What to Do When You Hate Your Job

When I was in college, I took a summer job working at a small engine repair shop (e.g., chainsaws, lawnmowers, go-carts, etc.). This by itself is comical, because I am one of the most non-mechanical people I know. Fortunately, they hired me as a parts clerk rather than as a repairman.

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My boss, however, was a very unhappy person. And he let everyone know it. He didn’t think twice about arguing with customers or chewing out his staff—in public. I was on the receiving end of his flame-throwing tongue on more than one occasion.

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As a result, I was miserable. I didn’t just dislike my job; I hated my job. I dreaded getting up and going to work in the morning. I was never so happy as when the summer came to an end and I had to quit to resume my classes.

However, not everyone is so fortunate. Many people feel trapped in a job they hate but don’t believe they can quit. They feel stuck and, as a result, their life is miserable. Do you know someone like this?

If this describes you, here are seven strategies for making work more tolerable:

  1. Be thankful you are employed. This may sound trite, but gratitude is the antidote to frustration. You might not like your job, but being unemployed would likely be worse—especially in this economy. There are likely thousands of people who would be happy to have any job right now, even yours.
  2. Put your work in context. The concept of “job satisfaction” is relatively new. The truth is that work is hard. (That’s why they call it “work.”) Even at it’s best, there are going to be difficult days. Frustrations, setbacks, and even failure are part of life. Don’t be surprised; accept the bad with the good.
  3. Determine the source of your dissatisfaction. Is your problem the work itself? Or do you feel overwhelmed, because you just have too much of it to do? Maybe you work for a difficult boss? Or perhaps you don’t like your commute or the working environment? It’s important to identify the source of your frustration, so you can work on a plan to change it.
  4. Find someone to talk to. I am not talking about finding someone who will listen to you complain. This won’t help you or them. It will only make both of you miserable. Instead, you need an empathetic, non-judgmental friend—a mentor, perhaps—who will hear you out and help you objectify the problem so you can address it constructively.
  5. Fix what you can fix. Unless you simply enjoy being miserable (and I have met people like this), you need to put together an action plan to change things for the better. You might not be able to change everything, but you can, no doubt, improve some things. Maybe you can transfer to another department, reduce your workload, establish better boundaries, or something that will make a tangible difference.
  6. Use your job to polish your character. Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (i.e., the fruit of the Spirit from Galatians 5:22, 23) don’t just happen. They are forged in the crucible of difficult circumstances. Very little happens when everything is going your way. The important stuff happens when it’s not.
  7. Encourage a co-worker. Sometimes it helps to get the focus off yourself. It’s not all about you (or me). If you’re discouraged, chances are someone else is, too. Treat them as you want to be treated. Engage in a random act of kindness. Provide a listening ear. Remind them of what is ultimately true about them. You might just find yourself encouraged in the process.

If you really can’t stand your job, and you have done through the above steps, you need to make plans for a graceful exit. Life is too short to stay stuck in a situation that makes you miserable. Sometimes you don’t have a choice. But often, you do. You just need a plan and the courage to take the first steps.

Questions: Have you ever been in this situation? What did you do?
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  • janet

    Hello Michael,

    I have to say that I do not agree with this article. It seems as though the message is to be happy with being unhappy. I was laid off from a job that made me miserable nearly a year ago. I actually tried to get fired so that I could collect unemployment and pursue my dreams. I am now a CEO/executive director of a non profit museum. I set my own hours and salary! I'm a much happier person! And I love my job!

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  • Blair

    Michael,

    Thanks for another inspiring post. I have dealt with this personally and I must say that although it is a bitter pill to swallow, item number one is one of the things I used to stay content and put things in perspective. Another thing I always told myself is that we all have options. The options may not lead to something better, but they are always out there. We all have a choice.

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      Thank you for sharing this. It is so key. Feeling that you have a choice, is the key to empowerment. This is one of the things I loved about Man’s Search for Meaning by Victor Frankl. As a psychiatrist in a Jewish concentration camp, he discovered that he still possessed the power to chose his attitude. Powerful book.

