How to Confront Someone Who Offends You (Or Others) Without Ruining Your Relationship [Podcast S02E05]

Welcome to Season 2, Episode 5 of the This Is Your Life podcast. In this fifth episode, Michele Cushatt and I discuss how to confront someone who has offended you or others without jeopardizing your relationship with them.

Confrontation is hard. Unfortunately, most of us avoid it. As a result our relationships suffer—or never reach their full potential. But there is hope.

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By following the right process, you can confront others and take your relationships to the next level. You have more alternatives than simply stuffing it or causing it to blow up. In this episode, Michele and I discuss:

  • How you should overlook an offense and when you should confront it.

  • Why it is crucial for you, as a leader, to talk to the offender not about the offender.

  • How gossip can be an easy—but dangerous—way to connect with others who are not part of the problem or part of the solution.

  • How failure to confront others can poison your culture create cynicism, distrust, and a lack of confidence in your leadership.

  • The kind of preparation you need to do before you ever sit down to talk to the other person.

  • Why it’s important to begin with the end in mind—and state it openly.

  • How to make sure your criticism is constructive rather than destructive.

  • How to communicate honestly without triggering resistance or defensiveness.

  • How to motivate the other person to change without resorting to threats or manipulation.

  • How to confront your boss without putting your position at risk.

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You can download a complete, word-for-word transcript of this episode here, courtesy of Ginger Schell, a professional transcriptionist, who does all my transcriptions.

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My favorite part of doing these podcasts is participating in the conversation they provoke. Each week, I ask one question. This week, it is this:

Question: Is there someone you need to confront? What do you want to remember from this episode in doing so?

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