What Keeps You Going When You Want to Quit?

It happens to me several times a week. I want to quit. Just yesterday, I wanted to quit my run halfway into it. After the first mile, my lazy self asked, “Why can’t we just walk?” For a while, the voice got louder with each step.

What Keeps You Going When You Want to Quit?

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But if it’s not running, it is something else: my marriage, my job, my writing, my blog, or even God. This is just the nature of life. The temptation to quit is a recurring theme.

And if the voices in our heads were not enough trouble, the voices in our culture also urge us to “throw in the towel,” “make a change,” or “take it easy on yourself.”

What these same voices fail to tell you is that there is a distinction between the dream and the work required to obtain it. Everything important requires work. Hard work. And sometimes there is a long arc between the dream and it’s realization. That is where the work and the transformation occur.

In my experience, the thing that keeps me going is answering this question, “Why am I doing this?” I then try to remember the dream. “Why I am doing this hard thing that I am doing.” I try to get connected to the original vision, because that keeps me going when the going gets tough.

For example, when Gail and I have a fight—yes, we do have fights—I ask, “So why should I stay in this marriage?” Instead of pushing that question down like holding a beach ball under the water, I let it surface and embrace it. “What is at stake?”

But notice: I’m not asking “Why should I quit?” because I will get answers to that question too. The mind is tricky that way. It will attempt to answer whatever question you ask it, so you must be very careful with how you frame the question. Instead, I focus on the positive. I am looking for reasons to keep going.

So, why should I stay in this marriage?

  1. Because I want love to be the defining characteristic of my life. There is no better place to learn how to love than marriage.
  2. Because I want to be a leader, leading myself first and then my own family. Whatever else this means, it means initiative and sacrifice. That’s what leaders do.
  3. Because I really do love this woman with all my heart. All I have to think about is all the incredible moments we have shared together through the years.
  4. Because she is the mother of my five children—and a really, really great mom.
  5. Because she is my best friend, even though we occasionally get on one another’s last nerve. She is the one person I can count on to be there when I need someone to listen to me.
  6. Because we have 31 years invested in this relationship. It is less expensive to invest a little more than start over. We are too far into it to quit. (I would say this if we had been married for 6 months.)
  7. Because I really do know her. I have spent a lifetime learning. And yet there is still so much more I want to know. She fascinates me.
  8. Because I want to provide an example to my sons-in-law—and anyone else who is watching—of how to love a woman well. People need positive role models, and I want to be that person.
  9. Because I want to leave a legacy of love and stability for my children and my grandchildren. The alternative is unthinkable.
  10. Because I want my marriage to be an icon of Christ’s love for His Bride, the Church. After all, this is the sacramental nature of marriage (see Ephesians 5:22–33).

I have a written list like this for every important area in my life. If I get stuck and want to quit, I pull out the list and start reading through it. Immediately, it gives me perspective and energizes me. It makes it possible to silence the voices and get my head back into the race.

The truth is that we learn the best lessons when we don’t quit. This is when our character is transformed and good things happen.

Question: Where are you tempted to quit? Why are you going to keep going? What is at stake? You can leave a comment by clicking here.

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  • http://www.successfulfreelancewriter.com Kathryn Lang

    Wow – and to think I woke up the morning with the mindset of "why" myself. Thanks for the inspiration to do what I know to do to get where I need to be.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      Comments like yours are what keep me going when I want to quit blogging. Thanks for taking time to respond!

  • http://twitter.com/RichDailey @RichDailey

    Great post. We need to take the time and look for the honest answers. When that "little voice" asks, "Why bother?", we need to answer that question in the positive, and not just shrug our shoulders and give in.

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

    I agree. I think that is the measure of maturity. We get to chose which questions we will ask ourselves.

  • http://www.michelleshocklee.blogspot.com Michelle

    Michael, Thank you for your wise words! I truly needed to hear them. While I'm not at a place of actually quitting, I've certainly been discouraged lately. After reading your post, I'm going to make a list of reasons why I need to keep going in my pursuit of the dream God put on my heart.
    Blessings to you,
    ~Michelle Shocklee

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      Michelle, I mostly just preach to myself and let others listen in. ;-)

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/joanpball joanpball

    What a great tool. Could be applied in the other direction as well for things we actually should "quit", i.e. self- and others-harming behavior.

  • Colleen Coble

    See, this transparency is why we love you, Mike! And your words are sooo true! Writing a book is one of the hardest things I do and I think most authors are plagued with doubts that we can really pull it off. And it gets harder with every new book because we want it to be fresh and compelling. I love you comment about having too much invested to quit! That's what I tell myself when the going gets hard. I've come this far. I have to keep going.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      Writing is SO hard. I face a lot of battles here, too. Like … um … daily!

  • http://twitter.com/moweezle @moweezle

    There are many times when I am attempted to quit and just throw in the towel. I guess what keeps me going is the final outcome. Reaching that goal or accomplishing the dream is what pushes me through…

  • David Masci

    As I try to implement my own life plan, I find that dreams and goals are easy and that consistency is where the real work begins. It's good to know that others struggle with the "Why?" question as well. Thanks.

  • http://twitter.com/TeriLynneU @TeriLynneU

    With a young child and married to a pastor, there are many days when time for writing and pursuing my own dreams is in short demand. So often I find myself crying out to the Lord and asking why He placed the desire to write in my heart if He wasn't going to give me adequate time to do it! But that tender voice always speaks to my spirit about those "seasons for everything" and what a blessing this season of life is … watching my nine-year-old improve in dance and relationship-building, assisting my husband in the varied ministries of an Associate Pastor at a growing church, so many beautiful times in this season. And one day that season will come where hours can be devoted to writing what I have learned and seen and experienced in THIS season of blissful chaos! And, I'm sure thankful for blogging which fills the need inside me during this season!

  • http://www.behwiseman.com Beth Wiseman

    This is a great post to wake up to.

  • http://www.higherlevelgroup.com/danieldecker.html Daniel Decker

    Love this post for many reasons and will be sharing with others. The perspective part is huge to me. When you said "Instead, I focus on the positive. I am looking for reasons to keep going." To me that is critical. Mental preparation is like training. Training our brains to look for the solution or the benefits rather than defaulting to the negative. What we seek we will find. :)

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      Absolutely. Most of my biggest battles happen between my ears!

