facebook page in response to the clear apology that did not include excuses, explanation or blame. I especially appreciated Tiger's admission of what Elin wanted: not just words but a change in behavior. Confession and repentance. Here is our post in response to Tiger's apology: http://www.facebook.com/?ref=home#!/note.php?note
    My recent post The Aroma of His Glory

  • Debbie

    What an absolutely beautiful, wise, sensitive,"from the Spirit" post. May the God who loves us all, and loves Tiger, give us eyes to see and ears to hear so that the grace and truth displayed in this post might be worked out in our lives — not just as it relates to Tiger but to our lives and those we touch as a whole.

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/dannyjbixby dannyjbixby

    I haven't read the apology or viewed it. And I don't think I need to. I responded in the same way you did.

    "But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses." That pretty much sums it up for me.

    My recent post No More Christianese

  • Mary

    I grew up playing golf and I have really enjoyed watching Tiger over the years. He could stay so focused and make amazing shots. I was shocked and saddened by his actions. So, I watched his news coverage with interest. My background is counseling and I knew that if he was working on changing himself from the inside out, he would need to humble himself, which I thought he did. I felt he took very specific ownership of his behavior. In addition, he was going back for more treatment, which told me he was in it for the long haul and the hard work it takes to change behavior, save his marriage, and live his life with integrity. It is gut wrenching work to get to the core of the problems, that we so carefully deny and hide deep within ourselves. I think of the bible verse, he who is without sin cast the first stone. I really don’t think anyone would judge him if they knew what he is going through in treatment. Great post!!

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/Laurinda Laurinda

    Scripted or not, he read it. Time will tell the sincerity and it's not my place to judge. I walked away knowing he needs lots of prayer. (Where are the Christian golfers?) I want him to return to competition. I think once he wins a few tournaments, this will die down. I want him to overcome!

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/Cindy_Graves Cindy_Graves

    I'm not a golf fan. I'm not a Tiger Woods fan. I'm not a fan of failure, public or private. But the reality is we all have to face failure. I will likely never meet the man or his family. We just don't run in the same circles but I have felt a very strong prompting to pray for them during this difficult time for all the exact reasons you just presented.

    One thing I am a fan of is a Second Chance Story. I love watching God take something that's broken and making it new – not just a repair but better and stronger.

    The part of his apology I found most moving was his defense of his wife, adamantly saying she never hit or harmed him in any way. Had I been in her position I probably wouldn't have though twice about unloading his golf bag on him. Not saying I'm proud of it, just being honest. I guess it would be safe to say that I like Second Chance stories as long as I don't have to be the one giving a second chance to someone. Boy, God has His hands full with me! Still much work to do!
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  • David

    Thanks for this post. I agree with you and I am naively shocked at the heavy cynicism of so many to his apology. I always rooted for the underdog rather than for Tiger in golf but now in life, I am longing for him to succeed in rebuilding his life. How could a Christian not want that? Apart from Christ, I think he has a challenging road but praying that as he faces those personal barriers to transformation, he will turn to someone with much greater awareness of his own sin and who offers power that only Tiger can imagine! Your blog has become my favorite read. I appreciate your heart, sharp mind and concise writing. Keep it up!

    • Michelle

      Your first sentance is exactly my feelings on this.

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  • kdlim

    Even if this apology was scripted, the words came from Tiger's mouth and for that reason I believe that he means them. I think the apology was heartfelt and sincere and I wish him lots of luck.

  • Clear2Go

    I am not one to follow or engage in celebrity gossip, their personal lives, or the public lives for that matter. I didn't even know Tiger was making a public apology, but was at a place where it was playing on the radio, so I listened while I waited. Something bothered me about it, enough to watch it later that day online. I actually wanted to see the video.

    My sense was that I thought his apology was sincere, but rehearsed and controlled. If you watch you can see the control. That wasn't what bothered me. I finally figured out what bothered me and it had more to do with the expectations of public figures than his actual apology.