  • http://daughtersheart.wordpress.com Amy

    I'm in this situation right now. I was unemployed for almost 2 years, and unfortunately, #1 doesn't actually apply to me. I'm earning less now that I have a job than I was on unemployment and I have much less time for ministry, writing and study. So right now, I'm using the time to learn to be satisfied wherever God puts me. Whenever I find myself grumbling about my job, I stop and simply say, "God, please teach me to be satisfied where you've put me" and move on. When He thinks I'm ready for bigger and better things, He'll move me, but until then, I want to learn to be content where I am, regardless of the circumstances.

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      Good for you. God notices. Nothing is wasted. Every major person God used in the Bible had some kind of wilderness experience that prepared them for even greater service.

  • http://larryhehn.com Larry_Hehn

    Years ago I worked a 3-month contract for a very difficult boss. As the director of operations, he actually admitted to me that he had no idea from one day to the next what was going to happen, and liked it that way! He said that he enjoyed the pressure of flying by the seat of his pants. Unfortunately, his lack of organization and leadership quickly became everyone else's nightmare. He was inconsistent, abrasive and spoke a lot of profanity. It was not pretty. Still, by God's grace I managed to follow the strategies you just mentioned and survive my (thankfully) brief term. Then, years later, I received a call from the same man out of the blue. He had lost his job, was looking for work, and asked for my assistance. While I could tell that losing his job had humbled him, there was something else different about him. I couldn't quite figure it out until he said that, in hindsight, he should have extended my contract. And that he had noticed my faith in action. And that he wanted to tell me about his new-found faith as well. What a humbling experience to know that God can work through your example in the nastiest of work environments to influence others. Great post, Michael.

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      Beautiful, Larry. We never know who is watching or the impact we may have. There is more at stake than we can see, that’s for sure.

  • http://www.facebook.com/jgallagher1 John Gallagher

    Michael,
    Thanks for this post. I have been walking through this with question with my coach at Building Champions. While 'hate' may have been a strong word, my work was clearly affecting my relationships outside of work (mainly with my family) and had to understand that better. I am excited about the changes happening…

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      It’s so good that you have someone to walk through this with. The coaches at Building Champions are the best!

  • http://theperkinsblog.net MichaelDPerkins

    Michael,

    I think gratitude is the best thing a person can do. Be glad that one is working.

    I have been in this situation before, I was a finance manager for a car lot and working 17 hours a day. My family life was in ruins. I walked in and tried to put in a notice and they asked me to work 6 months. I worked 1 month and told them that was all I had. Only time I've ever done something like that.

  • http://www.almasimanagingstress.blogspot.com/ Miriam Kinai

    To survive a job that you hate, you have to clarify why you are working there. Are you there to finish paying the mortgage or are you there to clock in 2 years experience at that reputable company for your resume or are you there to save a certain amount of money to start your business. Then, once you are clear, it is easier to put up with the problems because you have a goal and and you will even be a better employee because you are working to achieve your goals as well as your employer's goals.

    • http://twitter.com/ajeanne @ajeanne

      This is a good point, Miriam. If it's just to pay the mortgage or add to savings, then perhaps another job (if available) would work as well. If it's to add that particular company or experience to one's resume, then it can be worth it to stay in a job that is otherwise not ideal. I worked a couple of places when I was younger that provided me with practical experience that has been invaluable in later life. They weren't the best-paying jobs, but the experience was worth "paying some dues."

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      Very good advice, Miriam. If I had thought of that, I would have included it in my post!

  • richard

    Thanks Michael the good words of wisdom. I had made a forced career change due to unexpected layoffs at my former employer. I am now working again, but it is one of the hardest jobs of my life. Fortunately, I do see some gratification daily because of customers I am able to help, but there are many challenges most days, and sometimes I would like to scream!

    But I remember to count my blessings in having a job, and this post has encouraged me to look at the challenges as part of how God is shaping my character.

    Thanks again,

    rich

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      God, Rich. I am so glad.

  • http://www.peppervirtualassistant.com/ Kirstine Vergara

    I had a job that I hated so much, not because I was unhappy with what I was doing, but because it was so demanding that I barely spent time with my kid. I loved my job, but I also wanted to spend time with my son. My job was my livelihood, but I realized that it didn't matter how much I was earning as I was missing the most important moments in my son's life. I quit my job that very moment. Here I am 6 months after, I'm a full-time mom and a business owner. =)

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      Good for you. It is those kinds of choices that define us—and give us something valuable to share later.