  • http://www.newchristianvoices.com Caron Guillo

    How timely, Michael! Each day there are a myriad of reasons to quit one thing or another, and when we’re emotionally or physically weary, it’s easy to list every single one of them. What a transformational suggestion: detailing the reasons to keep going. I’ll be putting this to good use–you might have just saved my writing career. Thank you.

  • Claude

    This post struck a chord. This morning at 5 A.M. I was hanging my head trying to make sense out of my social science university course. Then, I said to myself: " I don't need that s.. I'll just drop it. Then, i stopped reading it, had a little bit of meditation trying to stop my mind from sending all kind of b.s. messages. I have invested a lot of time in this project and have given up on lots of other things as well. But I will do a review like you did and that will probably boost my moral.

    Claude

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      Finishing stuff is indeed important. It gives you confidence to tackle the bigger hills you will face in the future.

  • http://twitter.com/CherylSmith999 @CherylSmith999

    Mike, this brings tears to my eyes for a variety of reasons: 1) your devotion and love for an amazing woman 2) your transparency to share with others 3) conviction of my own laziness, particularly when God calls me to do something and I want to give up when it gets hard 4) because so many people need to hear these words

  • http://www.kimmirich.wordpress.com Kimmi

    This is so beautifully written, Michael. Adding would only distract.

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/RachelleGardner RachelleGardner

    Mike, this blog post was perfectly timed for me. Today I'm going to make my list answering the question, "Why should I continue being a literary agent?" The challenge has been much more than I expected, it feels like an uphill battle everyday, and I find myself asking more and more, "Why?" Time for me to answer the question. Thanks for this terrific example and showing me how to get my motivation back.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      Thank you for your transparency, Rachelle. If there is one thing our industry needs, it is GREAT literary agents. You are one of the best. In fact, I met one of your clients in Nashville yesterday, and we were both singing your praises.

      Thanks again.

  • http://authorculture.blogspot.com Linda Yezak

    When the rules of the game are different for different people, when the requirements are beyond my comprehension, when my obstacles seem larger than I can master, I want to quit. Days like today, I don’t have one reason to keep going, let alone ten. But when I’m reminded that this is what I want, what I’ve worked for, I keep going. As my to-do list diminishes and my contact list is lined with check marks, my attitude changes.

    Wonderful post, Michael. Thanks for making me think this morning!

  • http://robertgtaylor.com Robert Taylor

    Great post, Michael! I especially appreciated the distinction of the two questions (why stay vs. why quit). The answers you get always depend on the question you ask.

    I also liked the strategy of keeping the answers in lists for future reference.

    Thanks for the helpful perspective.

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/jbwagner Josh Wagner

    I think this post will always be timely. I've been reading John C. Maxwell's book "Put Your Dream to the Test." As I've read the book, I've been taking stock of my dreams and goals, and perseverance is a big part of that. Thanks for sharing how you do that.

  • http://twitter.com/MichelleLMoss @MichelleLMoss

    Wow, reasons to continue! With times in my life as a young lady, I find myself reflecting on the many endeavors I am embarking on. Desire to advacne the Kingdom of God, academic excellence and developing in a well rounded manner. With the times of wanting to throw the towel in, a post like this one reminds me to Meditate on the Reasons to continue. Mr. Hyatt, I soo apreciate you sharing the reaons in your life. The whole marriage analogy gives me great hopes of being found and starting a journey with a gentleman so I too can display the Christ Church relationship! God Bless!

  • Lori

    Thank you – with my whole heart.

  • Lynn Rush

    Inspiring. Thank you. I have much respect for men who step up and take the role of head of the household and spiritual leader of their family seriously. You are a great role model for many, Michael.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      Thank you, Lynn.

  • Teri D. Smith

    Many thanks. The two things that keep me going are to refocus on the dream and to remember how much I want to please the Savior who gave His life for me.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      Amen to that!

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/Eric_ Eric_

    Excellent post!!! I try to do the same, but am not always succesful. I'm not sure if anyone else does this, but I often get discouraged by the thing that motivates me….and sometimes it's the other way around. I got interested in photography by seeing all these beautiful photos of incredible people, places and things. It really FIRED me up to buy gear and become a photographer!! But sometimes, I can look at those same photos, and they discourage me….I wonder, "Am I ever going to take just ONE photograph that moves someone like this pic moved me?" But that's when I take your advice and try to focus on the positive, which is that all these photographers were total amatuers once too…and if THEY had given up the race, I would never have been inspired to even START the race.

    Thanks Mike.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      The greater the dream, the greater the opposition and obstacles. Obtaining the dream is secondary to what happens along the way. ;-)

      I am also an amateur photographer, so know the challenges well!

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/Mishap Mishap

    Inspiring! Getting married this year and this really gives me something to think about–and hope for. I wish my future husband will list more or less the same things about our marriage. But more importantly, that I will too! Thank you for sharing.

  • http://hisfirefly.blogspot.com HisFireFly

    What a fantaastic post! I need to think about writing lists like yours. I agree that the way in which we ask questions will affect the answers that arise.

    May God bless your committment to Him and to your marriage and family!

  • @RickYuzzi

    Good advice. Kind of like a glass-half-empty versus glass-half-full outlook. It's probably hard for those who see life as a half-empty glass to think this way, but working at consistently asking these types of questions could help someone change that mindset, which would be a key to maintaining joy in all we do.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      In my experience, asking the right questions is the key to happiness. If you let the wrong questions run unattended, they will destroy your life.

  • http://www.billcarrington.com Bill Carrington

    I have been struggling for more than a few days now with what some might call depression or perhaps more accurately, self-doubt. Mike you have provided a tool in this post that will help me and many others.

    Make that list folks. Refer to it as often as needed. Focus on the positives and let yourself build that mental image of success and happiness.

    Thanks Mike for being more than just ‘a regular guy’. Your perspective and focus helps loads of people.

    Bill

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      Thanks, Bill. I'm glad I could help. As I have said before, I mostly just preach to myself. I'm happy for others to listen in.

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/chownage Chownage

    A great post Mike. I think it's crucial that a list like that exists for each role we play in our lives. I think I'll take the time to do that soon. I could use some clarity in a couple of areas in my life. Thank you!

  • Jeff

    Thank you for the post on not quitting. I have been bombarded by these questions with increased intensity the last few months. I’m making it a goal to create the written lists as I believe asking the brain to answer the positive question is a huge key.