    -mike

  • http://www.matthewdent.com Matthew Dent

    Hey Michael,
    I was quick to judge like many others. It may have been a scripted apology but I believe he did a great job in communicating the message in an effective manner. He came across as very humble and all we can do is take his apology at face value and move forward. This versus summed it up perfectly, “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23).

  • http://www.highercallingcommunications.com Christy Schutz

    I have conflicted about this whole Tiger Woods apology situation. I, too, wonder at the sincerity of his words. But, like a lot of others who have commented, I also wonder why it is any of our business. I get that he is a public figure, but, I think about the bible story about the woman who was caught in adultery. Everyone in town knew what she was up to and the wages for her sin was death. Christ defended her by suggesting that the person with no sin be the one to throw the first stone at her. No big speech about the severity of her sins. No making a public example of her. Your message echoes His…maybe this situation with Tiger Woods presents us with an opportunity to reflect on our own character. What sin do we repeatedly commit? What poor example are we setting with our children? Have we sinned and ultimately hurt our spouses, our colleagues, or our friends? Your post reminded me that I certainly have no right to pick up any stones! Thanks!!

    Christy
    My recent post ‘The Buried Life’ Unearths Deeper Message

  • http://twitter.com/nmabry @nmabry

    Thanks for this. It was refreshing.

  • http://readinnwritin.blogspot.com PatriciaW

    Where would we be if God didn't apply those 5 responsibilities to us on a daily basis? I'm so glad He, both merciful and graceful, refrains from judging me, accepts my apologies at face value, believes in my ability to change, and offers me the opportunity and mechanism for transformation. I hope Christ petitions the Father on my behalf on a regular basis.
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  • http://www.gritandglory.com alece

    i agree 100%. it is rare to see anyone take this much responsibility.

    when my husband was confronted with proof of his long-term affair, he chose to leave me and the ministry rather than take responsibility for what he did. people can say what they want to about tiger's words. all i know is that i would have given anything to hear them from my husband.
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    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      I’ll bet. Obviously, it doesn’t end here—but it better start here if there is hope of permanent change.

  • http://twitter.com/KarynBrownlee @KarynBrownlee

    (Standing and applauding): Well said!!! Thank you for your strong biblical response to this sad story.

    Here is my commentary: http://www.brighterwalk.com/post/Tiger-speaks-shr

  • Suhan Park

    This is an amazing Post!!! Thank you so much for the insight!

  • http://transformationalstrategist.com/ Hugh Ballou

    Michael,

    I found you on Twitter and have been following your Tweets and blog posts. I appreciate your wise and mature response to this issues in particular and on other topics as well.

    As scripture says in Micah, "No, O people, the Lord has told you what is good,
    and this is what he requires of you:
    to do what is right, to love mercy,
    and to walk humbly with your God."

    You understand grace. You understand looking at the inner person. You understand how to quite the noise and listen to your inner voice.

    I write and teach about Transformational Leadership. Among all the important leadership skills, authenticity stands tall in my mind. Being authentic as a sinner redeemed by grace and doing the best we can is so important. Self reflection and evaluation are great tools for any leader in any place in any organization – especially those who profess to be Christian.

    Wouldn't it me wonderful if we all were able to give each other the benefit of grace today?

    I look forward to your other posts.

    Hugh Ballou
    http://www.hughballou.com
    My recent post The Definitive Leader Builds a Solid Foundation

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      I agree. Authenticity is so important. It is what I find so compelling in the very best leaders.

  • Shellie (baylormum)

    So many are so quick to judgment! Where is our compassion? I do not have the right to judge. I may not like what he did, but I still have to love him. Unconditionally. That’s it. Pretty simple. He has several battles he must wage before he can forgive himself! And learn to love himself. Take time to relearn himself. As an addict in recovery, I know about 2nd chances and self-hate that can be turned around.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      Yes, people are quick to pick up stones and start chunking them. This seems especially true in the media where “stoning” has become a national sport. Sad.