  • http://www.bible-marriage-today.com Paschal

    Thanks for this great post.

    Presently I face this challenge, not just because I hate the job, but basically because
    the passion to focus full-time on the pursuit of my life's purpose is so obsessive, hence
    anything else that demands for my extra attention just feels like a trap.

    Already, my plan for graceful exit is on ground, and I'm sure it would be a reality soon
    enough.

    Thanks and God bless.

  • http://www.therextras.com BarbaraBoucher OTPhD

    Good advice. Passing this on to our CollegeSon.

  • http://keithjennings.typepad.com/keitharsis Keith Jennings

    I've found perspective, humility and encouragement in Viktor Frankl's book "Man's Search for Meaning." Reading his experiences as a Holocaust survivor makes it hard to hate anything about my life. I go to that among other resources when I find myself in an extended negative state.

    There's no doubt there's been jobs (and seasons within jobs) that I've hated. But even in those black holes, I've experienced serendipity through oddball relationships and discoveries. And in those times, when I'm most wanting God to point the way or give me a sign, I later discover that God was steering the whole time.

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      That book is one of my all-time favorites. In fact, before I read your comment, I provided the link to it above. It is such a powerful book.

  • primedialogue

    I really don't know anyone who enjoys a "job". I once had a part-time thing that was fun and always said, when this feels like a job I'm going quit. The weekend it became a job to me I quit. What I find is someone will get into a job, feel stuck because of circumstances and then let fear strap them in and the feeling of never getting out sets in. Instead one should think through the things you mention in this post.

    Brian

  • primedialogue

    (cont'd)

    The TRUTH is that God intended for us to work and not only work but be satisfied and fulfilled from our work. I have found that people put work into the post-fall-of-man category (meaning because sin entered the world we had to work), when in reality God created work before sin ever entered the world (see GEN chapter 2). Therefore He must have had a great designed plan for what work was suppose to be. But like many other things of our world sin distorts God's truth. But what happens is we settle for a job, find no meaning in it, not fulfillment, nothing that we really feels brings glory to God – and that creates dissatisfaction and we go searching for the next thing.

    If we change our lens through which we view work, it's amazing how many other things will work themselves out.

    Brian

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      This is an important point: God created work before the fall. So, you are right, it is part of God’s plan for our lives.

    • Jewelsniowa

      What do you mean by this….I have settled fo ra horrible job where my boss yells all the time in our faces and then acts fine an hour later… it hurts my feelings and make me feel like a loser.  How do I stay at my job and ignore her?  I don’t want to give up but it breaks my heart to work there.

  • http://www.yuzzi.com Rick Yuzzi

    In one of my first jobs out of college there was a shift of roles, and my position was moved under a new director. It was not long before I was miserable. I realize now I was reacting a bit like a wife who is being abused by her husband. What was I doing wrong? I had never had a problem with a boss before. I went on a family vacation to Hawaii for ten days and I remember thinking "How can I stay here? What could I do if I moved to Hawaii?". When I got back, his position shifted again, and I was moved under a much better boss. I felt sorry for the new person who was moved under him, because she also was miserable. It became clear that he was the problem, not me, and not the job. So, in my case, waiting it out made all the difference, although I was definitely looking for a way out.

  • http://blessingmpofu.com blessingmpofu

    i have been there. I endured one job for almost two years! i was initially there because it was the best available at that time. many times i felt like quitting mostly because of long hours and the seemingly unbearable loads. I am in a job i am more fulfilled in now. In retrospect, my character development in that job very aptly prepared me for the job i have now. there is now way i would've managed in present, pleasant and fulfilling job without the preparation i had then.

    if someone is is in a job they are not happy with, i concur with michael on his 1st point and would encourage you to wean from your experience, the benefits will yield results you never imagined in the future!

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      Yep. Nothing gets wasted. We may not understand the purpose—in fact, we may never understand it—but we can rest in the fact that God has a purpose for it.