    Sincerely.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      It's almost like creating a personal defense system, so that when you are attacked you have a mental shield to ward off the attack.

  • Joanne Sher

    Oh – I am so glad I was pointed here. This is incredibly inspiring and true. Excellent

  • http://www.katieganshert.com Katie Ganshert

    Wow – this is a truly wonderful post. I'm going to go create my own lists now. Thanks!

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      Excellent. I think you will find the exercise energizing.

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

    Thanks, Cheryl. You are a blessing!

  • http://www.dailyreflectionsforsingleparents.blogspot.com/ Scoti Domeij

    Mike, You are a wise man.

    When my husband was unfaithful, I desired reconciliation and posed as questions every item on your list to him. The hormonal sexual cocktail infusing his brain blinded him to reason. I pray that anyone considering devastating their wife and children will listen to your wise advice.

    QUESTION: Could you please post each list you've written for every important area in your life?

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      Yes, I will consider it. Some of them have some really personal stuff in them, so I need to think about that. (Of course, this one did, too!)

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/jasondtaylor Jason Taylor

    Michael, yeseterday I did a long long mountain bike ride after work. After my first two flats I thought about quitting, after the 3rd one I was beginning to wonder if I should turn around. Mind you, I was doing a hill repeat workout which is fun if you you're crazy, and by the 4th flat and about 3 hours in I'd had it. Then, I blew out the side wall in my tire and had to walk home.
    What kept me from quitting was the constant thought that I still, even with the flats and the slowdowns and the "out of my control" aspect, I still get to do this, I still get to use my legs and things could always be worse. And, I got to enjoy a killer sunset for a bonus.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      That is a great story. You should blog about it. There are a lot of life lessons in that one paragraph!

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/patriciazell patriciazell

    As a teacher, I have to help my students persist in order to accomplish goals. For many of my seniors, the thought of doing a senior project–a research paper, a power point, and a presentation–is overwhelming. I help them by breaking the project into manageable steps and setting a time frame. When they finish everything, many of them are amazed that they did it. And, better yet, last year every one of my seniors completed his/her project.

    One of my courses during my master's program was about habits of mind. This course covered the sixteen habits that successful students use, and those habits are easily transposed to adults. Anyone can find a summary of the habits at http://www.habits-of-mind.net.

    In my almost 35 years of marriage, I have used similar concepts as Mike's to work through some tough problems between my husband and me–I just didn't write them down. If there is one thing I would tell younger marrieds is to think circumstances out and make informed decisions. Don't let your emotions determine your actions–think!

    • http://twitter.com/MichelleLMoss @MichelleLMoss

      The Habits of Mind website is great! I related much of the material to some of my recent studies in school in my Educational Psychology course. Thanks for sharing, I am attending WSU to become a School Teacher!

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      I agree. You can't let your emotions or circumstances determine how you respond. It has to come from a deeper place.

  • http://www.teawithtiffany.com Tiffany Stuart

    Thank you, Michael.

    I need to make lots of lists to refer to. I am a fighter so I usually don't give up on the most important things to me, but I do tend to get discouraged. I am an idealist, so I picture things differently than they are. And I'm a dreamer. It seems like all my dreams are an uphill climb and I wonder if I will ever see the peak. I tire and sit down and rest a lot. I consider hiking back down before the summit because it's easier and I wonder if the top view is worth it.

    This was great. I tweeted this post.

    Loved your marriage list for an example. :)

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      You are certainly not alone in getting discouraged. I think it is very, very common.

      Thanks for tweeting this.

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/patalexander patalexander

    Great post Mike. Gene and I have been married 35 years. I don't know one married couple that doesn't have their challenges. It saddens me to see those in my family that have so easily walk away from the best relationship they ever had. Thanks for sharing.

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/AnnaSChristie AnnaSChristie

    Thanks so much for this post. And I'm so glad I found your blog! I'm a Christian minister, author, blogger and tweeter as well. I'll be sure to check in here often for some good reading!

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      Awesome. Welcome! I do hope you'll stop by again.

  • http://beaconhillnw.com Jim

    it’s that distinction that gives me sanity…it’s just like Psalm 13 in verses 5 and 6 where David realizes that God has not changed, but David emotion kept him from seeing that. I get tired,frustrated,bummed out during projects. And that’s why I make guidelines and goals to remind myself of the bigger picture. And the marriage piece is tough. I celebrated 16 years on the 17th of July. We have to work harder now that our two oldest are in their early teens.

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  • Forrest Long

    Thanks Michael for that list and the encouragement. Some years ago I went through divorce and left pastoral ministry at the time. Ever since I have wrestled with both. Everyone’s circumstances are different but so often we second guess our decisions, especially ones that are life-changing. I hope this blog will encourage alot of readers. I have just finished writing a book on the struggles of marriage breakdown in pastoral ministry, and the surfacing memories touched on alot of the things you raised.

  • Rachel

    I love your blog so much. Always an encouragement and a good, hard word.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      Thanks, Rachel. I appreciate you taking time to comment. These are the types of things that keep me going as a writer.

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/DebbieBo DebbieBo

    Not just a cliche or something I am suppose to say as a follower of Christ – but the Truth – I do nothing – but Jesus is so faithful to me. He comes in time and time again and brings that reminder of HIs love and Truth. It gives me something to cling to and keep going instead of giving up. Without HIm I would have given up many times and stayed as defeated as anyone could possibly be. THAT IS LOVE!

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  • http://www.marlataviano.com Marla Taviano

    Fabulous post. Thank you.

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/JasonWert JasonWert

    To be honest there are a lot of times where I don't know what keeps me going. All my life…even before I came to Christ…I had a drive to not give up. I remember many nights as a teen and young adult laying on my bed at night wondering why I couldn't quit and walk away. There were times that drive seemed like a real curse to me.

    Now, as trite and "Christian-y" as it sounds, what keeps me going is knowing God has a purpose for everything and that eventually if I keep seeking Him in all things He'll work it out for His good. God doesn't leave me hanging or allows me to have the tar beaten out of me for no reason at all.