  • Andy

    Count on me to be different, I guess, but I cannot see how any of this is any of my business. I neither want nor need to know of something that is the personal business of Tiger Woods, his wife and family, and God. Cautionary tale? Yes. But none of my business. The Scriptures tell me that I am not to commit adultery and that's enough for me. So what is to be gained by knowing these details? I think, in the end, they appeal to people's more base and prurient interests.

  • http://twitter.com/javid21 @javid21

    As many I was intrigued to see/hear what Tiger had to say…but I think you hit it when you said "Tiger's story is not that different than mine." It's also not that different than my own…I wrote a post in my blog that would love for you to read, forgive if i'm plugging it here. But if you have a quick minute check it out, it's entitled "We're all like Tiger…"
    http://www.bathosdeeper.blogspot.com

    enjoy your blog Michael….also glad to be part of the Thomas Nelson blogger book review (sneeze) I am reading "The Hole In Our Gospel" review to come soon, challenging book so far!
    blessings…

  • http://www.workwithkobus.com Kobus Vorster

    You are right.
    I believe in the bible and in Jesus Christ as the anointed Son of God.
    And what you wrote in your article is the truth. If all of us would take these 5 Points and use them in our own lives, the world would be a better society.

    Blessings.
    Kobus Vorster

  • Wisdomcalls

    I totally agree. We need to give grace and pray for Tiger to know the One who does Atone for sin. Tiger cannot atone for his own sin. None of us can. Only Jesus paid for it and thus can remove it from us forever. He separates our sin from us as far as the East is from the West. Praise be to God!!! I'm ecstatic that He took mine far, far away! May Tiger know the One who really can wipe the slate clean!

  • CHL

    Some very good points and Biblical principles I agree with such as responsibility #5. In your last sentence above, "May God help him to find his way home and reconnect to the One who gave His life as a ransom for many (Matthew 20:28)." does Tiger need to "connect" or "reconnect" ?? Is Christianity an integral part of his faith or did he mention Buddhism? Only through Christ we have grace and hope! Tiger can have this too!

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      It doesn’t appear that Christ is an integral part of his faith. However, if he is seeking for Truth, he will eventually discover the One who is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. This is where we have to be patient and let God direct Tiger’s steps.

  • William

    His children will probably watch this one day. I am sure he thought of that and chose not specific words very carefully. I know the kids will be able to read other's commentary, but I think they will have reason to be proud of a dad who failed miserably but was working to make it at least somewhat better.

    Great post, Mr. Hyatt. I agree with each point and wish others would resist, accept, believe, extend and pray.

    (P.S. Mr. Hyatt, the spell check function beside "Post a new comment" does not seem to work. It returns "no writing errors were found" even with errors.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      I just tested the spell-check function, and it is working for me. I wonder if this is a browser-specific issue. What browser and version are you using?

      • William

        You are correct. Mozilla Firefox worked fine. The browser and versioin that is not working for me is IE v. 8.0.6001.18882. I believe everything is current and settings are fairly normal. If I discover more, I'll let you know.

  • Juan

    Hi Mike,

    We do not need to go that far to look into other people's lives – we just need to look in the mirror ans ask ourselves:

    1) Have I done what I said to God and Myseld and My family what I was going to do?
    2) Have I done everything possible to support my family (home, food, school, love, time)?
    3) Have I done to ALL that is in my power to support and help others (church, etc)?

    I am pretty sure most will fall short.

  • http://twitter.com/riascollectable @riascollectable

    Very well put Michael;
    Personally, I strongly feel, regardless if Tiger Wood's apology was sincere or not, it most definitely took faith and courage. I also feel, it is not my place to put him on a thrown only God has that position.
    I feel nothing but compassion for the whole Woods family and wish his indiscretions' could have been kept more private. What I specifically mean by that is, I feel that the hurt that was already upon the family was made worse by the media making it a news worthy story. The whole situation needed to remain private within the confines of their home.
    This story however is a great reminder that, the grass that is green on the other side of the fence took a lot of work, love, and faith.

