How Can We Solve the Man Problem in the Church?

This is a guest post by Patrick Morley, author of The Man in the Mirror, one of the bestselling men’s books of all time. I had the privilege of publishing that book in 1989 and even came up with the title. For more than 20 years, Pat has led a successful men’s ministry called Man in the Mirror. It is committed to helping pastors and churches equip men for success in every area of life. And now, MITM is hiring. Please help us get the word out!

Everyone knows we have a “men problem.” You can hear about it on CNN, read about it in the New York Times, and watch the destruction it creates on Dr. Phil.

The stats are jarring. For example, 80 percent of men are so emotionally impaired that not only are they unable to express their feelings, but they can’t even identify their feelings. The collateral damage is staggering. One-third of America’s 72 million children will go to bed tonight in a home without a biological dad.

But perhaps the greatest cost to the physical absence of dads is the practical absence of moms. Essentially, one person must now do the work of two. A young woman said, “When my mom and dad divorced, I didn’t just lose my dad. I lost my mom, too, because she had to work long hours to support us.”

There’s a story in the social sciences about a villager who went down to the river one day to get water. He saw a drowning baby floating by and rescued him. The next day the villager went back and rescued two babies, the next day four. The villager recruited others to help, and soon all the villagers spent every day rescuing drowning babies from the river. But no one ever asked, “Why are the babies in the river?”

We have lots of ministries and social programs that deal with the consequences of men failing—teenage crisis pregnancy centers, prison ministries, and rehab programs. Of course, we’ll always need pregnancy centers and prison ministries. But wouldn’t it be great if we could go upstream and devote some resources to help men get it right before there were “babies in the river?” Cancer treatments are essential, but how much better to prevent cancer in the first place?

How do we solve the men problem? I thank God that forty years ago a few men in my church saw a young husband and father who desperately needed to be discipled—and took action. I will be forever grateful.

We know there are men in churches all across this country who are also passionate about discipling men. But they need help. That’s why Man in the Mirror has created the exclusive position of Area Director to help churches in their communities more effectively disciple men. How?

We’re hiring 330 Area Directors between now and the end of 2012—one for every 1,000 churches.

Are you, or do you know someone, who would make a great Area Director? You can learn more here. And please help us get the word out: Man in the Mirror is hiring!

Question: What would a Man in the Mirror area director make possible for your community? You can leave a comment by clicking here.
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