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/marinaberryman marinaberryman

    I am making my lists right now. I believe the lists will also help me discern whether or not to make a move in a few potentially "over-commitments" I've got going on right now too. About 10 yrs ago when my marriage was on the brink of implosion, God gave me similar insight – during difficult days I would list the reasons I married my husband. I would remember the day I knew I loved him. I would list all his positive traits (surprisingly, these way out-weighed the negative). I remember being convicted spiritually about the impact my words and decisions would have on future generations. I was also convicted about being a person of integrity – if I made a promise/covenant to be married to my husband for life, my word had to mean something. If we had given up 10 years ago, we would have missed out on some incredible years together and now a new "career" in ministry, leading short-term missions teams in evangelism & church planting. I'm now thankful for our trials because eventually our commitment to God and each other was renewed, restored, and made stronger than ever.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/patriciazell patriciazell

      When I reached a similar time in my marriage, the Lord brought to the point where I had to consider what giving my word meant. In reality, the decision I was struggling with had to do with my basic character. That understanding helped me sort through emotions and make a thoughtful decision which was to stay. And, I am so glad I did.

      • http://intensedebate.com/people/marinaberryman marinaberryman

        Honestly, at the time I didn't really want to review my own character. My vision was clouded by my husband's negative character traits and the dark cloud which hovered over our lives. When I was finally forced (God had my number) to see my own lack of depth, lack of commitment, selfishness, insecurity, unkindness (the list is much longer), it was a terrible revelation, yet a wonderfully freeing time. We had to work together as a team for several years, rebuilding trust and love and fun and friendship into our relationship. We set appropriate boundaries, stopped listening to negative outside influences, vowed to give and receive grace as much as humanly possible. I still remember the day I realized the cloud had lifted.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      This is an amazing testimony. I love hearing stories like these. So many people quit today right before t gets good!

  • http://www.hiddenlife.com Janie Seltzer

    Thanks, Mike, for your honesty. Looking at you yesterday at the Life Work 2.0 no one would ever suspect that you struggle with throwing in the towel~~which is why your words strike such a cord with all~as we all get discouraged. Your words remind me of what my husband and I talk about: PLAY THE MOVIE. That helps always. But for me, it is much more. I find energy in the presence of God as I watch and wait for Him. Each morning~ real life flows in. Sweet hope.

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/michaelhyatt Michael Hyatt

      I love that line, "play the movie." As Don Miller says in his new book (which we are publishing this September), we are all writing a story with our lives. The only question is whether or not its going to be a bad story, a boring story, or a great story.

      I enjoyed meeting you!

  • http://twitter.com/lynnpina @lynnpina

    Thank you for such a thoughtful and meaningful post. I am actually struggling with this issue now – deciding if I should quit something I have invested a lot in – and this really gives me another perspective to consider and another framework in which to ask the questions I need to ask of myself. I can't thank you enough for what this post means to me TODAY!

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/Peter_P Peter_P

    Thank you for this Michael. I really needed it today!

    Your blog is so encouraging, it's a real Godsend so often.

  • http://www.rooftopministries.org Cheryl Floyd

    I was just contemplating something similar this AM. As I read today's entry in My Utmost for His Highest, I thought of how the scripture referenced and another fit together: Let your endurance be a finished product… James 1:4 and Gal. 6:9 saying we will reap a harvest "if we do not give up". It doesn't work when you just "endure" or "not give up" for a time. It has to be "to completion" or there isn't a gain, a harvest.

    And, sometimes this "prize" is the only option. In the spirit of Peter, who when asked by Jesus why they (the disciples) weren't walking away like the rest of the crowd because of Jesus' confusing words of "eat my flest and drink my blood" responded – well, we don't understand you either, but, where else can we go? What else can we do? We at least recognize you've got something we don't, and it's something we need. There is not other option.

  • http://www.rooftopministries.org Cheryl Floyd

    I, like you, have contemplated quitting many aspects of many things many times. But when I think it through, sometimes I come to the conclusion – and then what? To whom or what shall I go? Enduring is the Bread of Life. And, when I stick it out, I always reap a harvest: character, quality, wisdom, experience, sometimes even concrete and material rewards.

    But enduring, not quitting, really is a reward in itself.

  • http://www.activeministries.com Dan Lagden

    'What God has joined let no man take apart' We think that some one else takes our marriages apart, but that 'man' is ourselves. What God starts He plans to finish… we just have to meet the challenges when they come. But He does say that He tempts no man. The challenge may be greater than we can tackle but we are not mean't to be able to tackle it in our own strength… The challenge will always be greater and that is the very thing that throws us onto to Him… the origin and source of Love which believes, hopes and accepts…. always.

  • http://baylormum.blogspot.com Shellie (baylormum)

    God has put the most incredible people in my life in the past 10 months. It started with seeing the Mercyme guys here in Amarillo. Bart telling us we were streaming live on the internet. The next night I signed onto said stream. I learned about twitter (from Brody). I had never in my 51 years been in a chat room before that night. I have been so blessed with friends literally around the world. Brody said today that "it's in the pudding" when blogging brings bunches of peeps together because we are hungry for change. I look for someone who makes it a challenge, but makes it so simple that even I can follow! I don't need all the mumbo jumbo preaching. I want real people who live it. You are just a guy who says it plain & simple, but eloquent. I for one thank-you. :)

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  • http://intensedebate.com/people/ValerieFaulkner ValerieFaulkner

    Hi Michael,
    These are hard times for most of us, with the economic turndown many of us are stressing…silently wondering when things will turn-around.
    Thank you for the post; it reminds me I’m not the only one who’s going through this. We must keep encouraging each other; and find comfort in our fellowship.
    As for blessings, I’ve certainly had enough to out weigh the difficult times and I haven’t made a list per say, because I thank God daily for the course he’s guided me on so far.
    Still, when discouragement pops up and my mind gets so foggy I can’t clear it of all the negative vibes…I go to the folder on my desk top and read the following, and pray.
    Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.
    Proverbs 3:5, 6
    May God bless all of us today!

  • Beth

    I've been thinking a lot about committment and marriage, in particular. We just learned that our son's godparents, good friends but who far away, have separated. They have been married about 25 years and it has always seemed to be so solid. I can't know what really has and is going on in their marriage, but the situation has led me to reflect on my own 16 year marriage. Your post is a beautiful articulation of what one loses when one feels their path is leading them away from their marriage. Thank you.

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/chickefitz chickefitz

    Michael, thank you for always showing your heart and being willing to share with real examples from your life. That is servant leadership at its finest.

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  • http://twitter.com/kaizantweets @kaizantweets

    Inspirational and motivating post.

    I always say, the only way you can ever really lose, is if you give up…

  • http://www.faithbarista.com FaithBarista

    Thanks for such an honest post. I loved your idea of writing down reasons to keep going, to combat the spiral of thoughts to have us quit.