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  • http://twitter.com/PapaCoach @PapaCoach

    I like your view. I do have to point out however that this took place on Friday.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      You are right! Thanks for pointing this out. I have changed the text.

  • http://dickmanfam.blogspot.com Hillary

    Thank you for your thoughtful opinion on Tiger's situation. Before reading your post, I wasn't sure what to do with Tiger's apology. I knew I needed to give him a second chance, I knew I needed to separate myself from the Tiger-bashing that followed his statement, but I wasn't sure what my response should look like. Your post has given me the framework I needed to make sense of his apology.
    My recent post The perfect excuse

  • http://dickmanfam.blogspot.com Hillary

    Thank you for your thoughtful opinion on Tiger's situation. Before reading your post, I wasn't sure what to do with Tiger's apology. I knew I needed to give him a second chance, I knew I needed to separate myself from the Tiger-bashing that followed his statement, but I wasn't sure what my response should look like. Your post has given me the framework I needed to make sense of his apology.
    My recent post The perfect excuse

  • http://dickmanfam.blogspot.com Hillary

    Thank you for your thoughtful opinion on Tiger's situation. Before reading your post, I wasn't sure what to do with Tiger's apology. I knew I needed to give him a second chance, I knew I needed to separate myself from the Tiger-bashing that followed his statement, but I wasn't sure what my response should look like. Your post has given me the framework I needed to make sense of his apology.
    My recent post The perfect excuse

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/Kevin_Martineau Kevin_Martineau

    To me, Tiger's apology seems heartfelt. What is God is continuing to teach me is that I have a tendency to judge other people when they stumble/sin. I have to be continually reminded that I am no different than Tiger or anyone else for that matter. The only difference is that my sin(s) are not published all over the world.

    I wrote a post along this same theme recently. Check it out here: Olympics, Snowboarding and Second Chances http://bit.ly/94FxMl

  • http://www.queenofthecastlerecipes.com lynn

    Very well said, Mike. I could see your response as a great op-ed piece for any major newspaper.

  • http://solveigsinsights.blogspot.com SolveigEngh@q.com

    I so appreciate this. If God's grace doesn't work for one, why would it work for anyone? IReality is that if Tiger can't change, we're all sunk. Perhaps the negative reaction came because our human nature wants to elevate self by looking down on others. And that's sin. God help us.

  • Jacky

    Thank you!

    My husband did the same to me, and if he had done what Tiger did, we will be together today.

    I said to him: Let’s start again? He didn’t and when away with the women.

    I forgive him by the same grace and love that God did with me! It was not easy but by God power and love I made it!

  • http://www.vivefp.com Samuel Silva

    I think you hit the proverbial "nail on the head." Us as Christians need to come back to the understanding that we represent Christ and his mercy on this earth. As the Bible says "All have sinned…" Far too often people that have been justified in faith have found themselves on a higher moral ground that no longer has an attainable road to those that have sinned and live in sin. Yes sin is the road to destruction and Yes we need to preach and teach Jesus Christ and his gospel to this world but we need not to forget the Love and grace that was extended to our lives (which was the road to that higher moral ground). The moment WE fall into a attitude of pride in our salvation and our moral high ground we begin to take credit for our salvation. We must realize that we never "earned" the right to this salvation but it was paid for by a loving savior. Jesus Christ. That's my two cents

    Sam S.

  • http://www.carrero.com.au Chris Carrero

    The only difference between Tiger and me is that he is in the public spotlight. We have all sinned and fallen short of the grace of God.

    I pray for my life that i will always be humble enough to forgive others and to not judge. Who knows when i will need the same shown to me.

    Thx for your post Michael, it was a great read!
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  • Linda

    Thank you for the post. You are 100% right. Who am I to judge if his apology was sincere or not? A sinner cannot judge another sinner. God is the only true judge.