  • http://www.givinguponperfect.com Mary

    I've been in this situation more than once. For the past two and a half years, though, I've actually tried to follow some of these tips. For starters, I made myself stay grateful to have a job. I took the job I'm in now because I was laid off when I had my daughter. I HAD to have a job, and this company provided one. That is crucial, no matter how overqualified or underpaid I think I am!

  • http://www.LaurindaOnLeadership.com Laurinda

    Really good post. I've been in this situation once. I stayed way too long. There was no grace left and it was the only time I suddenly quit. My manager was much like how you described, very VERY condescending. I would just emphasize if you do all of above then you MUST make plans to quit. Sometimes we feel trapped to stay in the job but it doesn't help you, your family or co-workers if you are that miserable.

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      Even if you don’t quit, it is important to know that you have options and COULD quit. Then at least, if you are choosing to stay, you are empowered.

  • http://www.bee-magic.com barbl

    This message describes my situation very well. I'm very happy to report that I have actually done all 7 steps over the yearsand although I'm not super excited to come into work every day I don't hate it and I have a good attitude. I'm particularly please how I was able to encourage another staff member to change her attitude too. I'm so thankful to have a job and often all I have to remember is that and I slip back into an attitude of gratitude.

  • Lynn Rush

    Wow. Great post. I've been through this. I fasted and prayed about it and came to the conclusion that I was where God wanted me. I might not have wanted to be there, but trusted God.

    It all worked out. It was in God's timing, though, not mine. But you know what he says about perseverance, right?

    Thanks for this post.

  • http://twitter.com/johnflurry @johnflurry

    Thank you for posting this. People need to hear this message, especially the gratitude. I realized a few years back that I was responsible for the place I had found myself in. I took the initiative to change my job. It was not until reading Chris Brogan and Julian Smith's Trust Agents, that I became fully aware of what had taken place. They used the term "change your game" meaning that we have the power to change our situations.

    Two years ago I felt challenged reading Tribes by Seth Godin. I was still doing tasks that were killing me. Instead of whining (and believe me, I've done plenty of that in the past and it does not work) I started a corporate blog and began communicating with what would soon become a thriving community for my company. Beyond that I continued to develop my own personal brand and business that I had started several years before, offering my expertise to anyone that would listen.

    So I am a witness that it is possible to change it all. If you can't then leave. Most of all remember how fortunate you are to have a job today.
    @johnflurry

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      Amen, John. Very good points.

  • Jennifer

    These are good suggestions. My question is, why would you have us looking down this young woman's blouse and then quote scripture at us?

    • http://blog.cyberquill.com Cyberquill

      Good one, Jennifer, but I'm not aware of any scriptural proscription against showing a little cleavage. Plus the sight makes dreary drudgery a bit more bearable.

      • RebeccaRobin

        ick

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      Are you serious? Never crossed my mind.

  • carrots12tn

    Yes. Recently. And I couldn't get out of there fast enough. Thankfully, my previous employer asked me to come back to work for her, so I was able to get the heck out of Dodge and escape my abusive boss. Now I have less unnecessary stress and my family likes having me around again. :)

  • http://twitter.com/obihaive @obihaive

    Great post. Something for me to keep in mind when I'm really dissatisfied with my work. But then again, it is "work" so it's not always fun, right?

  • http://dawnwesterberg.com/ Dawn W

    Having a job or a situation within the workplace that you hate is one of the best motivators for saving money. As I have explained to my son, the earlier you get into a habit of saving and living beneath your means, the better prepared you are to deal with the situation when it appears – and it will. I don't think I've met anyone who hasn't been in a job they hate at some point in their life. Because of debt, I felt trapped in such a situation. I focused on eliminating debt and finding ways to save. Accomplishing your savings goal and eliminating debt puts you in a position to walk away if the situation becomes too awful.

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      Very, very good points. Thank you.

  • http://mikehenrysr.blogspot.com Mike Henry Sr.

    Doing your job with excellence and looking for people to serve are slight twists on what you said above and others have commented. The hardest thing about that is it takes extra effort they're not paying you for and then you also have to spend additional effort figuring out a way to leave.

    But you never know when, because you are excellent in everything you do, that you may get the opportunity to change things or have a significant impact on others. Many see you deliver excellence in the madness and they will ask you how you do it. As others have quoted, those types of outcomes make the effort worth it.
    The harder the workplace, the greater the opportunities to stand out and make a difference.