    As a little girl, I've always had the dream of becoming a writer. But, being the oldest child in a single parent family, I chose the "practical" path, to take care of them financially and pursued an engineering degree instead.

    Now that forty is around the corner for me and I've fulfilled my family obligations, I've felt God prompting me to pick up this dream again and pursue it for Christ.

    Of course, I want to quit because I feel it's too late for me. But, your post reminded me, God has given me the strength and hard work ethic to provide for my family so many decades, He will give me the same strength and endurance to do it for this dream He's kept alive, even after so many decades.

    May God give me the grace.

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  • http://twitter.com/DavidGallery @DavidGallery

    Thanks so much on this article. It's really hit a buzz eye of my heart. Couple weeks ago I was in situation where I think I was losing motivation and inspiration. I complained about them. But the truth is, it was a lie. Instead I was trying to "quit" from my fill-up of responsible and tasks as "easy out". So I was start complaining – no motivation – no inspiration – need to find them etc.

    But till today – I keep going and knowing that was a just another bump.

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  • http://dougspurling.blogspot.com/ Doug Spurling

    "Weary not in well doing for in due season you shall reap if you faint not." __- If you don't quit you win. ____Thank you great post.

  • http://www.amyeslater.com Amy Slater

    This post truly spoke to me. I have quite a few personal goals & dreams (God-given, I truly believe), yet almost daily – as of late – I have felt the temptation to just quit and let them fade away. Your words have been an encouragement to keep plugging away, keep learning, continue growing and never forget that God is my ultimate source when the "feelings" just aren't there.

  • Nathan

    In one word: spite.

  • Eric

    My list is strikingly similar to yours. I have one other item that I'm sure you would echo:

    11. Because I promised to love her, through sickness and health, rich or poor, good or bad, etc., etc. (I don't even recall the exact language), until God, by death, shall separate us. And I'm not willing to go on record as having broken that promise.

    That one always comes to mind.

  • Mary

    When tempted to quit, I go to psalm 107. God does not change. He lifts the needy out of their afflictions. Also inspiring is a song was written by SideWalk Prophets. Some of the words are: Be strong in the Lord. Never give up hope. You've come to do great things, I already know. God's got his hand on you so dont live life in fear. Forgive and forget but dont forget why you're here. Take the time to pray, these are the words I would say.

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  • http://www.withininc.com Ami Dean

    Two words, Absolutely incredible. And…thank you.

  • http://herbhalstead.me herbhasltead

    Michael, thanks for this post. I did not expect to be challenged in this way on your blog. Man have I been tempted to quit – thanks for giving me a new way to think about these challenges in terms of why I must continue, rather than why I could quit. Thanks.

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      You are welcome!

  • http://vesselproject.com Keiki Hendrix

    Awesome, encouraging post.

  • http://twitter.commholloway49 Mike

    Awesome wisdom. As a former active duty Marine (it is so hard to say ex-Marine), I learned valuable lessons about persevering and asking "why go ahead". In those situations, getting to the why was pretty easy. In everyday life, when things are not going well, the temptation to ask "why not quit" is very real. Thanks.

  • http://MoreTimeWithOurKids.blogspot.com Erika

    With a 2.5 yr. old and a 7 mos. old, lately it's been parenting and disciplining and homemaking and lack of sleep … and, and, and!

    When I feel like just giving in and skipping the teaching moment, or when I want to pretend that I didn't notice my daughter blatantly disobeying just so that I don't have to muster up the energy and patience to "train her up in the way that she should go," the Holy Spirit reminds me to "Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up" (Galatians 6:9). So, I cry out to the Lord, for it is in my weakness that He is made strong, and by His grace, I do. not. give. up.

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  • http://www.shawneda.com Shawneda Marks

    I’m writing a list for the things I want to quit right now. This article repost timed so perfectly. God bless you!

  • Jim

    Thank you Michael

  • http://www.christopherscottblog.typepad.com/ Christopher Scott

    I’m often tempted to quit with my writing. At times, it feels like a constant uphill climb with no momentum ever being created.

    But I keep going because I know I have an important message to tell. I know that what I write about makes a difference and helps other leaders who are similar to me.

    What is at stake is that if I quit, I don’t get to help as many people as my potential would allow. And if I did quit, this means I throw away all of the hard work I’ve done over the years.

  • http://www.besidesthebible.com John Pattison

    Thanks for this, Michael. It’s what I needed to push through the marathon of work and writing deadlines of the next seven days.

    – John

  • http://profiles.google.com/sequoiajoy Connie Brown

    Creating a list of why not to quit for every important area of your life is excellent advice. Thanks for sharing this.

  • http://twitter.com/ConnieBrown Connie Walsh Brown

    This is an excellent tool to stay focused and engaged instead of quitting. Thanks for sharing this.

  • Anonymous

    I have found a great product cure for this problem or to learn this Marriage Savior System.  My friend recommended me to visit http://tinyurl.com/urmarriagesaved

  • Amy

    I am but out of words and truly INSPIRED! Great job!!!

  • Churchmediatech

     I need to read this, at this stage in my life, thanks.

  • Elizabeth

    I have the dream to achieve a major athletic accomplishment in my life, as well as open my own business, and be the first person in my family to make $100,000 or more a year. All three of these goals have left me wanting to quit at some time. This seems like a good idea – to write out positive reasons to continue. Thanks, Michael! With God all things are possible!

  • Marlette

    Thanks for this, Michael!  It was very timely.  Now, could you blog on “Why (or how) to start?”  I’m stuck!

  • Nora

    I am moved by your post.  It is so real, so honest.  I admire that you put yourself OUT THERE to help others.  I have been using the Suzy Welch 10 10 10 method quite a bit since the leadercast last month.  It helps me move toward my goal when I feel like quitting or when I am having trouble getting started.  I have used a written  list for some things in the past.  It looks like a great way to crystallize all my goals.  Is there a rule for 10 on the list?
    Thank you so much Michael. 

  • misty

    I needed this.  I wanna quit.  I will make a list of reasons as you have as to why not to quit.  What an incredible idea!  Very helpful in keeping the true focus of why we do what we do.  Thanks for inspiring me today!!! 

  • http://www.ryanhaack.com Ryan Haack

    Great post!