  • http://www.xanga.com/wondering04 Heather

    Actually it is between Tiger Woods, his wife and God. I do sometimes wish that His wife would receive an apology from those who knowingly went with Tiger Woods when they could have no illusions that he was married. there is much wrong, and what really matters is his heart and God – and sadly He is more concerned about Buddha.
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    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      Heather, I think he is a man in process. I personally started out as an atheist. Over I time I became an Agnostic. Then a spiritualist. And ultimately a Christian. I am grateful that my Christian friends did not write me off when I was vocally expressing my atheism. They were patient and prayed for me. Eventually, I cam around.

      With God, all things are possible.

  • Bianca Juarez

    Wow! Preach it, Michael.

    I feel like I just heard a sermon ;) Thanks for kick in the pants!
    My recent post the buried life…

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/patriciazell patriciazell

    In TO KILL A MOCKINGBIRD, Atticus Finch told Scout that before she judged anybody, she should try to climb inside his skin and walk around in it. I wonder how many of us, if put into the exact circumstances that Tiger experienced, would have done the same things. We all have weaknesses that can lead to real problems, so what are we doing judging each other?

    Although I see why Tiger had his news conference–he does have a public persona that some people have a stake in–his problems are really none of my business. He's hurting and his family is hurting just like everyone else in the world is hurting in some form or fashion. My prayer is that we who know Christ will lead the way in finding a clear understanding of God's absolute love and of the more abundant life that Christ came to give us.

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  • CHL

    Michael,
    Some very good points and Biblical principles that I agree with such as described in Responsibility #5.
    In your last sentence above "May God help him to find his way home and reconnect to the One who gave His 'life as a ransom for many (Matthew 20:28)," I wonder if it should be for Tiger to "connect" rather than "reconnect" with the Christian faith.

    He mentioned how he needs to get back on track with his faith in Buddhism. Consistent with the Truth, would it be accurate to say that hope and grace are found only through Christ? His faith seems to point at his own great efforts, alone, will enable him to succeed…
    in life and on the golf course…which feeds his own supreme ability, self-sufficiency, and tendency to be self-oriented.
    He also talked about people believing in him, which is understood, but is worthy only through grace and forgiveness from God. Reflecting his faith, Tiger seems to be more focused on "self" rather than
    "self-denial," humility, and forgiveness. This is understandable because it's how he was raised.
    I think that Tiger needs to "connect" with our supreme Lord to be truly successful.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      Like you, I believe that Jesus is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. No one comes to the father but through Him (John 14:6). However, having said that, I think Tiger is a man in process. He knows that life must have a spiritual dimension. All he knows is the Buddhism in which he was raised. However, if he is an honest seeker, he will eventually find his way to Christianity. That’s what I am praying for.

      • CHL

        Thank you, Michael. I hope I can develop that heart (that I should have) to pray for him to find and know our Lord.
        God can use Tiger as a magnificent instrument to make His name known. God is sovereign and His will be done.
        As a role model, I wouldn't mind seeing Tiger put family before work, even if it means not playing for a long, long time.
        Hoping that he finds that spiritual dimension in Jesus.
        As Tiger accepted, actions over time will demonstrate his heart and character, more than his well thought-out words. But it was a good step forward!

  • http://katdish.blogspot.com katdish

    I was also struck by his admission that he felt entitled, because I would imagine that many in his place would have felt the same way. He did seem truly remorseful. But he doesn’t owe me an apology. I think he is right to focus on repairing the damage he has done to his family and supporters. Sadly, my son is a golfer and Tiger Woods was his hero. I selfishly hope that for my son’s sake, Tiger’s will be a story of redemption.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      I think this whole issue of entitlement is huge. It is the rationale for many celebrity sins. As a culture, we somehow have to address this. I hope—and pray—that Tiger can be a powerful voice against this.

  • http://www.cherylblemine.wordpress.com Cheryl B Lemine

    Several thoughts came to my mind regarding this. It was the topic du jour at lunch with my teacher friends – and the “debate” was a lively one.