  • http://blog.cyberquill.com Cyberquill

    One of the most depressing acronyms on the planet: TGIF.

    • http://michaelhyatt.com Michael Hyatt

      So true. If you find yourself saying this, I think it's a clue!

  • http://www.fourfecta.com Mitch Ebie

    I'm not sure what has changed with my generation, but I frequently meet people from my parents generation that talk about staying with one job for 20, 30 or 40 years. When they describe the jobs, I'm not sure that I could stay there for 1, 2 or 3 days! It is hard to know at what point we throw in the towel and when we just deal with it. This reminds me of a quote by Mark Twain, "love what you do and you will never have to work a day in your life." I think some people experience that but it is rare. I think your sixth strategy is worth more than we give it credit for.

  • http://www.seedmin.com James

    I have been there a few times. The end result was the same, had to move on. The problem each time was me. I was looking for more then the job could ever offer. My life is no longer based on a job, but on the finer things in life, such as God and family. Since my transformation, I have become more successful as well. Funny how these things work.

  • http://www.jlciii.net James Cartee

    When Jesus Prayed in the Jesus Prays in Gethsemane

    He went on a little farther and fell to the ground. He prayed that, if it were possible, the awful hour awaiting him might pass him by. “Abba, Father,” he cried out, “everything is possible for you. Please take this cup of suffering away from me. Yet I want your will to be done, not mine.”
    Mark 4:35-36

    I once heard in a sermon that when you fall to your face before God you have nowhere else to fall. You can only rise up. I believe that God is humbled when we realize we need everything from him. When you have an attitude of “Your will” and “not mine,” I think you will be mesmerized by the results. You relinquish control to the one person who has control over everything. You become free in faith if you commit to His will because you have let go in a realization that some things are just not worth stressing out about.

    Right now I am currently undertaking a writing project of my own. At first it was really difficult, but as I really sought the face of God, peace and patience soon resulted. I was centered vertically (heavenwards) because God and I were working together, and then I was centered here in my workspace and daily lives horizontally (in the earthly realm) as a result of seeking God first. When I gave my attention to the one thing that mattered, doors started opening, and suddenly not only did I start enjoying my work a little more, God soon was doing much of the work for me.

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  • http://www.hard-lessons.com Dick Wells

    Your 7 suggestions are practical, realistic and effective. I also think it is possible to have have passion for your job even when you hate the task. Focus on these three things: #1-passion for personal excellence. It is not likely you will escape from a bad job by doing a bad job. Always remember that the most important job you will ever have is the job you have. #2-passion for people. If you want to become a leader you have to have passion for people. You don't lead machines, you lead people. #3-passion for honoring God in your work. If you are a believer, you are putting God on display in the workplace. Remember, "whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of Jesus." It is great to have a job you love, but when you don't, it's not an excuse to become a slacker.

  • http://desiredesigndestiny.com Dr David Patton

    Hi Michael,

    Another good post with lots of wisdom and food for thought.

    I was surprised by the comment "The truth is that work is hard. (That’s why they call it “work.”)". Whilst I agree that we have made work hard as you stated in your post, I am not convinced that this is how it is meant to be, could be or even is for some. Speaking from my own experience and I am sure other successful people, work is a pleasure and a joy and definitely not hard or even feels like work. However I do believe that I have found what I am designed and called to do. Sure this requires effort but I wouldn't describe it as hard – I grow and develop as a person through my work but that for me at least doesn't make it hard.

  • http://www.noveljourney.blogspot.com Gina Holmes

    Great advice. I've been in jobs I've loved and ones I hated and both did much for my character. The leaving gracefully when you can is really the key. I've had to stick it out years but God uses all things for the good of those who love Him. He's proven that to me again and again. Thanks Mike.

  • Mary Branson

    I have to disagree with this as well….I have worked 10 years for a company which last summer, posted EVERY employee's salary online. I have 2 degrees and have done a good job; at least my employee evaluation shows this…however, after looking at the salaries I discovered that I am the lowest paid employee on the floor. Others with only high school degrees (or GEDs) and only 3 years tenure, make anywhere from $3,000 to $10,000 a year more than me! HR's comment? "They were hired at a higher rate!" Why am I being "punished" for 10 years service? I've been to HR and my manager to discuss this with no results. I only wish I could quit!