    I actually wrote about this idea on my blog a couple weeks ago, too.  Quitting is so much easier!  I’m happy to report, though, that I ran yesterday (on purpose) for the first time since Thanksgiving!  My shins hated me, but it was worth it.  It always is, right?

    Thanks for inspiring me, as usual!

    http://www.ryanhaack.com/one-foot-forward/

  • Shari Henry

    Love this post. I spent a good deal of time working through your Creating Your Life Plan workbook today while sitting in yet another hospital waiting room waiting on yet another procedure being done on yet another family member. I cannot count the times over the past few years that I have wanted to quit everything. I know in new and wonderful ways what it means to be given just the amount of grace in just the time of need to keep going. And the value of friends & family — I know that too. But the one thing that keeps me going is that, at the core of my innermost being, I know that God has work yet for me to do. It can be interrupted (apparently!) but not thwarted. Each day, I pay attention. I look for the encouragement he has for me. Sometimes I remember Jean Nystrand’s (former BSF director) saying at a conference, “When you fail to do the hard thing, everything gets harder.” Sometimes I think of Elisabeth Eliot’s “next thing” and muster up enough whatever-it-is to just do that. Sometimes, admittedly, I lower the expectations bar a bit to get through the day. I wait on God and keep paying attention. Yesterday it was David Brook’s piece in The Wall Street Journal and the closing line, “The purpose in life is not to find yourself. It is to lose yourself.” Sometimes it’s laughing at a Jon Acuff post, or seeing a CS Lewis or GK Chesterton quote come across my Facebook wall. Often, Michael Hyatt, it is you. The story of how I “found” you and your blog is awesome in itself, but for now let me just say your wisdom is a blessing to me. Your Life Plan and Ideal Work Week and so many other tools and tidbits you share so generously are meeting me in my time of need as I come out of the illness-induced coma (not my personal illness, but several others close to me) that has had hold of me far too long. So, thank you. God uses you mightily and I am grateful. God has work for me yet to do and I intend to get it done.

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      Thanks, Shari. I was really touched by your comment. Wow.

  • Sharon Cruz-Pecina

    Thank you so much for helping me look deeper into why desire to change or quit.

  • http://twitter.com/Lady_Jaws Jane Selomulyo

    Spot on! thank you!

  • Lisa

    Wow I have been feeling like this for the past week, and it’s a recurring feeling that rears it’s ugly head every couple of months. I never thought to write a list of why what I’m doing in a certain area of life is important. Thank you for the post! 

  • Thomsuddreth

    Great inspirational words. I got a call two hours ago from a potential employer who wanted a face to face interview. When I called back they said “never mind”. Your words have given me the hope that all this work will pay off. Thanks.

  • Dick

    Whats the meaning of the word quit, it’s not in my dictionary!

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Sean-Jackie-Fyock/100002281637000 Sean Jackie Fyock

    It is great to have someone posting inspiring messages that truly help people.  Thanks Michael. In Retrouvaille (an international marriage saving ministry) we teach that there is a difference between an “Ideal” and a “Value”.  A Value is something you have actually worked towards and continue to work towards.  An Ideal is something you believe would be great to achieve but you never actually work on it.  Both things can be difficult or frustrating, but only something is a value is it actually making a difference in your life.  

    For me, this means that I need to commit and take action to create value an recognize when something is simply an ideal and stop holding myself responsible for what doesn’t fit in my life. Like; I would love to run a half marathon, but I am not that strong of a runner right now and I don’t have the time to commit to training.  I do value running and enjoy 5K.  So I focus on that and don’t beat myself up over not being a marathoner at this time.

  • http://www.forward-living.com W. Mark Thompson

    Yeah. I ask myself about it too… several times a day on several different areas of life each day. I think it’s not worth the trouble. I think fatalistically about the results (without having all the facts yet). I think it’s just useless in the long run. We’re all going to die anyway. Kind a drags me down when I think about the entire process of each situation to quit.

    For some reason I keep going. Not sure if it’s the expectation, the fear of failure, or just for the mountaintop experiences in the journey. Maybe it’s just trusting that the best is yet to come.

    This is encouraging to me when I’m contemplating quitting: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FyaL7Hsstc0

    Blessings!

  • abbie

    I love the idea having having multiple ‘big picture’ lists to refer back to overtime. How did you breakdown ‘the oter areas ifyour life’?

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  • http://www.2SonsandParisMom.blogspot.com/ Kristy L. Cambron

    Fantastic post! And my favorite line? “She fascinates me.”  I love it when husbands and wives are best friends AND they are fascinated after thirty-one years.
    P.S. Don’t quit blogging? My husband and I love your posts!

  • BWhite

    Very timely for yesterday I took an emotional beating at the hands of some friends. This word encourages me to stay the course and press forward. Thank you

    • http://www.MicheleCushatt.com/ Michele Cushatt

      I’m so sorry for yesterday’s friendly fire. Not fun at all. But I’m glad this post gave you the fuel to keep going forward.

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  • Jessica Rietema

    This was quite an appropriate read for me today.  I am in a hard place in my life – not from external circumstances, but from internal wrestling – and daily feel the urge to quit in the areas I am attempting to grow in.  Lately, I often give in to that urge, and feel even worse for it.  I have found myself in a place of daily, even moment by moment, surrender to Christ.  I appreciate this post because it validates my feelings while drawing me to move forward at the same time.  I want to be a woman of character, not a woman of the easy way out.

  • tlima314

    Thanks Michael, I needed to hear this. Great advice, I will be making my own list’s to look at when I want to quit.

  • http://www.BillintheBlank.com/ Bill Blankschaen

    Michael,  Iam curious. Has this battle against quitting gotten any easier as you’ve had more success in some areas? In other words, is there a correlation between the desire to quit and our perceived level of acheivement. As one rises, does the other tend to diminish.

    Thanks!

  • http://twitter.com/LionLeader4 Chris Chandler

    Thank you for the post, Michael. I’ve found that the best antidote to discouragement is to attack the problem with a double-dose of determination. The results usually cheer me right up! 

  • Lori

    The past several years I’ve been discouraged and frustrated with my job because I don’t like the direction the public educational system is going. I want to quit almost everyday. When and if I find something else (I’m the bread winner in my home so I can’t just accept any job), I will quit for good. But in the meantime, the only thing that keeps me going is God!! He helps me daily to make it through.

  • Johnandbetty

    Very well written and so true. We give up too easily or work to save a marriage too late. A good relationship is worth fighting for and fighting through the hard times. Loved this. 