    I was mute and couldn’t really figure out why. Now, I think I’m beginning to process it somewhat.

    1. Cyncism was by far the “majority opinion.”
    I think this really pleases Satan because these type situations can keep us so busy making pronoucements about what we think and what others should think – that we can become distracted about how to use these opportunities to heighten awareness of God, his love and redemptiveness. (All topics about which I wish I were more well spoken.)

    Let’s face it, in our human existence we sometimes “enjoy” it more when people “fail.”

    2. Scripted or not, well-timed or not, it took place. I think one question is: will I pray for Tiger and his family or am I content to weigh in on the issue and move to the next “people’s court” decision?

    I pray that God would enable us to grab hold of “current events” and use them as bridges to bring Him into our daily conversations. I think there will be enough “fall out” from Tiger’s decisions and my personal ones to still have a need for spiritual healing (through Jesus).

    Think what a great life story it could be for Tiger to come to Christ, have healing and use his name recognition for eternal purposes.

    Call me a dreamer – but I think it’s called faith and hope.

  • Michelle

    Thank you for this blog. When I saw the link (on your Twitter) I hesitated to come and read it. I am really tired of so many judgmental attitudes concerning Tiger's current issues. Yes he sinned. And as a parent I wish the situation was different and I am disappointed. But the attacks on him just make a bad situation worse. The criticism, judgments and people's unwillingness to hear his apology just make me feel "icky." How are we any better if we sit in judgment of him. You are right. Sin is sin. And the scripture you referenced is perfect. Thank you.

  • http://www.kidsforhim.blogspot.com Fran

    As soon as Tiger was finished I posted a tweet that something like…”ANYONE is capable of doing anything.” I doubt he set out to be in this place, but he is here and if we are to remotely look like Jesus in this situation, then we follow what you said above. It’s easier for me because it could have easily been me.

  • chase

    I completely agree with you. Its not our job to determine whether or not he is sincere but to accept that he is and allow him time to prove it. He can't take back his actions but has taken responsibility and shows to be taking steps to recovery. I don't think there is anything more that can be expected than that.

  • http://www.twitter.com/danieldecker Daniel Decker

    As I watched Tiger share his apology, I had mixed emotions. I'm sure it was extremely tough for him to come out publicly like that and I'm glad he did. I think owning up to our mistakes is lesson that needs to be reinforced. Too many simply try to hide and wait it out. You can't move forward if you don't deal with the past.

    His entire story is like an echo of what is in Tim Irwin's book DERAILED. I felt like I was watching a chapter from the book unfold on TV as Tiger talked. His admissions really did match up with Tim's characteristics of going off track.

    I'm praying for Tiger and his family. Praying for God to use this situation in some redeeming way that only God can. Tiger is in the valley and even though I do not condone his actions, I think God can pull Him out. I just hope he looks up for help.
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  • KJ17

    I haven't seen the whole apology, but I am definitely praying for Tiger & his family. I have seen him in person on the golf course & his confidence was not the same, he looked very humbled. I am praying his life will never be the same & somehow he will come to know the real Savior.

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  • Denise Harlan

    When I saw Tiger's response….I saw a broken man. Broken in many ways, not only did he sin and in a big way, he got caught. I think all of the reproach he has brought on himself has opened his eyes to his own human faults. This has just brought him to his knees. I just wish he prayed to GOD instead of Buddha. Buddha can't do anything for him. But, God redeems. God can take this trash and make it into treasure. God can use this for HIS benefit. I pray that Tiger can open his heart to God, so he can be redeemed. BY the Grace of GOD!!!! I am praying for Tiger, Elin & their precious children.

  • ImagineSlkrWords

    I think that it was a hard thing for him or anyone to do. It was probably a very humbling and preventative experience as well. I’d feel better about it if I knew he felt moved to make the announcement on his own without the influence of media pressure but whether he was influenced or by how much, I agree is not, in the end, my concern. It doesn’t detract from the discomfort he would have felt making that announcement.