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  • mehmet ayözcan

    I am 51 years old. I have changed or to be forced to change my job at least 11 times up to now. In other word, at least 2 and 3 year period, I  changed my job. In each case, in changing job period, I have encoureged myself, I say myself that you are the perfect, but the bosses does not understand your perfect situation. In this way, my salary always was increased by me. I have changed so much job ,but my salary is always better than the previous one. My suggestion is that ıf you loose your job, you will always have a better oportunity as compared with the previous one.  If you beleive yourself, everyhing will be seen to you easy and enjoyment.
    Mehmet from Turkey

  • mahmoud maher

    hi michael,
    it represent my current state,after 18 month suffering from job after i graduated from faculty,1st this work will engage u with alot of ideas may u were not intersted in it that will take ur time and effort so u forget ur main dream.
    2nd more u continue in work,time pass  i have zoom picture for my failure as i see what i want and cant get it.
    so i decided to lose something now ,to have what i dream(powerful failure).
    maher

  • Marti

    I’m currently thankful to be working, as I had faced layoffs in this economy.  Working is definitely better than being unemployed (single mom with a mortgage and obligations) but my current job is the hardest, most unappreciated and go-nowhere job I’ve ever had — and I have zero job security.  I’m always stressed and scared.  My profession of corporate recruiting has been hit so hard in this economy and I am unable to find other work.  Your post has inspired me to categorize my job as just that — it’s a job.  It doesn’t define me.  I will ask God what he has to teach me in this situation and realize that this is perhaps my time in the wilderness.  He is preparing me for something better, and I will be totally open to it when he shows me what blessings he has for me — in his time, not mine.

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  • Kimberlyrosecueva

    i am so miserable in my current job. I tried some of the steps in this articles. But I really don’t like my job, the environment and my boss. it seems that there is no reason for me to go to work.  i believe that the only thing that could make my life better is quit on the job.

  • Jared Heldt

    I am in a tough situation, not only am I in a job I don’t like, but I also have health problems to deal with as well. I never intended to work there so long either. I got my two year associates degree but thought that after I graduated I would get a job in the career field I got my degree in. Unfortunately that didn’t happen, I found out through an internship that to be honest at least for me was one of the worst summers of my life, that it wasn’t what all the advisers and what people led me to believe. I’ve worked at my current job a total of six years, I quit for a time to go through my internship and also finish up my degree. 

    I currently have other plans but until my health problems/issues get fixed, which are very troublesome and problematic ( I have brain fog and a lot of fatigue, confusion, TMJ, and have gained back weight over time that I had lost). I feel like the job is slowly killing me. I’ve made a few friends and know a few people but due to some harrassment/rudeness by some employees about the health conditions and some even before I had them im not even the same person I was before. I feel ostracized and feel isolated and alone, and I was never like that in high school, and even among my friends im still the jokster of the group and like to joke around. 

    Luckily a boss that was quite hard on me quit and things are getting better. I still have a lot of anger and aggression towards the place I work as well though. They don’t give raises and in my job or occupation since it was originally a part time job I don’t get any benefits. I feel like im being taken advantage of and if I had more time off and money I would be able to fix my health problems much quicker and easier. I’ve been working on making money on my own and even thinking of writing a book about some of the things ive experienced over the past couple of years. I’ve tried to reach out to some employees as least one female coworker who has been kind to me in the past and even tried to get me a kitten for my birthday but im not always able to talk to her at work and outside of work I haven’t done much with her, but don’t want to drag her down with me for my problems. I think she may be having her own problems as well. 

  • Evin Wilkins

    The advice in this article is what prevents people from moving forward and finding something that they might truly be happy with. “Be thankful you are employed.” Sure however it’s NOT a reason to suck it up and stay in a job that you hate. NOT good advice at all…horrible, horrible article. I hope the author isn’t currently coaching people with this crap.

  • tinacaldwellwildwood@gmail.com

    What an excellent article…..well done!