  • Chuck Underwood

    I have been battling this question for the past few weeks in several areas of my life.   I really appreciate how by asking a different question can change your perspective entirely.  Thanks for the great post!  

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  • Brent

    It’s amazing that you used your relationship with your wife as your primary example of not quitting. My wife and I just minutes ago had a blow out fight and naturally I withdrew and “quit” at least emotionally. I say naturally because it’s become all too common of a habit to want to quit, withdraw and dwell on the “fact” that it’s all her fault.

    This article helped me realize that I don’t want love to be the defining characteristic in my life. And there in lies my problem.

    I felt a sense of relief coming to that realization. I still have the problem but at least now I know what it is. This whole turn of events also made me realize that, Lo and behold, I was the cause of our fight this morning (talk about a vale lifted from my face!). I have no doubt been the cause of many of our fights that I used to think were all her fault. 

    If I want love to become the defining characteristic of my life then it is going to take more soul searching and more defining moments like today. And to think, I only pulled up this site as part of my withdraw-and-pout reaction to our fight. 

  • Kurt Wuerfele

    So well written Michael. Thank you. You and Dan Miller are making a huge impact on my life right now, and your encouragement and wisdom is a gift from the Lord; I won’t give up on my God-inspired dream!!

  • Tea

    It is simple ehcellent said.We can learn lot from you.Thank you.

  • http://twitter.com/YouEverySecond YES You Every Second

    Nice list! I love the way you actually say you should make a list of positive reasons to go on – and not some negative reasons to give up.
    It’s important to have in mind the purpose of what we are doing – but I guess that sometimes, it’s better to clear our mind, and just try to make the next tiny step – waiting for more motivation.
    What do you think?
    Nicolas.

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  • Taylors

    That is a great post and something I really need to hear right now in my life. Thank you for that uplife.

  • Leah

    Thank you so much for always inspiring us! What a great post!

  • http://www.medicalaccountsolutions.com Misty Gilbert

    Excellent post Michael Hyatt! Enjoyed reading it.

  • Linnette R Mullin

    I think the thing I wish I could call quits on is fighting my chronic illness. It infiltrates and poisons every area of my life and its a challenge to keep fighting the constant pain and fatigue. It would be nice if I could wish it away, but that’s not going to happen. Thank you for the post. It was very encouraging!

  • http://www.englishclubpro.com/ Akmal Akbarov

    Love and love how you see family and marriage life Michael. Thank you so much for such a wonderful post. )))

  • Leana Caraballo

    I constantly struggle with the “WHAT” question. Even when things are going good, I fight wit the ” it could have been better if I”. Then I go on social media and see certain friends constantly negative on life. I pray for bitterness to go away, and I rejoice with what I do have. I take steps back and Love more than anything else. Honestly Love is what keeps me going. I didn’t receive much of it growing up but I can Love like “HE”has loved me.

  • Coqueta

    What makes it easy to quit is if you’ve “quit” before. Regarding marriage: I am in my second marriage and it is like a roller coaster in many ways with everything from blended family dynamics, trust issues, opposing upbringings and most importantly, differences in priorities. I will admit…I feel like quitting most of the time. It’s exhausting. I think I feel this way more often than some because I KNOW I can survive without a husband. I’ve done it before. Yes, this sounds cold, callous and self-centered…but, what is keeping me going? My kids. My angels. My family…I don’t want to break their hearts..but, ultimately, I think God has a purpose for me in this marriage. Each day is a struggle and I need to keep focusing on what IS working and being thankful for what God has given me.

  • http://www.mattham.com/ Matt Ham

    Michael,
    Great timing on this re-post! I just finished the first draft of my first book and was getting some heavy artillery from the enemy. I wrote out a prayer for the book with morning as my reminder of why I wrote it in the first place. This was great confirmation, thank you!

  • thecompassionateindependent

    Reminds me of a teaching from Ford Taylor’s ‘Transformational Leadership’ called TFA- Thoughts->Feelings->Actions. When you want to change your actions, start with intentionally changing your thoughts (in this case, the question you are asking yourself). This will lead to a change in your feelings and then to changed behavior. I like your question technique even better. Thank you.

  • Maya

    Your message resonates with me. We do have to go through these uncomfortable moments for the greater good in the long run.

  • Diana Nesbitt

    This post was just what I needed. Today, for a few hours at least, I decided to quit National Novel Writing Month. I’m behind, I’ve been stressing over it and not being too pleasant to be around. So I said I was done. I even entertained the idea if quitting writing altogether. But when it all comes down to it and I think about what I might be missing out on if I do quit, I know I can’t quit. I may fail, but I won’t quit. Thanks for the encouragement to stick with it!

