When bad things happen, it’s natural to ask questions like, “Why did this happen to me?” or “What did I do to deserve this?” The problem with these questions is that they are unproductive and disempowering.
The bottom line is this: you can’t always choose what happens to you, but you can choose how you respond to those situations. This is where our real power—and our real freedom—is found.
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Here are four steps—the ABCDs—for becoming more intentional with your response when you experience pain or setback.
- A: Acknowledge the pain.
- B: Be with it.
- C: Have compassion on yourself.
- D: Do something different.
As difficult as the pain or the setback might be, if we look back on our lives, most of us would admit that these times are often followed by tremendous growth and blessing.
- Chris Christensen asked, “What do you think about the question, ‘How do we keep this from happening again?”
- Don Suess asked, “How can see with the eye of faith when you become shipwrecked by a catastrophic loss?”
- Joan Harrison asked, “What do you think about the question, ‘Why have I attracted this into my life?’”
- John Richardson asked, “How can you tell when something bad happens if it is really good?”
- Mike Skiff asked, “When someone close to you experiences pain or heartache, how can you respond graciously in a way that is truly helpful?”
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Question: Consider a recent painful experience or personal setback. How would you have responded if you had to do it all over again?