    I think that his announcement might have been more effective and would have more impact if it had not come on the heels of such media pressure. I think his time may have been better spent first trying to repair the damage he inflicted upon his marriage with his announcement following at a later time which may have made it seem more meaningful to everyone.

    At this point in time, I feel more concern for his wife. I think all of the reportage had to have been horrible for her and repeatedly damaging.

  • Linda Kennedy

    Amen and Amen! Who are we to judge. God does not grade sins… everyone is equal and who of us is proud enough to believe that he is without sin… woe to him who believes he is "better" or "above" another's failures. How many times have we seen it played out… when fame and wealth deludes someone into thinking the rules do not apply. I believe that Tiger was raised with a good sense of morals and that, with the lessons learned, he will return to his upbringing. My heart is saddened that he, from all indications, does not know a forgiving and loving God… but follows his mother's faith of Buddhism. If I'm not mistaken, it is a faith of works and up to the individual to do the right thing.. and there lies a probable cause for why he went down this path. None of us, no not one, can be good on our own. My prayer is that his heart will be open and someone will teach him about Jesus.

  • David Alexander

    Didn't Jesus tell the woman after no one condemed, that he didn't either and to go and sin no more…. Thanks for good instruction on your comments about sin. I think Tiger got it right. Hope someone along the way is able to talk to him about the Gospel.

  • http://www.fivelanguagesofapology.com jennifer thomas

    Michael, I enjoyed reading your perspective. I think you're right on! It is refreshing to hear deeply-considered apologies. Here is another one that knocked me off my feet:
    http://drjenthomas.wordpress.com/2009/05/11/annou

  • Andrew Hawkins

    Michael, you continue to impress me. I'm glad I stumbled across your blog. Your call for mercy and forgiveness for Tiger was so refreshing. It's a shame that the church has been associated for so long with the opposite attitude i.e. a judgemental one. Thanks for being a part of the turnaround!

  • Michael N. Marcus

    Very interesting. Thank you.
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  • http://www.coolsprings.com/ CoolSprings

    I think it was mostly scripted. As much as I want to think he was sincere, his actions have shown all too well how much he really doesn't care about anyone but himself.

  • http://www.fallenandflawed.com/ Demian Farnworth

    Well said, Michael. It's not easy to forgive someone who has more than we do. To take them at face value and stiff-arm cynicism. We want them to burn. For our lack of success. It's sad.

  • http://twitter.com/robweideman @robweideman

    When I look at Tiger and his apology the temptation for me is to think that forgiving him is some great sacrifice of mine. That extending mercy to him is going to cost me. Jesus said to the Pharisees, "You missed it. Mercy over sacrifice."

    The truth is that it cost Jesus and he only asks that I forgive as I was forgiven. I'm willing to do that.

  • annie

    I felt the same way about Kanye. Lots of people who are public personalities make mistakes, and we say we want them to take responsibility. If that's the case, we have to respond in kind when they do. I have trouble apologizing to just one person, even if I know they love me. I would add an additional step, and that is to stop dragging him back to that place. We should refuse to be the people who define others by their worst moments or greatest failures.

    • http://frankzahn.com Frank

      Right on, Annie!

  • http://frankzahn.com Frank

    Michael….Your argument can be made within the context of humanism as well (without biblical references). But either way, the argument needs to be made, given the judgmental news media.

  • http://www.granthammond.com Grant Hammond

    Were we really that shocked now that time has passed? Seriously. He is a guy, a famous guy.

  • Fellow sinner

    His apology does nothign to me. His sin is between him and God, his betrayal is to his wife. Really we have nothing to do with it. Who am I to judge or even assume that I should take offence on somethign that has nothing to do with me? It's great that he apologised publicly, but in reality we have nothing to do with it, and his apology shouldn't even be directed to anyone other than his family.

  • gifted one

    Tiger woods will rise again
    so shall it be done

    I was the first to say ot