  • Andrew Lennertz

    As a neuroscientist and biochemist who deals with people with severe complex multidimensional challenges that atypical medicine and alternative medicine cannot help that have profound negative affects on every part of the sufferer’s life including intimate relationships, I see blogs daily with trite and useless information in the semantic format of “10 traits of successful people” including “staying positive” so I get tired of this basically low information value that is being promoted by life coaches, therapists and so called experts in life and people presented as expert advise. Your blog is a breath of fresh air. Though you are not a practitioner of any science that treats human suffering, your insights are in line with some of the top research in the area of neurology, sociology, psychology and ontology. There are 2 levels of information value which are objective and subjective. Objective is specific task oriented like tying your shoes. Subjective is global dynamic knowledge which is basically a wisdom or understanding about life. And life is all about relationships. Relationships are highly objective skill and subjective understanding dependent for success. Ultimately people get sick because they don’t have good challenge resolution skills and they lack relationship support. This is some of the best relationship sustainability advice I have heard from a non science person in that field. There are three types of relationships…parity, proximity or affinity based. Many people have only proximity and affinity based relationships…they married somebody nearby who they became infatuated with. Parity based relationships are based on shared values and a sense of shared destiny. All relationship go through 3 phases.. infatuation, negotiation and implementation. Everybody loves the infatuation phase because that is when the brain creates oxytocin the “love” chemical. But that wears off in a couple of months. Then in order to go to the next level of relationship commitment and sustainability, people need to go through the negotiation phase. This is where most marriages fail or stay in limbo in perpetuity often become a passively antagonistic cold war. Only people who are in parity based relationships can get through the negotiation phase and agree on what to do next and implement it. Even if people can agree on what they want to do together they often disagree on how. Your entire semantic narrative reflects a parity based relationship you have with your wife because you share a sense of destiny and mutual like of each other. Like is the neurotransmitter state which keeps you going through the times you don’t feel the “love”. And even when you dont “like” that person for something specific they did or said, you still respect and trust that person. Trust creates like, like creates love. That is the secret of long term happy relationships. People who are looking to create what they want in a mutually beneficial relationship. EVery time you and your wife have overcome some difficult “what, how, when, where and why” difference in your relationships that has increased the trust level and that has strengthened not only emotional and energetic bonds, it strengthens what sociologists called “shared consciousness” bonds. In relationships one of the most overlooked functional capacities is the ability to share consciousness where each person has strengths and weaknesses but each one contributes where they can and the total is greater than the sum of the parts. And the “total” is the relationship which is greater than the parts “the people”. A relationship is a real entity… a trined entity where it must survive for both people to survive. Studies done have shown just a state of having only 2 good experiences to 1 bad can cause people to question the validity of their relationship. So having a mind set of appreciation, flexibility and giving each other the benefit of the doubt is not only great for the relationship they are also critical to the psychosomatic state of each person in a relationship. Statistics show that even a non optimal marriage in the long run can be healthier for people who are single. With the right person who you feel you share a destiny with, see that familial responsibility is a source of joy predominantly and not a burden, who see each other as co-leaders and who can see the virtue of the other persons perceptions have happier marriages and healthier lives. So this might as well serve as a primer for happy relationships and healthy relators…bravo! I always enjoy your blogs since you bring so much life wisdom to them…a lot more than most of the people who are the so-called experts! There is a technology to great relationships that structure them in a way so that they work just like any good creation or invention.

    • http://michaelhyatt.com/ Michael Hyatt

      Thanks for your encouragement, Andrew. What a great comment!

  • gridsleep

    And when there are no dreams, no goals, nothing important? What then?

  • Susan Rampson

    You wouldn’t believe the timing! Thanks for the wisdom and the sample touchstones to frame when to pause and when to take action on a change (in my case, a professional change).

  • Scott Fravel

    Great post. I think we have all been on the verge of quitting at some point. It’s funny that you posted this today, because I posted on this same topic just recently too. THE 4 PATHWAYS OF A QUITTER. http://scottfravel.com/2014/03/24/4-pathways-quitter/

  • Dale L.

    I loved reading this, it was so honest. Yes all married people fight or they are very rare. This was so deep and helpful. Thanks for being “real”.

  • http://www.louannstropoli.com LouAnn

    That’s awesome – I just blogged on the same topic today! Knowing our ‘why’ makes all the difference when the going gets tough. The tough don’t just get going. The tough know why they are getting going. Thanks for the post!

  • http://ronkelleher.com/ Ron Kelleher

    #10 trumps all the others :-)

  • http://www.mathoniusspeaks.com/ Matt Kenyon

    Thank you for being so vulnerable, Michael.

  • Michael Bartolain

    Valuable post, though I have to admit the humorist-side of me immediately thought, “Oh, boy. somebody’s trying to get off the couch!” LOL

    Well said, and thank you for sharing…

  • ronnie0111

    Thanks for re-sharing Michael. There’s been a couple of things in my life I’ve been thinking of quitting and had a similar discussion in my head, but your post helped bring it full circle for me.
    Ronnie T
    Platform U

  • Ryan

    Thank you so much Michael. I needed to read something like this, this morning. Thank you for putting yourself out there…it is greatly appreciated!

  • Jesse Carbo

    Michael, this is a timely topic for me because I am a quitter. I learned how to quit as a kid. Was never really taught the self discipline of perseverance. But, as someone who has been married for 19 years and been in ministry for 20 I have a growing appreciation for the reward of perseverance. Now a days I quit at smaller things like my fitness regime or reading a book. I am learning to stay the course not just with the big stuff but with the little things too, because I know that even the little things, if I don’t quit will add up to something greater.

    • http://michaelhyatt.com/ Michael Hyatt

      Thanks for sharing this, Jesse. I appreciate your vulnerability. Something you said caught my eye: “I am a quitter.”
      I want to encourage you to say something different: “I am a finisher.” Here’s why.
      Our behavior flows out of our identity. “For as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he” (Proverbs 23:7). It sounds like you are already making good progress, but I think it would be even more powerful if you affirmed what is most true about you.
      Does Christ live in you? Yes! If so, then His very life is yours—and he is most certainly a Finisher (John 19:30). As someone who has been redeemed by Him, you are too. This is more true than your past. That is gone.
      If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new. (2 Cor. 5:17).
      Just food for thought.

  • Ryan Gaskill

    Great Post. I worked with a swim coach who would say to the swimmers find reasons to keep going not reasons to quit. I am starting down the road blogging with the end goal of speaking in schools. Empowering students to chase Awesome-could be a long road thanks for sharing Michael.

  • Deborah H. Bateman

    Thanks for sharing this post. You are an inspiration to the rest of us who are building a business and trying to juggle all that comes along with that with our other responsibilities. Don’t quit. We need people like you in our world.
    Blessings,
    Deborah H. Bateman

  • DO

    Dear Insightful Michael, I read and very much enjoyed as it is so true. Maybe I differ with the running voice (some days my back simply says “no way”) ever other word rings painfully true. My ex-husband did not have this list and my kids and I are paying a high emotional price. I plan to pen some lists of my own and call on them in moments of need.

  • http://www.hoopercoaching.com/ Charles Hooper Jr

    Michael it has been four months since I completed your best life ever and it continues to pay great dividends. I think I will take time today and write out my lists of why in Evernote. Thank you for this topic today!

    • http://michaelhyatt.com/ Michael Hyatt

      Excellent, Charles. They can be the difference-maker.

  • Nico Bacay

    Thank you Sir Michael for this post. This is so timely. I am about to give up on learning how to write in English. I am not American that is why it is hard for me to write using the English language. But by reading this, I am motivated again. Thank you again. God bless you.

  • Rey

    Just this morning, I had a confrontation with one of my subordinates. She is very intimidating to the point that voice in my head whose telling me just give up your position, so you wont see her anymore, just quit your job, sounded so loud.
    I am about to sleep now and looking for ways to motivate myself once more and I found your blog.
    Thank you for your sharing, I guess, I need to find that focus once again as to why I applied to this position in the first place.